Rejection by women

[Spacelord]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

So this has caused me to wonder: when have you other escapists ever experienced rejection, and more importantly: what was the 'official reason'?

 

[AkJay]

I've experienced nothing BUT rejection, enough to know that they don't want to be your friend, they just want you to leave them the hell alone.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Official reason: "I'm going to college next year." That was a dumping, as opposed to a rejection.

I still don't know what the real reason is, if that was the real reason, and how to stop the terrible, terrible pain.

Life is good.

 

[FlyAwayAutumn]

No I have not experienced rejection and despite what you may think, I am infact that good. Also the "I like you, but as a friend" it just means she doesn't like you enough to date you or whatever all I can say is "Keep at it."

 

[The_Healer]

Can't say I have experienced this.

You poor bastards.

 

[Frankydee]

Well that's odd because I've never actually asked a girl out... I've always just sort of gotten along with them and dated a few.

I recall getting dumped though because apparently she and I were two completely different people. Which sets off my bullshit detector when after a year of dating, she suddenly gets engaged to a guy she only knew for a few months.

 

[ma55ter_fett]

Means your not getting into her pants.

As for the second half of your question, I've never had problems with rejection since I am way to shy to ever ask in the first place. When it comes to women I'm gutless.

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

I would imagine many nerds/geeks/Agent 51 deformities such as I, felt rejection many times... Women are hard to read mostly, and logically I would put down that either shes doesn't like you or actually does wanna stay friends, usually out of self interest to another male specimen of this sad world.
Official reason why i was put down... out of my league, seems prep girls rubbed me the right way I guess, sadly most of them have a Low IQ. -.-

 

[lostclause]

Exact same thing as you OP except that was the real reason for breaking up, and we still are friends.

 

[Aqualung]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

I've given a few guys that response before. You know what it means?

She likes you, but just as a friend.

That's it. Forget about her and move on.

Anyway, I usually let the guys come to me, so I don't really have rejection stories..

 

[Numb1lp]

I hate the friend thing. Why don't they just say what they mean.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

I've never gone after a girl, so I'm never been rejected. Also to answer yoru question, I think she much rather see you as a friend to have fun with rather then the one that she'd spend her life with.

 

[BonsaiK]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

So this has caused me to wonder: when have you other escapists ever experienced rejection, and more importantly: what was the 'official reason'?

I answer the question in the Relationship Problem Thread which is here: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=12#3603841 and it's worth pointing out the existence of that thread in this one because I have a funny feeling that a few of you folks who are posting here could find it useful.

To answer the other half of the question, I've been rejected tons of times for all sorts of reasons. I tend not to remember the reasons that are given though, because it's usually not something I can change and half the time I know I'm not getting fed the real reason anyway.

 

[Arsen]

IF she does not give you the chance to elevate the friendship can she really be considered a friend? That's what a relationship is, a bond between friends taken to a higher level, not something attained by mere physical characteristics.

Everytime a woman says "I like you as a friend" you aren't really a friend. She uses you for her simple needs then gives herself to whatever else she can get. She selfishly aims for that better looking guy and all that shabazz just because she can.

The thing that angers me is that I view those who hold my similar opinions to be special people. The thing that upset me profoundly was that she didn't view those reasons as above everything else a typical hot chick needed.

I felt indignant for quite some time. Over time we drifted apart, she chose him over me...and anger ensued. I am not here to please I am here to be accepted for who I am. It is her who lowered herself to the level of someone whose [insert quality here] was perceived as below mine at the time. Don't fill that in with something immature, I am being serious here.

 

[commodorejohn]

The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

Well, taken at face value, that would seem to suggest that she, you know, likes you as a friend, but not as a potential significant other. Is there something confusing about that idea?

 

[LINKXIII]

I've experienced nothing BUT rejection, enough to know that they don't want to be your friend, they just want you to leave them the hell alone.

The worst part is when they lie and then they spend all their spare time making up rumours about you.

 

[zohmbee]

I've never rejected anyone, since I'm not exactly sought after. I'm kind of the freak around here. I was rejected by my first crush, the reason being that there "wasn't enough chemisty".

It was weird, since the week before, we had been talking about how perfect we would be for each other. Oh well.

 

[FinalHeart95]

I have an uncanny ability to get stuck in the friend zone as soon as I meet a girl, so I rarely have this problem.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

I have an uncanny ability to get stuck in the friend zone as soon as I meet a girl, so I rarely have this problem.

Mine is of being able to be hated or at least disliked at first impressions (not just girls, it happens with guys too - I think it's because I sound like I'm being contemptuous, when in fact that's just how I talk), then I become the unhateable friend. Always, the unhateable friend.

 

[badgersprite]

Ironically, the only women I've ever been turned down by are ones I'm not interested in. =P Because, of course, the fact that I'm polite to other people and generally friendly obviously means I'm attracted to you! Then again, maybe they're just arrogant and think everyone who likes women is attracted to them. oO I don't know, all the women I've been attracted to have been really cool about it. Either, they like the attention & feel safe enough with me to stay friends, or they return the affection. It's pretty neat. ^ ^