Relationship Deal-Breakers

[Caliostro]

One of my main deal breakers is super simple. Smoking. Done and gone, perhaps a one night stand and outta there.

And in fact, close minded people are a problem for me........

Sorry to pick this up dude, but that's pretty fucking shallow AND close minded. Like you can't have a relationship with a smoker. :S

I'm the same. And I'll give you a simple breakdown of why:

First, it's absolutely disgusting, I'm not sure who stuck in whose head that this shit is anywhere close to "sexy", but smelling like sewage and yellow teeth isn't my definition of sexy. Might be Gollum's definition (ya know, that troll like creature from Lord of the Rings)... Not mine.

Second, it's unhealthy, to you and the ones around you. I honestly don't care if the average person puts a gun between their teeth and goes "Jackson Pollock: Hardcore version" on the walls, but I honestly can't feel in love with someone who's stupid enough to kill themselves like this, and to injure other people's health in the process. Whenever someone passes by me smoking, be it a man, woman or child, I have this deep urge to kill them in the most horrible way I can conceive in that time and place... And I honestly need to use every bit of me not to when their smoke gets to me... You wanna kill yourself? Fine, go mainline heroine, cocaine, or just take a shot of bleach, but don't get other people involved.

Third, it points to a weak personality. Smoking, like all other drugs, is basically a "fake" relaxant for people who are too weak to deal with shit. Play a videogame, do sports, have sex, go out with your friends, or, god forbid, DEAL with your problems, whatever. To me doing drugs is the equivalent of standing on a ledge and shouting "I quit, I'm weak". I generally couldn't care less regarding the average person, but I can't love a person like that.

Lastly, and regarding this post:

Potential GF that smokes vs. potential GF that has a BIG credit card problem, gambling problem, eating problem. I know who'd I'd go for.

None. I'm not so shallow as to NEED a gf regardless of how flawed she might be. I only want a relationship with someone I'm in love with, and I can't be in love with someone that does things I can't respect. I find my gf to be perfect, which is why I love her. I find it difficult to conceive the idea of having to pick between the least flawed of 2 if they're both heavily flawed... It's like saying "would you rather have a gf that thinks farting on your face to wake you up is funny, or one that thinks kicking you in the balls to wake you up is funny?". Neither really, I rather drill my own knee caps.

I only want a relationship with someone if I LOVE them, if I don't love them I'm fine alone.

 

[ccdistancerunner]

Deal Breakers:
history of cheating, smoking, and lack of intelligence. I like to have deep conversations with everyone that I like and love. I say once a cheater always a cheater. Smoking is one habit that you chose to do. That's fine with me, just stay away from me.

 

[cheatking]

*Hops on band wagon*

Fave film: 'Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels' or 'Pulp Fiction'
Fave band: Snow Patrol
Fave book: Wee Free Men by Terry Pratchett. I prefer these series to the diskworld ones
Fave colour: Red

Back to the topic at hand *shifts through all the other posts...Ah here it is*
I haven't had major relationship changers, except when I was talking to a girl in a bar and after asking her age got the response of 14, but breaking it off with someone because of the fact they don't read and like crappy films is a bit shallow.
I like meeting someone different because they can teach you new things and you can teach them new things. Also if I ever met someone excatily like me I'ld either be A) suspcious that they was a man or B) Driven crazy by their over inflated ego and the fact they have to get the last word in on everything. (I didn't put many points in charasma when I rolled on life)

 

[AntiAntagonist]

Film: Ikiru
Band: ... don't listen to bands, and don't have a "fave" musician (Electronica in general)
Book: 1984 or a random book from Discworld
Color: Green or Orange

I can do something similar with the above information, or with favorite Kevin Smith film. I like it a lot, but I do it via intuition, cold reading, and plot analysis.

 

[The_Deleted]

A deal breaker for me would be if she didn't want kids. I think I could proably deal with anything outside heavy drug / binge drinking. People are all kinds of everything and can suprise you given time. But, obviously, if there's no spark to begin with it's irrelevant.

Favourite Film: ...tricky one...RoboCop
Favourite Band: Led Zeppelin (All Time: Otis Redding)
Favourite Book: The Shadows of The Wind: Carlos Ruiz Zafon
Favourite Colour: Purple

 

[DannyDamage]

One of my main deal breakers is super simple. Smoking. Done and gone, perhaps a one night stand and outta there.

And in fact, close minded people are a problem for me........

Sorry to pick this up dude, but that's pretty fucking shallow AND close minded. Like you can't have a relationship with a smoker. :S

I'm the same. And I'll give you a simple breakdown of why:

First, it's absolutely disgusting, I'm not sure who stuck in whose head that this shit is anywhere close to "sexy", but smelling like sewage and yellow teeth isn't my definition of sexy. Might be Gollum's definition (ya know, that troll like creature from Lord of the Rings)... Not mine.

Second, it's unhealthy, to you and the ones around you. I honestly don't care if the average person puts a gun between their teeth and goes "Jackson Pollock: Hardcore version" on the walls, but I honestly can't feel in love with someone who's stupid enough to kill themselves like this, and to injure other people's health in the process. Whenever someone passes by me smoking, be it a man, woman or child, I have this deep urge to kill them in the most horrible way I can conceive in that time and place... And I honestly need to use every bit of me not to when their smoke gets to me... You wanna kill yourself? Fine, go mainline heroine, cocaine, or just take a shot of bleach, but don't get other people involved.

Third, it points to a weak personality. Smoking, like all other drugs, is basically a "fake" relaxant for people who are too weak to deal with shit. Play a videogame, do sports, have sex, go out with your friends, or, god forbid, DEAL with your problems, whatever. To me doing drugs is the equivalent of standing on a ledge and shouting "I quit, I'm weak". I generally couldn't care less regarding the average person, but I can't love a person like that.

Lastly, and regarding this post:

Potential GF that smokes vs. potential GF that has a BIG credit card problem, gambling problem, eating problem. I know who'd I'd go for.

None. I'm not so shallow as to NEED a gf regardless of how flawed she might be. I only want a relationship with someone I'm in love with, and I can't be in love with someone that does things I can't respect. I find my gf to be perfect, which is why I love her. I find it difficult to conceive the idea of having to pick between the least flawed of 2 if they're both heavily flawed... It's like saying "would you rather have a gf that thinks farting on your face to wake you up is funny, or one that thinks kicking you in the balls to wake you up is funny?". Neither really, I rather drill my own knee caps.

I only want a relationship with someone if I LOVE them, if I don't love them I'm fine alone.

There are so many points to your statement that are just 'fat kid vs. tiger' retarded that I'm not even going to do the decent thing and point them out. You obviously don't like smoking personally so you find it upon yourself to belittle anyone that does until they all agree with you.[/discussion with you]

AntiAntagonist: I am waving goodbye to this thread because I'm bored of the ignorant, high and mighty, up their own ass approach like the guy I quoted. I appreciate your intelligent discussion and shall respond to you via PM.

Bye everyone else, take it easy.