Seriously, why do some guys pull this shit?

[Gothproxy]

Sounds like a lonely man, or a serial rapist. If you don't accept him things may get very ugly.

Assumptions like that are part of why some socially awkward teenage males are so afraid of interaction with the opposite sex; they're afraid that simply looking at a woman, let alone talking to them, will result in them being accused of being a stalker or some such. For that reason I used to have such trouble making eye contact with women that, ironically, they thought I was creepier for it.

If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.

WHOA WHOA WHOA!!! I did NOT write ANYTHING about serial rapist or anything like that!!!! You have absolutely NO right to change what was written to suit your tastes and then try to pass it off as a quote by that person. Figure out where you went wrong with your 'quote' before things get nasty.

The hell?! I'm sorry, I meant to quote the post above yours but somehow got the quote tags mixed up.

Well ok then. Though I couldn't find a post that said that either before or after my post. Meh. Though you SHOULD really proofread your post before hitting that little button. Just sayin' But no foul.

 

[aeroblaster]

Question, was he canadian?

 

[SidingWithTheEnemy]

Wait. . . Amy, is that you? I'm sorry! I just really like you! Can't blame a guy for trying right .

Wonderful! Thank you!

Back on topic:
He is jealous and wants you, so what was the problem again? He probably jerks off with your mental picture in his head. That's nothing new or unheard of. If he continues to be bothersome just grab your new love and start violently kissing and make out with him while that one watches...

 

[TheDooD]

he just said "im horny"? out of nowere?
he has some serios issues

I heard quite a few girls and guys say this and they didn't have any issues besides they were horny. At lease they wasn't beating around the bush and all that crap they said what they felt. In all I can respect that.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Yeah man everyone sucks but you. Realizing that is a huge step towards maturity.

That's precisely what I said. Not 'I hate most of other guys and here are legitimate reasons why', simply 'Everyone sucks but me'. Great job encapsulating that, but I guess leaving the rest of my post in would have been contradictory to your barely legitimate point.

Fine, all/most men suck but you.

And no they aren't legitimate reasons, you're just making blanket assumptions which is immature.

Once again, I didn't say all. I'm not sure how many times I'm going to have to reiterate that before it gets through so I'll make this one the last time to save myself in any case.

Blanket assumptions which have proven time and time again to be correct, and as much as you're blowing the 'immature' whistle you haven't actually said that I'm wrong (which I'm not) so your point is lost, really.

 

[Bat Vader]

A man can only be friends with a woman if he doesn't find her attractive.

Period.

Women need to understant that, and stop looking for friendship in heterosexual males unless they think it could go further as well. Poor guy probably thought you were a little shy and single and available, he's tried the long game, and you go and destroy his dreams by shacking up with someone else.

Next time save the awkward destruction of your friendship and depression of someone you supposedly might care about, save the 'like a brother' conversations for your brother, and stop relying on single men who you don't want to date for emotional support.

Seriously, all the girls here who have these male friends following their every move on facebook, or going to the same bars in the grim hope that they'll get a drunken snog - cut that loose, leave them alone to find someone on their level. Women really don't understand this - the least you can do is hook them up with a single friend, take the edge off, and send out the message that your happy to see them happy, and not sitting like a dick on a rope just in case you get really really desperate.

Most of all, you are not the victim here, you are doing alright, just think about what its like for your 'creepy' friend to watch you have the life that he'd give anything to be part of.

I doubt his dreams are destroyed. There are other women out there in the world. If he doesn't have the courage to go up and talk to them that is his loss. If I found out someone followed my every move on Facebook I would be really cheeped out. Why should they have to hook them up with a single friend? I would hate it and feel greatly offended if someone took control of my dating life like that.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

From personal experience, some guys are like that because they've become so frustrated with woman saying no to them every time, but will insist on dating a total fuckhead then use said first guy as an emotional tissue without any regard abut his needs/wants/desires etc etc.

Or more accurately, the guy was told no once, fixated on her because she's 'safe' and not going anywhere, opens himself up to such levels of emotional vulnerability that nothing she can do to avoid him hurting will work, and while she may make dating mistakes that have nothing to do with him, offers his friendship as a farce, hoping that familiarity will give him more chances to ask her out without asking her out.

I mean seriously, if she's said no to a relationship, and is seeing other people, she's not fucking leading you on. If you're offering your shoulder for her to vent her frustrations on, but aren't sincere about being a platonic friend rather than a suitor... you're the lying douche here, not her.

perhaps I didn't make myself clear:

[HEADING=2]some guys...[/HEADING]

 

[surg3n]

A man can only be friends with a woman if he doesn't find her attractive.

Period.

That's utter BS. People like you need to learn that your inability to keep sex out of things doesn't extend to everyone.

It's human nature, people like you need to look at the big picture and realise that sex is a constant, it affects everything humans do. Next time you meet a group of mixed sex friends, why not ask them how many of them have hooked up with each other. The truth is that being attracted isn't even an issue a lot of the time, often availability is the only real deciding factor. I'm not saying its a good thing, scientists could learn a lot about early man by studying groups of friends drinking together. If you did a cross reference of me and my friends when I was a teenager, well it'd look like a game of Kerplunk.

 

[Vladimir Stamenov]

I'm a bit like this guy 'cept i dont creep on people like that. The thing is i never had any female friends in preschool, elementary school and so on. And i find it hard to interact with anyone, without having some basis of conversation connected to games, book, anime or certain films. And as I live in a country where most people think video games are childish, haven't heard of anime and if they have they consider it childish and don't read books or watch a bit more intelligent films, I'm not that social. Not that im excusing myself for that. He MAY be like that, I dont know since i dont know him.
He may just really, really like you like how i like a girl but haven't told her coz there's no point because I know she doesn't and won't reciprocate my feelings. I did feel a sting (silly, right?) when I learned she had her first time with a close friend, but right now when I think about it i dont feel anything. Maybe it was just a crush that i've grown out of, I dont know.
And last but not least, some girls like to have guys they know like them around, to boost their confidence and ego a little. I'm not saying RinLittle did it, but to guys that have been in my situation any kind remark on anything of the sort can make them think you like them or that you could be together. Not that girls don't do it too, but it's rarer. It's sad I have this kind of knowledge, but I hope i've been a bit useful. As for the "i'm horny part" that's creepy. And besides im 17 and I hope I can get out of this introvertedness, but they guy is 30, I dont think he has any prospects at that. Just cut off contact with him entirely, like many people have said before me.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Sounds like a guy who has some emotional issues and clearly needs to get laid. He needs a woman who can put up with his shit long enough to straighten him out.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

-cut for size-

Ohh so you're not susceptible to reason, you're just relentlessly trying to prove...something, I don't know. I guess you really need this.

For one, if you know full well I didn't in any way mean all, then it isn't all/most is it. It's just: most. The fact that you cannot let slip the fact you tripped up there shows me why you're so butthurt about my post. The funny thing is, I wasn't even claiming what you seem to think I was. You've just got an idea and won't let it out of your head because fuck what I actually say, you must know what I was actually thinking. Well done you fucking mindreader.

 

[phazaar]

Not gonna read through, but I find the 'no job, and OMG no car' sentiment to be abhorrent...

 

[DracoSuave]

From personal experience, some guys are like that because they've become so frustrated with woman saying no to them every time, but will insist on dating a total fuckhead then use said first guy as an emotional tissue without any regard abut his needs/wants/desires etc etc.

Or more accurately, the guy was told no once, fixated on her because she's 'safe' and not going anywhere, opens himself up to such levels of emotional vulnerability that nothing she can do to avoid him hurting will work, and while she may make dating mistakes that have nothing to do with him, offers his friendship as a farce, hoping that familiarity will give him more chances to ask her out without asking her out.

I mean seriously, if she's said no to a relationship, and is seeing other people, she's not fucking leading you on. If you're offering your shoulder for her to vent her frustrations on, but aren't sincere about being a platonic friend rather than a suitor... you're the lying douche here, not her.

perhaps I didn't make myself clear:

[HEADING=2]some guys...[/HEADING]

Perhaps I didn't make MYSELF clear.

But apparently, the subtle insinuation was not apparent. Perhaps I was too subtle.

Ahem

"From personal experience, some guys are like that because they've become so frustrated with woman saying no to them every time,"

Or more accurately, the guy was told no once, fixated on her because she's 'safe' and not going anywhere,

"but will insist on dating a total fuckhead"

and while she may make dating mistakes that have nothing to do with him,

"then use said first guy as an emotional tissue without any regard abut his needs/wants/desires etc etc."

opens himself up to such levels of emotional vulnerability that nothing she can do to avoid him hurting will work...

...offers his friendship as a farce, hoping that familiarity will give him more chances to ask her out without asking her out.

SOME GUYS are assholes who have convinced themselves they are not assholes. SOME GUYS are douches like this. I don't know what bolding SOME GUYS has to do what what I said about them. SOME GUYS don't understand how points can be made.

 

[DracoSuave]

If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.

How is texting an acquaintance you don't really know that well that you're horny NOT creepy? Look, I dunno where you're from, but there's certain things you just don't do, because they are CREEPY. That is CREEPY. The guy did that CREEPY THING. The rational explanation is HE IS CREEPY.

 

[jawakiller]

Everybody does that. Especially young adults and teenagers in horror movies...

Are you living in a horror movie? O.O

My god.
No never means no. Words may say one thing that clearly contradicts said person's actions. And, like the old proverb goes, actions speak louder than words.