TRR said:
Here's what I've learned from personnal experience:
There is "having sex" and there is "making love"
there is a massive difference between these two acts
it is dire that you know and can recognize the difference
This (though replace "dire" with "vital)
I'm not exactly what most purists would call a moral man - I would be the first to admit I am possibly a tad too promiscuous.
But that's not because I'm some sort of screwed up pervert, Quagmire-style. It's simply because I've never been very good at committed relationships, and have decided to stay as far away from them as I can to avoid hurting someone really badly. (Trust me - it has happened. And it wasn't pleasant. We literally said the two things simultaneously;
HER:"I think I love you!".
ME: "I think we should break up..."
*Pause* "Oh")
There is nothing wrong with "putting it out there" in my oppinion. As long as the other party is fully aware of your intentions. I believe it is a recreational activity as much as something else.
While I can see people problems with this attitude, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I just follow the rules of being careful, making sure the girl knows what she's letting hersef in for, stay clean, and stay as far away from dedicated relationships as possible.
Nobody gets hurt, we all have some fun and if you're any good she'll bring a friend next time...
