Sexual Preference = Racism?

[Eisenfaust]

ok, so i've read/replicated this psychological experiment (obviously not perfectly, given the experiment) where a white male, who usually found white females attractive moved in with eskmios for a year (or something). by the end of the year, he found himself more attracted to eskimo females that white females (and all this is incredibly dummed down and blunted for simplicity... so anything anyone perceives as undercurrents of racism there, go away)...

essentially, people are attracted to the norm and what they experience/see the most becomes the norm, etc, etc... essentially, attraction is based on expierence... this may or may not have anything to do with the op, but depending on your personal situation, probably...

for an added bonus, the actual studies are Bernard Frink & Ian Penton-Voak, 2002, Gillian Rhodes, 2003, Rhodes & Zebrowitz, 2002, Rhodes & Tremewan, 1996, Rhodes & Yoshikawa, et al., 2002... hoorah for 1st year psych courses...

 

[Terminal Blue]

In my mind, saying 'I'm not attracted to black women' basically equates to saying 'I haven't met a black woman I was attracted to'. It's only racist if it's a malicious absolute along the lines of 'I would never be attracted to a black woman because blackness itself is bad/ugly', but most people when they say things like that are only ever referring to personal experience.

Being a bit of a closet goth, I like my pale skinned girls. Even a tan is a bit of a turn-off for me. I also have standards way above my station so my taste in women excludes 99% of the population (I'm sure they cry themselves to sleep every night too). Once people get past the desperate phase of liking whatever comes along, initial attraction can be very brutal. That's why it's important not to overplay it so hard as it's not a big deal. If you find someone attractive because because you've got to know them and something about them hits the right spot it's just as good as if someone makes you want to drool over them at first sight.

And god.. since this has gone into political correctness. Seriously people.. grow up and get over the idea that you should be able to say whatever you want because you're special. If you walk up to someone in the street and insult them and get punched in the face you're not a champion of free speech, you're an obnoxious douche. So yeah, you can't rip on minorities in public media and get away with it like in the good old days, go cry me a fucking river.

 

[Zealous]

No. Your preferences of a certain race over another sexually do not in any way equate to racism, you just prefer a certain race's characteristics over another's. It doesn't mean you hate them, just that you find them less sexually attractive than the other race.
Now if your preference of a certain race over another is born out of hate for the non preferred race, then it is racism, but only then.

 

[PrimoThePro]

Sexual attraction is not a choice. It's like accusing a man of being a male chauvinist because he's gay.

Funny how the first post in the thread after the OP is almost always the best answer. We all are who we are, and there is nothing anyone can do to change that.
OT: I myself would not choose a black woman for sex, until, like you, I got to know them. I hope you don't lose your friend, mr. TallGuy.

 

[Tourette]

I am white but I prefer women of colour whether they maybe Latino, Black or Asian.
Am I racist to my own ethnicity?

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

That's retarded.
Because you don't find a person attractive doesn't mean you hate them because of their race.
It's plain retarded. Everybody has a different idea of what's beautiful and if you don't meet then too bad. It's not racist to think one type of person is more attractive than another.

Hence the different flavors people come in. The world is an ice parlor grab a spoon and try all the flavors not to mention the different toppings you can find.

 

[Luke5515]

That would be like saying your sexist because you're not attracted to men.
Just go with a line that I hold near and dear to my heart.
"I'm not racist, but apparently my dick is."

 

[ThatTallGuy]

I know this is hardly the kind of conversation to have at four in the morning, and I probably shouldn't have said anything. I just fear I may have lost my greatest friend forever.

I know we're probably both blowing the whole thing way out of proportion, but what are your views on the subject?

POLITICAL CORRECTNESS!!! The bane of the developed world. The cancer of civilised communities. If I could visualise 'Political Correctness' as a "thing", I would visualise it as a huge, steaming, pile of turd that simply won't flush around the U-bend of a toilet.

It is your sworn duty to save your friend from this horrendous monstrosity that is Political Correctness. Of course i know nothing of the closeness between you and your friend, but from my shortly formed opinion of her, I would say I dislike her greatly. My view on the subject: she is in the wrong and you are in the right. Do not fret and you should wait for her to apologise to you. Then, while you are at it, take a picture of yourself in a group-shot with a person from every single ethnicity and minority that you can. Put on a huge great big smile and look content with life. CHEEEESSSE! Political correctness OWNS the western world.

So, I should pull a Stephen Colbert and have a cardboard cutout of myself made that's smiling and giving a thumbs up with one arm outstretched to go around someone's shoulder? Actually, that sounds kinda cool. But yeah, I'll sort this out with her the next time I talk to her, whenever that is.

 

[tthor]

wasn't there a topic exactly like this not long ago?

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Now then, I agree with what you said. And it isn't about being racist. People are naturally attracted towards whatever they grew up with. But further than that, they're often attracted to people who have characteristics of their parents (or, if you don't like your parents, the opposite characteristics of them). If your mom is white, odds are you'll like mostly white girls. If she were asian, you'd probably like mostly asian girls, etc. Whenever your with someone who has some key aspect of your parents that comforts you (or, again, the opposite of that aspect), there's a nerve in your chest that is stimulated. That's why we say, "You make my heart melt," because literally, there's a liquid released in your heart.

Outside of the matter, as far as I'm concerned, it's a preference thing. Similar to, "I prefer brunettes over blondes" or something like that. I'm sure you're like me: it's not that I'd never date a black woman, I just don't prefer them... kinda like I've only ever dated ONE blond.... I think I prefer black women over blonds actually, haha.

And girls are looking for, whether they admit it or not, someone like dad. And guys are looking for someone like dear old mom.

 

[zehydra]

Your girlfriend is wrong. You're not racist, you can't help if you're not attracted to black people.

 

[Rensenhito]

First of all, let's pin down "racism." Racism is the systematic oppression of an entire subset of society, based solely on the pigmentation of that group's skin. This may include, but is not limited to denial of the right to participate in government, segregation from other races, being seen as a "lesser" member of the social order, and, in extreme cases, violence.
You don't seem to be denying anyone their basic human rights (unless sex with you is considered a basic human right), so I'd say your best friend just has a very backwards definition of racism.

 

[Klarinette]

You can't control what you feel about who. You don't choose what you're attracted to. Racism is saying that you don't like black women because they're black, like it's a conscious decision.

 

[tthor]

SNIP

But the OP doesn't like black women because he does not feel they are attractive. That is actually saying that black people simply aren't as attractive as other races. That's racial superiority right there man.

He clearly feels that other races have superior looks to the black race.

I'd judge that as racism yeah. And I'd be pissed off if someone said something like that to my face and expected me to just sit there and accept it.

this truly upsets you? it doesn't seem any different than having a preference over stuff like blonde or brunette hair, or even preferring different makeup.

personally, i find i often don't feel attracted to girls with really dark skin. but i don't think its so much the skin color, as it is the common facial structure among women with dark skin, tho the dark skin might simply accentuate certain facial features. (this is not racist, merely artistic attributes, human preference, and common genetics)

 

[JordanMillward_1]

No, it's not racist, because unless it's an absolute that you would never ever like a black woman because she is black, all you are saying is that you have yet to meet a black woman you are attracted to, and since everyone is an individual, I'm sure there is one you'd gladly shag out there somewhere.

 

[Mechanix]

You can't control who you're sexually attracted to. If you don't like black chicks, who cares? You're girlfriend certainly shouldn't. It's not like you would treat them any differently as a person, unless you actually are a racist.

Me personally, I can find any race attractive. There's just a few that are harder to find the sexy ones.

 

[Lacsapix]

So...
if you are Hetro your a racist
if you are Homo your a racist
if you are Bi well okay thats good
its a bit extreme but its true considering what the word "racist" means.

 

[Kagim]

Humans are mentally wired to like people and things similar to themselves.

While obviously there are exceptions once you get to know the person on sight alone most people will not find attractive anyone very different from themselves. It's how we are wired. This used to help us differentiate from tribe to tribe.

So no. Not finding a black person attractive is technically more normal then to find them sexy. It's not racist unless you think of it like, "Black people are less attractive, I mean what do you expect from an inferior race?"

That. That's pretty damn racist.

 

[tkioz]

It's not racist at all, for example I find Asian women attractive in general, I don't find black women attractive as a general rule (there are some I find attractive), but reverse the gender and I find black men attractive (if I was going to go for a dude, top 3 on my list of hot dudes are black) but not Asian men...

It has nothing to do with race, some people just tick differently.

 

[sirkai007]

I think that attraction is culturally based and can be affected by personal choice. However this doesn't make you racist. Everyone equates Racism with not liking a particular race but it is a belief that your own race is superior to all others.