Sexuality / Being uptight

[Bloodstain]

2) Yes. I don't see the problem with it...it's natural and fun. You can talk about eating, can't you?

I saw this answer, and I have to ask, do you really see sex and eating in the same category?

I mean, eating is something every single person of every age does. It can be done in public, with family, with strangers, etc...

Sex is personal, usually not done in large groups, and is something kids (generally) know nothing about.

To me, that seems sort of like an apples to oranges comparison...

Nah. I don't see them in the same category, but you can and should be able to talk about both topics openly (the latter at least with friends).

 

[Doug]

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1.1) If I absolutely had to. I wouldn't be comfortable though.
1.2) a) Lack of space, b) warm body unpleasantly close, c) None of the benefits of having a lady in the bed, even if its just bullshit stories you make up about it afterwards.
2) Define 'openly' - seems abit vague.
3) Politely? Its not my place to shove sexuality into their faces without cause.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1.1) Yeah, sure. If need be, I wouldn't really mind it. As long as nothing sexual went down and we're all reasonably dressed. I'm not gay, and I know it, so its not like it matters to me.
1.2) -
2) Yes, yes I can. Ever since having a girlfriend who disliked talking about sex greatly, and never actually had sex with me, I am sick, absolutely sick, of people who can not talk about it openly OR don't want to participate in the act. Sexuality is another thing, its alright to be open with it, but don't flaunt it in front of me if you happen to swing the other way, or both ways. I don't make out in front of you, so don't do it in front of me.
3) Well, if there are up-tight people around, you probably won't like me all that much. Sorry. Thats just the way its going to be.

 

[Xcelsior]

1.1)Yes I have and I'm not bothered by it to be honest.
2) yep
3) I myself don't act any different around them, why should I change how I am just because some stuck up person doesn't like it.

 

[Julianking93]

1: Sure, why not? I shared my bed with someone when I went on a school trip one year. It was kinda nice, actually ^-^

1-2: N/A

2: I like to, personally. I don't really have anything that I find embarrassing to talk about so I have no problem talking about it.

3: I respect their opinion and personal views enough to refrain from discussing such matters as I know it will make them uncomfortable......though when I'm bored, I'll start talking about it just to fuck with them.

 

[Tharwen]

I have, on several occasions. The problem is that people make so many assumptions about what sleeping next to people actually entails. Once you add in a little 'I'm-not-gay-honest' reflex, you have a generally negative reaction to it. Of course, I'd prefer to have a bed to myself, but I'd never force someone off it so I could. Also, if you do any sort of sleeping outside (e.g. in tents), sleeping as close to the other people in your group as possible is very helpful in order to keep warm.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1: I would prefer not to though I could
1.2: I have slept alone for about 2 years now...call it habit
2: Not with family but who can?
3: I AM one of those up-tight people xD I dunno...I just try not talking about sex. There a lot of other stuff to talk about after all.

 

[Blitzkrieg64]

1.1: No problems from me.
1.2: N/A
2: Not really, it's just a subject I don't talk about a lot. I do once in a while but that's usually over the internet where I don't have to worry too much about what I say as long as no one knows me.
3: Not sure.

 

[someonehairy-ish]

1) I've crashed with all kinds of people after a drunken party... I wouldnt be too bothered by sharing a bed with another guy but it would have to be a fairly large bed. Being cramped next to a dude all night would be a definite no.
2) With someone im friends with and who won't get embarrassed by the conversation. I tend to kind of joke around the subject at first just to check that that this person isnt going to massively overreact or be all condemning, before giving anything much away. Its fun to talk about sex and Im generally open about it. Sexuality doesn't bother me either. I have friends of both genders who are straight, gay and bisexual and we discuss things quite a lot. Although discussions about gay sex make me cringe if someone tells me a detail i didnt really want to know...
3) By uptight what do you mean? If you mean frigid ill just not to talk to them about sex. If you mean condescending or something ill avoid the subject altogether.

 

[Mr S]

1.1) Yes, as long as he doesn't sleep completely naked or if he has a boner.
1.2) Nothing i guess.
2) Yes I can, though I am a virgin.
3) I try not to let them bother me too much.

 

[Hazard09]

1a: If the bed is big enough and I don't find the other person gross, yeah sure.

1b: ...

2: I don't have much problem talking about sex, but it's not always an appropriate topic to just bring up randomly.

3: I myself happen to be an up-tight person. I don't judge people based on their views about sex and I don't like being judged on my views.

 

[Mistermixmaster]

1.1) No
1.2) It's... just.. no. (I'm wierd like that, and think that only people who have feelings for eachother should... (yes, even without sex))
2) I dunno, haven't really had anyone to talk about it with
3) I'm gonna need more info before I answer this one... Define "up-tight people" for me please. =/

 

[Blind Sight]

1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex? -Have before, don't really care until they try to cuddle. Then I will destroy them.
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality? -I study fetish culture for fun, so I'd hope so haha. Also, because my parents a very uptight Catholics I've had to explain a lot of stuff about drugs, alcohol and sex to my teenage sister. If she went to university with the ideas that my parents gave her she wouldn't stand a chance.
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people? -The same way I normally do, if they got a problem with it well, that's their business, not mine. Yeah, my parents don't try to force me to go to church when I visit them anymore haha.

 

[Nietz]

1) Yes, I would share a bed with a dude. I have on numerous occasions done this. Once, we were four dudes(and one girl) in a bed, a big one. And I have done more than just "sharing" the bed with a dude(more than one dude, once).
2) See 1)
3) I don't really like to hang around people who are uptight. So I usually ask 'em for casual sex, that usually send 'em packing(sometimes it works).

 

[inflamessoilwork]

1.) Yes, I have no problem with it. There are no shenanigans going down, so who cares?
2.) I very openly talk about sex, I don't think it should be such a tabboo topic. Everyone does it, and it is actually good for you.
3.) Around those who are uptight I still talk openly about it, just to show them there's nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[Charli]

1) Sure
1.2)Nothing
2) Pretty much
3) I thought I WAS the uptight person (When it comes to myself) everyone else can do wtf they like. I don't have a problem with it

Unless the said person is feeling me up in the night, in which case I WILL kick them in the stomach. I honestly don't know what the problem is.