Sexuality / Being uptight
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1) me and my mates are so close we often sleep in the same bed (or next to each other on the floor) anyway. gotta keep most of your clothes on though. NO older men, especially suspicious looking ones, i just wouldn't be comfortable.
2) NA
3) Yeah sure, i'm not embarrassed about that sort of thing, its also quite interesting
4) I internally LOL because they're usually being unnecessarily uptight. i used to be like that and i managed to break out of it, though i do feel sorry for them if they've been brought up to hide natural feelings (like strongly religious people)
2) NA
3) Yeah sure, i'm not embarrassed about that sort of thing, its also quite interesting
4) I internally LOL because they're usually being unnecessarily uptight. i used to be like that and i managed to break out of it, though i do feel sorry for them if they've been brought up to hide natural feelings (like strongly religious people)
I have no problem sharing my bed with anyone of either gender (I'm bisexual, but that's beside the point as long as it's non-sexual sharing of the bed)
I'm actually more surprised that your mom was worried about you sharing with a guy, but not with a girl. I'd think a parent with a straight child be more worried about that type of thing instead of the possibility of (ewwwww) having contact with someone of the same sex. Whatever happened to "boys in one room, girls in another. After lights-out there's no going into the other room"? I mean, that's kind of uptight in itself but it makes sense.
I love to talk about sex and sexuality. It's such a deep and complex topic and most people have very strong opinions about it. It's always interesting to discuss.
People who are uptight about sex and sexuality are lying to themselves about the nature of it. It's not something that should be taboo, and it definitely shouldn't be something where you're told how to understand it. It's something that everyone needs to explore and figure out for themselves. I tend not to talk to uptight people about sex, because chances are they're going to be condescending to people like myself who are open-minded about it. And since they're probably unwilling to change their opinion, there's no point in trying to educate them.
I'm actually more surprised that your mom was worried about you sharing with a guy, but not with a girl. I'd think a parent with a straight child be more worried about that type of thing instead of the possibility of (ewwwww) having contact with someone of the same sex. Whatever happened to "boys in one room, girls in another. After lights-out there's no going into the other room"? I mean, that's kind of uptight in itself but it makes sense.
I love to talk about sex and sexuality. It's such a deep and complex topic and most people have very strong opinions about it. It's always interesting to discuss.
People who are uptight about sex and sexuality are lying to themselves about the nature of it. It's not something that should be taboo, and it definitely shouldn't be something where you're told how to understand it. It's something that everyone needs to explore and figure out for themselves. I tend not to talk to uptight people about sex, because chances are they're going to be condescending to people like myself who are open-minded about it. And since they're probably unwilling to change their opinion, there's no point in trying to educate them.
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex? I'm a girl, so no problem. Actually, I'm more comfortable with the thought of sleeping in the same bed as a girl as I am about doing the same thing with a boy. I'm not gay or anything, but I have issues.
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it? See above.
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality? Depends on who I'm talking to. Normally it's not a problem, but I do get a bit uncomfortable talking about it with people who I would dub significantly younger than me.
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people? ...just don't talk about it? Or tell them to loosen up.
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it? See above.
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality? Depends on who I'm talking to. Normally it's not a problem, but I do get a bit uncomfortable talking about it with people who I would dub significantly younger than me.
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people? ...just don't talk about it? Or tell them to loosen up.
1: Sure If I know the guy. Or if im in a situation where there is a lack of beds for a large group of people. Its just practical.
2:Yep, im quite open about it all.
3.I dont, I ignore them and move on with my life and hang around people who arent uptight-stick-up-ass type of people, they are boring.
2:Yep, im quite open about it all.
3.I dont, I ignore them and move on with my life and hang around people who arent uptight-stick-up-ass type of people, they are boring.
Your friend who thought it was creepy is probably secretly gay. There is nothing wrong with being gay and there is nothing odd about sharing a bed with another guy even a gay guy. Christ it's just sleeping.
Had the guy molested you then yes, it would have been creepy. Instead he just found a soft place to sleep.
I hate this knee jerk reaction to homosexuality especially among guys. It's like guys don't think gay guys can control themselves. If a straight man can be alone in a room with a woman without trying to rape her then the same stands for people of all sexualities.
/rant
1.1: Yes, and I have. Hardly going to make my friend sleep on the floor.
2: Yes although I don't go on and on about it. If it comes up I have no problem. (lol, 'comes up,' brilliant)
3: I don't hang around a lot of them, usually tell them to lighten up.
Had the guy molested you then yes, it would have been creepy. Instead he just found a soft place to sleep.
I hate this knee jerk reaction to homosexuality especially among guys. It's like guys don't think gay guys can control themselves. If a straight man can be alone in a room with a woman without trying to rape her then the same stands for people of all sexualities.
/rant
1.1: Yes, and I have. Hardly going to make my friend sleep on the floor.
2: Yes although I don't go on and on about it. If it comes up I have no problem. (lol, 'comes up,' brilliant)
3: I don't hang around a lot of them, usually tell them to lighten up.
EDIT: Read that wrong.
1. I suppose, but I'd like it to be a big bed or something. I don't want to be in physical contact with anyone at night, 'less it's a girl I like (and I'd prefer to be in a relationship, I'm just like that).
2. With some people, maybe not with others. Not much else to add to that.
3. Uptight about this kind of stuff? Hey, some people aren't comfortable with it. My friend is so PC he can't make light jokes at other's expense for the life of him. If they said it was creepy I was sharing my bed with a girl I can understand that. It can be hard to swallow sometimes is all. Explain it slowly.
1. I suppose, but I'd like it to be a big bed or something. I don't want to be in physical contact with anyone at night, 'less it's a girl I like (and I'd prefer to be in a relationship, I'm just like that).
2. With some people, maybe not with others. Not much else to add to that.
3. Uptight about this kind of stuff? Hey, some people aren't comfortable with it. My friend is so PC he can't make light jokes at other's expense for the life of him. If they said it was creepy I was sharing my bed with a girl I can understand that. It can be hard to swallow sometimes is all. Explain it slowly.
(canadian.. so we're a little more open.. or so we like to think lol)
1.1) Yes.. i honestly dont see whats wong with this at all
2) yes i can talk openly about sex.. its not a big deal.. everyone has it eventually.. and how else are we supposed to learn new tricks?
3) i tease uptight people and tend to say something outrageous to make them feel uncomfortable
1.1) Yes.. i honestly dont see whats wong with this at all
2) yes i can talk openly about sex.. its not a big deal.. everyone has it eventually.. and how else are we supposed to learn new tricks?
3) i tease uptight people and tend to say something outrageous to make them feel uncomfortable
1.1) I'd be mildly discomfited by sharing a bed with another guy. It really depends on the size of the bed and how familiar I am with the person though. As I am very large, the vast majority of beds would cause physical contact with whoever else happens to be in it, and I wouldn't be entirely comfortable with that with another dude. Could I ignore it if I must? Yes, but I'd prefer sleeping on the floor to sharing a bed with a guy (though this may be because the best night's sleep I've ever had was on the floor with a thin ass blanket and no pillow).hyperhammy said:
1.2) I couldn't really say why I'm uncomfortable with it, nor do I really care. It very rarely comes up, and when it does I deal with it. I've never been one to analyze why I think like I do.
2) Yes.
3) I just ignore them. Not really worth the effort to deal with.
I have done many times, there's nothing wrong with it.
Yea i can talk quite openly about sexuality to certain people...sex is slightly different as it's a little more intimate.
Depends on the person, but generally head down and keep quiet, let them think what they want about gay people while I think of, what I think are more, rational arguments against each point they make...however sometimes, especially if they're really bad and really hate anything like that and are very narrow minded then I have to speak out
Yea i can talk quite openly about sexuality to certain people...sex is slightly different as it's a little more intimate.
Depends on the person, but generally head down and keep quiet, let them think what they want about gay people while I think of, what I think are more, rational arguments against each point they make...however sometimes, especially if they're really bad and really hate anything like that and are very narrow minded then I have to speak out
1. Yes, i have in the past. Nothing sexual about it really... its just sleeping.
2. why would i? i personally don't see whats so taboo about sex, we all do it as humans, its natural.
3. i dont have many friends like this. i tend to have more open minded friends. If its some random person i don't know then live and let live, they can be uptight if they want.
2. why would i? i personally don't see whats so taboo about sex, we all do it as humans, its natural.
3. i dont have many friends like this. i tend to have more open minded friends. If its some random person i don't know then live and let live, they can be uptight if they want.
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
Yeah, but I'm gay, so moot point.
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
It'd only bother me if I weren't dating that person; I don't like sharing my bed.
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
It's a little embarrassing, but I can, depending on who it is.
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?
Depending on /why/ they're uptight, I try to get them to relax.
Yeah, but I'm gay, so moot point.
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
It'd only bother me if I weren't dating that person; I don't like sharing my bed.
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
It's a little embarrassing, but I can, depending on who it is.
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?
Depending on /why/ they're uptight, I try to get them to relax.
1.1) In Europe, Probably, hostels are cramped, I got used to it. In America, no way, they judge you and probably question your sexuality if you did.hyperhammy said:
1.2) Only in america, it does because how people look at it if they saw it unless the guy I shared a bed with looked similiar like me that we could pass as biological brothers.
2) Sure, easy like the question of male or female.
3) I stay quiet and still maybe they will think I am dead and move on.
1. depends
2. i don't want to sleep next to some smelly fat guy, or some guy i hate
3. if some one starts a conversation it's fine, it depends on who you're talking to.
4. regularly.
2. i don't want to sleep next to some smelly fat guy, or some guy i hate
3. if some one starts a conversation it's fine, it depends on who you're talking to.
4. regularly.
1.1. Depends
1.2. Exact same reasons as the above poster. And I'm ok with it if I know the guy and if he doesn't snore. Gender doesn't matter. Just like I don't see the problem with sleeping with someone of the opposite sex. It doesn't have to be sexual at all.
2. Of course. Why not?
3. If they act like idiots, I like to provoke them on purpose just to annoy them. If they're respectable and just naturally closed in that department, I respect them.
1.2. Exact same reasons as the above poster. And I'm ok with it if I know the guy and if he doesn't snore. Gender doesn't matter. Just like I don't see the problem with sleeping with someone of the opposite sex. It doesn't have to be sexual at all.
2. Of course. Why not?
3. If they act like idiots, I like to provoke them on purpose just to annoy them. If they're respectable and just naturally closed in that department, I respect them.