Sexuality / Being uptight

[Mr S]

1.1) Yes, as long as he doesn't sleep completely naked or if he has a boner.
1.2) Nothing i guess.
2) Yes I can, though I am a virgin.
3) I try not to let them bother me too much.

 

[Brandon237]

1: I've had to before, and for me I just don't like sharing space or blankets, so it's not a gender thing. Really, the only person I ever want to be very near me at all is my girlfriend.

2: Redundant question in my case...

3: Yeah, in my group that conversation happens a LOT, fun conversations those.

4: I just don't talk to them about it, but they can be rather... weird, and often uneducated.

 

[PureChaos]

i've shared a bed with my male friends when needed. at first i felt a little uncomfortable but by the 3rd night i wasn't fazed at all.

 

[Slayer_2]

1.1) Yes, I've done it many times. Usually only with boxers on. As long as we're both straight, I really don't see it going anywhere sexual. I've also shared a bed with girls before (once there was 3 of them and me on a queen bed, sounds good in theory, but in reality, it was just an uncomfortable sleep).

1.2) N/A

2) Yeah, although I usually don't, I leave that up to my friends.

3) I tease them lightly, and if I have a female (or a male, with a good sense of humor) friend around, I might play around with the uptight person. Talk about last night, that kinda stuff.

 

[tofulove]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1. in both ways
2. im open about it, but not to just any guy on the side walk.
3. like i act normally,

 

[esperandote]

I think that what it was creepy was spending the night with a guy thinking it was a girl. Something wrong could have happend.

 

[FolkLikePanda]

1.1) Wouldn't mind as long as we were back to back
1.2) Anything else I don't like being too close to another bloke unless its a manly hug or we were fighting
2) I'm fine about talking about sex, me and me mates joke about it all the time. Homosexuals and Bisexuals don't nother me as long as they ain't camp. Transsexuals scare me though, I just find them strange no matter how good a person they are, I would be friends with them but I couldn't see them as a normal person (prejudice, yes I know but they give me the heepy jeepys).
3) My familys full of them and some of my political stances revolve around them as I can't help but agree with SOME of them. But I respect peoples opinions as long as they don't try to make me out as a prejudice arsehole who deserve's to die.

 

[Therumancer]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

I blame the media, especially modern comedy for this to be honest.

Let's be honest, as most people here know I'm anti- gay men. Yet I see no paticular reason why two guys who are travelling or whatever can't share a bed, or why two guys can't share a tent.

Truthfully, I think the problem is that since things were not all that uncommon a lot of people decided to make jokes out of it, by subtly arranging the situations to seem really gay, or having some guy who was obviously gay (unknown to the other guy) exploiting it or whatever. The skits vary.

I think stuff like that had the unintentional effect of making people feel that any degree of closeness to attachment with another person must be sexual. If it's with a member of the opposite sex you must be interested in them, if it's with a member of the same sex it must be gay.

It's sort of like how if you pull out something like old Buddy Cop movies, or even things like "The Dukes Of Hazard" occasionally people will raise some eyebrows, because of jokes made that were funny because they were NOT true.

I'm probably not articulating this terribly well, but the point here being that it's part of social paranoia (which you can find a lot of stuff written about if you look, not just this kind of thing, but manifested a ton of other ways as well).

At any rate, while unpopular here, take it from one of the few people who isn't afraid to say that he's anti-gay men, that I'm not going to nessicarly jump to conclusions just because two guys share the same bed for some reason. Other things might lead me in the direction of it being gay, but not simply being in a bed together sleeping.

 

[molester jester]

1.1) Yes, and have done a few times.
2) Yes, but i hate people that that do so incessantly or people that go into to much detail.
3) I don't know any uptight people.

 

[Guffe]

1.1) Kinda had to since we shared a hotel room with a friend of the same sex and the beds were "one big bed". It was the same as sleeping in two different since the bed was like 2meters wide but I have shared pretty small beds with friends of the same sex.
1.2) Nothing bothers me about it and I am not gay/bisexual, we're friends so it shouldn't be a problem according to me.
2) yeah well, kinda feels embarrassing some times but I can talk about it. I don't care how many someone slept with or what they think about sex. I don't start a conversation but if someone asks I'll give them my opinion. I can easily talk generally about sex but going into one persons private sex life is what makes a bit uncomfortable.
3)If they don't want to talk about something or get overly aggressive when talking about something I just don't talk about it. There's ton of other stuff to chat about.

 

[the-kitchen-slayer]

1.1) I've shared my bed with many people, of either gender. It doesn't bother me, about the most i do if there's no cuddling going on (which is 95% of the time with males, i have shared my bed with a homosexual guy who needed to be cuddled. we'll leave it at this: pants did not come off) is make sure we have a blanket between us so we get a little privacy in bed
1.2) -
2) I'll get embarrassed real quick, but yeah, i can talk about it.
3) I just avoid the subject, no need to make drama occur

 

[Avarith]

1). I toss and turn alot so most people do not find it easy to sleep near me, but if they do not care I don't care, being bi has an advantage of making all sexuality questions moot.
2). Already answered.
3). Why not.
4). If they are intelligent I do not care, other wise like a spider, I let them be and they let me be.

 

[Nieroshai]

The fact is, no one's going to believe 100% that you DIDN'T have sex. I believe you, but I have my doubts.

1.1) I've had to share a bed with someone of the same sex before, and it creeps me out because
1.2) I used to be closet bi, but my orientation has changed since, and I guess there's been a sort of backlash effect where since then I really don't like being near other guys longer than I have to. All of my friends are girls. I'm like that one gay friend girls hang out with, except I'm straight. Maybe I still look/sound like I prefer sausage to taco? Damn you, father! Why did you have to look and sound like Dom Deluise?!
2) I talk as openly about sex as it comes to mind, and frankly I only think of sex when I'm thinking of my girlfriend. Apparently that doesn't happen to people anymore, but here I am.
3) Uptight people? I dislike them and tell them to get a life, but leave it at that.

 

[JLML]

1-1. I wouldn't really mind it. Depends a bit on the person in question though.

1-2. N/A.

2. Yea, in most cases. There are people I don't would enjoy it with though. Like my parents or my sisters... (ok, just the thought of it creeps me out... <.<)

3. Well, I don't know. Never really met one. Still, I think I'd be like I always am, and they'll just have to deal with it. Poor them... (Even my better friends consider me borderline annoying at best. Luckily for me I seem to be annoying in a good way <.<)

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Well I went on a vacation and I had to share a bed with my best friend so it wasn't too difficult for me. I suppose I could share my bed with someone I didn't know as well, but I'd be a little hesitant.

 

[Phoenixlight]

Sounds pretty gay to me :|

 

[SnipErlite]

Nope, doesn't really bother me. I mean, I'd rather share with a girl, but there we are

Lol so long as we're both clothed, and preferably top-to-tail (just to avoid close encounters) there's no problem.

As for talking about it, no I'm not bothered and pretty open.

As for uptight people, well it can be kinda funny if they find it awkward ^_^

 

[Android2137]

1.2) Even if nothing happens, the fact that the person was inclined to is enough. It's just wrong if you have to make the person promise not to do anything, you know?

Isn't it a bit presumptuous (and a tad arrogant) to assume the person would be so "inclined" based solely on their gender preference, or that the person wouldn't have self control?

Probably. And I'm awfully paranoid and scare easily.