Sexuality / Being uptight

[BioHazardMan]

1- I would never sleep in the bed with someone same gender, seems kind of weird for some reason.
2- I can talk about sex and sexuality openly.
3- I don't mind uptight people, I am somewhat myself.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

1.1) Maybe. If we were at opposite ends, and it was necessary.
2) Depends, but probably.
3) Same as around normal people, but I try and respect their sensibilities to a reasonable degree.

Anyway, the reason she said it was creepy was that you went to bed, and when you woke up a dude was in your bed. From my understanding, there was no asking, so that could be kinda creepy. Freak me out a bit, if I wasn't expecting it.

 

[LC Wynter]

1). I'd only really share my bed with someone if there was enough space for both of us, and if they're a heavy sleeper. It doesn't depend on gender.

2). Yes. I find no embarassment in such matters, quite a rarity, I'm told by my friends.

3). No real difference, to be honest. Everyone has their own views; unless they start trying to force their outdated views into my head I shan't mind spending time in their company.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?



1/ Why not (as others said, as long as there's nothing sexual intended), in the Medieval ages, Whole families would sleep in a "king sized bed" so to speak. Nowadays this "its creepy" is just a W.A.S.P. tradition way to say it's not according to the invented moral and ethical issues one could imagine about that subject.

2/ Of course! it's a natural thing to do! and a necessity for survival!

3/ around uptight people, if i know they're uptight i respect them by not touching the sensible cord, if i don't know they are uptight i won't change my way with words.

 

[DarkPanda XIII]

1.1) Yes
1.2) N/A
2) Only if I know the individual well enough
3) I give them odd looks. Usually the person walks away uncomfortably whenever I open up to talk about any of this on occasion.

 

[thirdsonsaburo]

I don't really have a defined sexuality, so it's really not a big deal for me. Nowadays, it's fairly easy to talk about, and uptight people can seem rather laughable in their prudishness about such matters. At the same time, it pays to be respectful.

 

[smut]

I'm so fat that just one of my legs needs it own bed so I couldn't realistically sleep with someone in the same bed. I need 2 beds just for both of my legs =(

But seriously.
1. As long as I didn't wake up with the guy spooning me, I'd be okay with it.

 

[Edorf]

1.1) Ofcourse, I dont see a problem with that whatsoever, it's just sleeping? I've shared bed with many of my friends when I've been sleeping over, or been camping etc. (sleeping naked might be a tad different, though)

2) While sex, and sexuality are things me and my friends dont discuss on a basis. I would have no problem talking about it should it become a subject for discussion.

3) I usually keep my coolface on and just do an imagniary facepalm.

 

[Grey_Focks]

1) Depends on the bed size. if it's a bed made for one person, I just think of the scene from "Planes, Trains and Automobiles" where Steve Martin and John Candy wake up spooning each other.

2)...actually, screw it, that scene HAS made it impossible for me to share a bed with another man. Doesn't matter on the bed size. Apparently I move around a lot while I sleep, and I really just don't want to risk anything...yea. Not to mention "morning-wood" would be beyond awkward.

3) I work at a strip club and am dating a stripper. Take a guess.

4)....do I count as being "uptight" because I don't want to share a bed with another man? I should hope not, and to answer the question, I guess I act normally.

 

[Seydaman]

1.1) It'd be weird just because of social norms and the way I was raised, thinking logically it's fine but gut feeling it's weird.
1.2) See above
3) Yea
4) Meh

 

[kikon9]

1. 1) Yup, no problem.
1. 2) -
2) Yes. I don't see the problem with it...it's natural and fun. You can talk about eating, can't you?
3) Although I don't agree with them, I respect their opinion. Unless they give stupid arguments, as most of them do.

Couldn't have said it better.

 

[punkrocker27]

1)Been there done that before on a dingy futon with four people of my own sex, few other times as well, we were all long time friends though so it was cool.
2)Sometimes it can be a little uncomfortable with strangers.
3)Yes, except around my family (discounting my older brother that is.) Some of them do talk about it around other family members but personally I think that's just very awkward.
4)I really don't care as long as they're not bothering me.

 

[Wardnath]

1: Done it many, many, many times before (Don't start).
2: Not applicable.
3: You'd have to take it really fucking seriously for me to join in, otherwise you're wasting my fucking time (also I hate hetero-as-fuck people with a burning passion, true story).
4: I simply stay silent.

 

[SovietSecrets]

1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1. Yes. Not a problem for me
2. I have no problem openly speaking about sex. I usually get into awkward conversations because of it.
3. I try to loosen them up a bit. Just making jokes or hitting on them.

 

[Something Amyss]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1. 1 and .2 I don't like sharing a bed with anyone unless I'm really close to them. Gender aside, I'm uncomfortable being in close quarters with people like that. But not based on what's "creepy." And I would, I'd just prefer not to.
2: Depends on why I'm talking to, but yes.
3: I try and be respectful of other people, even uptight ones. IF they're going to be judgmental and nosy it's one thing, but until then I won't bother them. I swear a lot, too, but not in the company of people who don't like profanity. Same idea.

 

[Free Thinker]

1. No. I'm sorry, but dude, this is MY bed!
2. It just feels awkward.
3. Yes. I don't really think it should be so taboo to be talked about.
4. I tone it down or never even bring it up. No need to piss people off.

 

[Sara Fontaine]

1) I can sleep in the same bed as another girl quite easily. It'd be more down to the fact of whether they were a good friend or not.
2) N/A
3) Sex is a naturally occuring thing, nothing wrong with talking about it.
4) Until they start telling me that I'm immoral or try and force their views on me I just keep my mouth shut and ignore them as best I can.

 

[Alon Shechter]

1.1) Already did a couple of times.

2) Yes, completely. I wish other people could.
3) I avoid them.

 

[mythgraven]

There are way too many males out there who will claim to be ok with their openly gay friends/relatives, but if you were to even slightly insinuate that any sort of homosexual activities happened within a square mile of their person, they start jumping up and down scrubbing their skin like you just informed them they had scabies.


"Oh no man, not me, eww man. No way. No way."


Im AC only. Im hetero. But this doesnt mean I have to go out of my way to make that fact crystal clear to every single other college-age male I meet. I can say it once, and be done with it. And if a gay guy has a crush on me, Im flattered. And sad, cause gay people are supposed to have better taste.


Whiskey Echo!!
mythgraven

 

[the rye]

1)yes i would and have shared a bed with someone of the same sex (not in a sexual way)
2)N/A
3)not always sometimes the subject is difficult for me to talk about
4)i wouldn't really know