Sexuality / Being uptight

[Tdc2182]

1.) I'd prefer not to.
2.) Its nothing to do with me being homophobic, it is just the fact that I am never comfortable in a situations that have to do with me being defenseless involving masculinity. It just makes me feel vulnerable.
3.) I'm not to sure what this means, but to some people I will talk openly about sex, to some I keep my mouth shut. I'm quite positive about my sexuality, if thats what you mean.
4.) If I like/respect them, I'll remain quiet. If I don't like/care about them, I will joke and berate them.

 

[Umwerfer]

1/2)I would've slept on the floor. That's just how I roll, I guess.
3)no
4)As usual; as reserved as I think it proper to possibly be.

 

[N1ceDreamz]

1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex? I wouldn't mind.

2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality? Yep, but I am sort of a homophobe... the thought of it just makes me go eww... can't really help it.

3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people? The way I act around other people, I don't talk about sex all the time ya'know.

 

[Xero Scythe]

1: No, I'm probably gonna be sleepin' on the floor.(Apparently I thrash around in my sleep.)
2: N/A
3: Meh. Depends on the company. I ain't gonna be sayin' it to my interviewer, but I'll speak openly with my friends.
4: Again, meh. I live my life, they live theirs.

 

[Mcface]

Seems like a bunch of dumb teenagers pretending they need to share beds when they dont.

I don't want a guy sleeping in my bed, or a girl i'm not getting any from. Unless it's a huge bed, which in your case it wasn't?

 

[Durgiun]

1. Hell yes. It allows for free gropy time when they are asleep. But seriously, I wouldn't mind.
1.2.. ...
2. Depends. If it's with my parents, no. If it's with my friends, oh hell yes. I can talk to them about almost anything.
3. I treat them like any person who has a broom up their ass.

 

[UnwishedGunz]

1) depends on who it is, if its a friend that needs a place to crash then sure, if its some random homeless guy who crawled into my window then no

2) N/A

3) i have lots of friends who are girls, so yes i talk about sex...A LOT!!!

4) i call em a ***** and walk away, up-tight people are so annoying they think their so better then everyone else

 

[internetzealot1]

I would only ever share a bed with a man if one of my brothers, and even then, I'd have to sleep above the covers.

 

[DeadFOAM]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1) I would rather not, but that's more because I like my space. I have shared a bed with other men. Didn't care either way.
2) Depends who I'm around. I personally have no problem with it, but some people I know do.
3) If they're smart, I'll try to discuss WHY they believe what they believe and why it bothers them. I find it interesting to see why other people believe what they believe. If they aren't up to discussing, I'll ignore them. But if they're in my face and obnoxious, I'll ridicule the hell out of them.

 

[DrScoobs]

1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
yes
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
N/A
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
yes
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?
i have secks with them.

 

[Abengoshis]

1) Yes and have on quite a few occasions. Its hard to find a comfortable position though so I tried not to stay too close to him, also we didn't sleep facing eachother, that would just be strange, not to mention I'd get a full frontal assault of his REALLY weird snoring which sounds more like a squirrel.
2) -
3) Yep.
3) I usually try to make them more uptight if they have no reason to be uptight. I bring up a point they are against, wait for them to go on a huge monologue and at the end say "Cool story bro" or "yeah, BUT (insert nonsensical point here but make it seem serious)".
If I'm not in IRL-Troll mode I'll either ignore them or try to see their point. Usually the former since on subjects such as sexuality their "point" is probably derived from ignorance and I'd have no benefit in hearing their opinion.

 

[Thundero13]

1.1)Well I'm gay so yeah, I wouldn't mind sharing a bed with a female either
1.2)N/A
2)Of course
3)They confuse me

 

[Lyx]

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?

Yes. Well, if both were completely naked probably not with much comfort, but else, yes.

2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?

To some degree. Sex and sexuality in general i have no issue with. Deeply emotional things - no matter if sexual or not - i'd only want to talk about with people whom i trust a lot (so, it's more about privacy in general).

3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

Uptight people would on many other topics too have a mindset that doesn't interest me that much. So, talks would stay shallow anyways.

 

[lacktheknack]

In the OP's situation, I'd probably just sleep on the floor, but that's because A. I'm a freak who thinks the floor is comfy, and B. I'm really big, and would take up the whole bed. If it was a large bed, and the other guy wasn't playing with himself, then why not share a bed?

 

[HowToCatchAFirefly]

1. I prefer not to, with anyone. It's really just a privacy thing, and I wouldn't be able to sleep if someone was that close to me. it'd make me too nervous. Not that I think that they would try anything, it's just my own issues with personal space.

2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?

To an extent. You have to understand (or at least you should, though many people refuse), for some people, sex is an important thing in relationships, indicative of intense marriage-level commitment. Under that meaning, sex takes on a certain level of sanctity, if you will; it is a good thing, but only when used in the right context and for the right reasons. This means, based on this worldview, that it can be talked about and discussed, but should be treated as the important and valuable thing that it is (not that this eliminates the intermittent "that's what she said"). So I can openly discuss it (unlike what most people seem to think about people like me, I do think it's an amazing and valuable thing), but I do not agree with how flippantly our culture as a whole treats the subject.

3) How do you act around up-tight people?

I just... don't talk about sex. It's not tough. No "that's what she said" jokes or anything like that; try to avoid the subject altogether, and if it comes up, treat it with the importance and reverence for which the subject calls.

For 2 and 3, I really can't add anything to that. It sums up my views on the subject, and is beautifully worded at that. It is a wonderful thing, but to be treated with reverence and used only in the right circumstances.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

No. I'm a total bed hog and I can't share it with anyone. xD

 

[Bravo Company]

1) I have before, we aren't gay or anything and we needed somewhere to sleep so I don't see a problem with it.
1.2) N/A
2) Do it all the time, that is our topic at lunch most the time.
3) Usually I will tone it down a little but they can always leave.

 

[DannibalG36]

1.1) Fuck no. It's MY bed. I paid for it. I get ALL the softness and warmth to myself.
1.2) See above.
2) Definitely. But I will never start a conversation involving sexuality. After all, what if the person you are talking to is uncomfortable about discussing sex? That's a sure road to an awkward silence.
3) I respect them. They've found things more interesting than sex to think on.

Come to think of it, why do most other people on this forum find sex so fascinating? It's but a pleasure mechanism to ensure the exchange of genetic material.

 

[laol1999]

1. i have and i will without problem but would prefer a bed to myself
2. i talk about that stuff all the time, people are to easily offended
3. tell them to calm down, its not a big deal at all, its just how people are born

 

[Shock and Awe]

1. Sure, not much reason not to.

2. Yes

3. Either tone it down or do it more for shits and giggles.