So eh, what are the "modern ways" to get women these days?

[Irony's Acolyte]

Okay, it's pretty simple. First grab whatever weapon you can. Melee weapons are better; clubs, spears, swords are all good. Then go out and find some large, dangerous creature. They don't have to be a carnivore, just so long as they put up a good fight. Getting a couple scars from them is a good thing. Anyway, go and kill that animal in a nice bloody manner. It's got to look good when you drag the carcass back. Because once it's dead, then you take it over to house of the woman you're interested in and drop it out on her front steps and wait. Can you imagine the look on her face when she finds this strong, tough, and deadly man waiting for her with the corpse of a dangerous beast beneath him? She'll be all over you in no time. Just make sure if some other guy comes after her, challenge him to a duel and kill the sonofabitch. Can't have competition.

Follow this advice for the most part and getting a woman should be no problem for you!

 

[dorkette1990]

I don't think there isn't a sense of courtship now - being open sexually doesn't mean you have sex with anyone who suits your fancy. It means you're not afraid of exploring a sexual appetite.
I personally think the only reason you could not have a girl is one of two reasons : first, you make your choices entirely from aesthetics. Don't get me wrong - I wouldn't date a girl I found hideous or anything. But if you're not looking for someone you don't find interesting... chances are they won't find you interesting either. And that sort of chemistry does drive a physical chemistry.
Also, you don't just approach them. Everyone on here is right - if you walk up to a girl, forget the "out of her league" deal, and just see if you can connect with her, you'll find physical attraction matters very little.

 

[KarlMonster]

As proof: I've been with my girlfriend going 3 years now, our first date was to go see Ponyo at a mall theater, then get dinner at a sushi place, then go out and sit on a log at a beach watching a sunset. Is that corny or what?

She says, to this day, that it was the best date of her life.

If the beach wasn't planned, it was certainly fortuitous. The movie aside (I don't know WTH Ponyo is) that's a damn good first date.

I'm in a dying relationship now, because I don't rate among her top 56 actionable items, but it started out right. We met through Geek2Geek (probably not such a hot idea). First date was a Mopar club banquet that she was going to anyway. Second date I took her horseback riding - and I got bonus points for bringing a large plastic bag which kept her car interior from getting muddy. It turns out she used to do equestrian... stuff. Whatever. Both times I brought her strawberries.

So I'm back to finding someone else. Strangely, I'm fine with confidence, though I can't honestly say when that transformation happened. Maybe aliens replaced the old me with a pod clone. Anyhow. I absolutely refuse to go to a bar or a club to 'meet wimmens.' I would much prefer to actually hear what other people are saying. I never figured out why clubs had to be so friggin loud. I listen to a mix of primitive/garage/punk rock and classical music, but I figure that music and politics should take a back seat at the start of a relationship. Find out who they are first, before you start fighting with them.

I don't get out much but I'm trying to take more time in doing my errands, and I go to my local NaNoWriMo club meetings whenever I can remember them. It'll happen again some... year.

 

[Macgyvercas]

Chloroform Trichloromethane can get you a girl in no time flat.

Sorry. Chem major. Had to do it.

OT: I've kind of stopped trying to actively look for someone, and am currently on the "Whatever the hell happens happens" train. Though one of my friends does want to set me up...

 

[Lazarus Long]

Okay. I can obviously only speak from personal experience, and I obviously am not you, but I think that if you and I were the same age, in the same place, we might be friends. The difference I can see between us, given the broad strokes of your post, is that while your outlook is "people are shit," mine is more "people are shit, but a person can be pretty decent."

My general misanthropy always kept me from actively pursuing relationships, but I've always been of the opinion that the world has plenty of assholes in it, and there's no point in adding another. So I made it a point to be polite and kind to people, even if I had to fake it, until they proved to me that they didn't deserve it.

The point of all this is, over the course of my 32 years, I've had 5 major relationships, 2 of which became marriages, the second of which just hit the five-year mark. None of these I initiated, and after each one ended I swore I was done with women. Whenever I would ask my then-current SO why they would deign to lower themselves to enter a relationship with a bitter schlub like me, the answer was invariably that I, unlike every other guy they knew, was nice to them, and I didn't expect anything in return for it.

So my advice is to try to be nice to people, without any ulterior motive. Even if it doesn't put a ring on your finger or a warm body in your bed, it will, at the very least, make the world that much brighter a place.

Best of luck to you.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

Well, I usually find a woman I might like and ask her questions.
If I find out I might not want to be more than a friendly acquaintance, I stop.
Otherwise, I keep asking questions and get closer.

But since I do BDSM meet ups and D/S events, that's where I meet my "friends".
Share the love!

See, if I brought up my fetishes in public, anyone I'd ask out would probably run. I'm mostly apathetic towards relationships, until I get jealous of others, then I go to bed and forget it all.

 

[DracoSuave]

Well, I usually find a woman I might like and ask her questions.
If I find out I might not want to be more than a friendly acquaintance, I stop.
Otherwise, I keep asking questions and get closer.

But since I do BDSM meet ups and D/S events, that's where I meet my "friends".
Share the love!

See, if I brought up my fetishes in public, anyone I'd ask out would probably run. I'm mostly apathetic towards relationships, until I get jealous of others, then I go to bed and forget it all.

That's why you go to munches and such, where the public is more tolerant.

 

[ProtonGuy]

Oh for crying out loud another "waaaah how do I get a girlfreind thread". it's called going out in public, there's this crazy new invention called "communication". It's really nifty all you do is go to a public place, say a "bar" which is another new fangled contraption, find some one that is attractive to you and you go talk to them. This generation is doomed.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

Well, I usually find a woman I might like and ask her questions.
If I find out I might not want to be more than a friendly acquaintance, I stop.
Otherwise, I keep asking questions and get closer.

But since I do BDSM meet ups and D/S events, that's where I meet my "friends".
Share the love!

See, if I brought up my fetishes in public, anyone I'd ask out would probably run. I'm mostly apathetic towards relationships, until I get jealous of others, then I go to bed and forget it all.

That's why you go to munches and such, where the public is more tolerant.

It's a matter of location. I live in the middle of nowhere, and Ottawa probably doesn't allow these kinds of displays at convention centers. They're very picky about looking good as a city.

 

[NightlyNews]

The captcha is "Respect Me".

I think there's a connection between it and this thread ... O_e

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I have never seen this smiley face before. You have just changed my life for the better sir. Thank you God Bless you!

OT: You can't hate or fear someone and love them too. If your just looking for someone to be physical with just be outgoing. If you want to find someone you like take an interest in people.

 

[Dags90]

Sorry. Chem major. Had to do it.

I'm pretty sure chloroform is considered acceptable, even by the stuffy people at IUPAC.

Women are not something which you "get", they're not a prize. They're people.

 

[The Virgo]

The captcha is "Respect Me".

I think there's a connection between it and this thread ... O_e

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I have never seen this smiley face before. You have just changed my life for the better sir. Thank you God Bless you!

Uhh, thanks?

 

[The Virgo]

Women are not something which you "get", they're not a prize. They're people.

I don't know ... considering how hard it is to find one, I think they ARE prize to be won!

Spoiler: By the way

That was a joke, just so everyone here knows.

 

[DracoSuave]

Well, I usually find a woman I might like and ask her questions.
If I find out I might not want to be more than a friendly acquaintance, I stop.
Otherwise, I keep asking questions and get closer.

But since I do BDSM meet ups and D/S events, that's where I meet my "friends".
Share the love!

See, if I brought up my fetishes in public, anyone I'd ask out would probably run. I'm mostly apathetic towards relationships, until I get jealous of others, then I go to bed and forget it all.

That's why you go to munches and such, where the public is more tolerant.

It's a matter of location. I live in the middle of nowhere, and Ottawa probably doesn't allow these kinds of displays at convention centers. They're very picky about looking good as a city.

GIYF

http://www.breathlessottawa.com/events.html [http://www.breathlessottawa.com/events.html]

 

[SHIFTYMACO]

Purchase the book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Read it twice!
Purchase the book called RULES OF THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Do as it says!

"Son to get girls you don't have to get them drunk, all you have to do is be funny and to feed them".

100% True. Women love a man who cooks!

And we women do love a man who knows how to dance, so take lessons!

Also 100% true. Girls love dancing and its also a great way to get close to someone without the "OMG he is trying to pick me up" because your learning how to dance. Really helps with your ability to approach women.

I'm at the age where all of my friends are getting married so my going out and partying circle is quickly closing. I am now doing Salsa and I am meeting heaps of new people. (Many whom are in the same boat) And if you can go to University, Night school ,ect and study something is also a great way to meet new people and expand your circle of friends.

And one more thing,

Purchase the book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Read it twice!
Purchase the book called RULES OF THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Do as it says!

 

[Doclector]

Way I look at it, you either look good or die alone. So if you can fix the way you look, do so. If not, get used to your own company, cause it's the only company you'll ever have.

 

[Angus565]

Out of college eh? Well I'd say, go to a club or something, a bar if you will. Don't come on to strong or to cheesy and if that doesn't work theres always those dating website.

I agree with not coming on too strong but cheesing it up can have very good side-effects.
Umm... other then that be confident and approach girls directly.

EDIT: Also 666 post! HAIL THE DARK LORD SATAN GRAGGHH!!

 

[DracoSuave]

Purchase the book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Read it twice!
Purchase the book called RULES OF THE GAME by Neil Strauss, Do as it says!

Yes, let's give a potential abusive personality the keys to the abusemobile.

This will only work out well for society.

 

[DracoSuave]

I can sympathize perfectly. Lately, women seem to have grown more cold, callous and calculating. The proportion of women who think they're amazing divas has skyrocketed, and they just don't know how fucking ugly they are. And by ugly, I mean their personality. I've rejected many. I've evolved a stuck-up-***** "filter" and don't even look at them anymore, even if they're showing more skin than a pig in a bin.

And you should do this.

Another thing that is hard is the whole "equality" thing. I respect and want women to have the rights they have, I am very proud how we have fought for women's right especially here in my country.

But at some treshold, women seemed to stop wanting to be taken care of. I ended a relationship because I wasn't ever allowed to do the things men need to do: pay for things, spur of the moment gifts and do the "heavy" work.

Really? Lots of women appreciate men doing things for them. It just isn't expected any more. Some women prefer an unequal power balance... you should try to find one. They exist and are far from rare.

I'm just resignated and don't think I'll involve myself with women any more. At this point I'm better off alone.

Pffft. Don't give up. You're just looking in the wrong places for the wrong people.