So I asked out the girl I have a crush on...

[MajorTomServo]

There's this lovely, charming, and beautiful young lady who I've had a crush on since middle school. We casually talked throughout high school, and now were in the same college. I'd flirt a little bit here and there, but nothing major. Made sure not to get stuck in the friend zone. Earlier today, I had read a bunch of courage wolfs and was feeling pretty confident. So, I asked her to go get coffee. And we did. I told her that I liked her; how she was always fun to be with, had beautiful eyes (wasn't trying to be chiche, but I mean, one's brown and one's blue. Its awesome.) and that my favorite times from the last semester were in the hour or so we'd occasionally hang out in between class on Thursdays. And she said she liked me back. And we held hands. And it was perhaps the greatest feeling I've ever experienced. Im proud to say that I'm her boyfriend.

But I didn't just come here to flaunt my good fortune. I came here to tell you that if there's someone you fancy, go for it. If I hadn't grown a pair and taken the leap, we may have never gotten together.

My advice?

Spoiler

Go do it. I believe in you.

 

[Svenparty]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already. I think the opposite y
to this is you could be rejected and loose a friend.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already.

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

 

[Dark Knifer]

It is good to see some joy in this place, I rarely comment on the escapist anymore but I do hope that everything works out for you in the best possible way and for everyone else reading this.

 

[MajorTomServo]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already. I think the opposite y
to this is you could be rejected and loose a friend.

Who says I would have lost her as a friend? And if I did, well, I have other friends. Would have just had to get up, get over it, and find a new girl to focus my attention on.

 

[Jedoro]

Congratulations, good sir.

Also, Courage Wolf is a fucking boss.

 

[Tekkawarrior]

Yea just don't show that you're dying to have her. Too easy. Work on your mysterious bullshit and drama. Good luck comrade.

 

[Zantos]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already.

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

Definitely, in fact you need to try and get as much in as possible before you get a few months down and realize they're *Zantos accepts that his experience is not representative on all relationships and that views expressed are representative purely of his exs and not reflective of his views of women, and that further comments are fueled purely on being bitter* cruel, lifesucking heartless banshees who seek to ruin you.

But yeah, going for it is the name of the game. In fact, probably waiting for them to come to me is the reason I got stuck with cruel lifesuxking heartless banshees who seek to ruin me. It hasn't worked yet, but I'm a nice guy, fairly funny, and there's nothing noticeably unattractive about me. I'm sure it can work for me as it has worked for OP so well. Oh, and congrats. Or gz as I believe the kids are saying now.

 

[thejdcole]

Congrats Sir, you have done what many people are too scared to achieve.

My problem is that I have a very close circle of friends, (3 guys and 3 girls), all 3 of us guys are better friends with each other than we are to the girls and visa versa. I like one of the girls quite a lot. If I attempt anything I don't just risk losing her as a friend if things go wrong but I screw up everything for everyone else in my circle of friends. :/

One part of me wants to ask her out but the other half of me doesn't want to risk making other people lose good friends.

 

[Doclector]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already.

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

but you can be too excited about life and it's possibilities to you, and one of those is actually getting into a healthy and meaningful relationship, not guaranteed to those who try hard enough as so many disney movies and romcoms would say so.

Excuse me while I summon a storm of cynicism to rain upon this parade. FUS RO DEPRESS! *Stormclouds brew*

Much better. Anyway, I'd love to follow such advice, but do you look like the arse end of a frost troll? I didn't think so. I've built a lot of confidence recently, but the only thing asking a girl out could do is shatter that completely as she throws up at the thought of even touching such a horrendous abomination, or worse, she uses me for a little while, then dumps me, not even having the courage to tell the truth as to why.

Basically, real happy for you, but while everyone can be happy if they work hard enough at it, not every road to happiness or every type of happiness is open to everyone, and to some people, even trying to be happy in that way will destroy every other piece of happiness you have. Enjoy what's in your reach, forget what's not.

 

[scorptatious]

Congratulations!

It's nice to see something positive in these forums every once in a while.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already.

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

but you can be too excited about life and it's possibilities to you, and one of those is actually getting into a healthy and meaningful relationship, not guaranteed to those who try hard enough as so many disney movies and romcoms would say so.

Excuse me while I summon a storm of cynicism to rain upon this parade. FUS RO DEPRESS! *Stormclouds brew*

Much better. Anyway, I'd love to follow such advice, but do you look like the arse end of a frost troll? I didn't think so. I've built a lot of confidence recently, but the only thing asking a girl out could do is shatter that completely as she throws up at the thought of even touching such a horrendous abomination, or worse, she uses me for a little while, then dumps me, not even having the courage to tell the truth as to why.

Basically, real happy for you, but while everyone can be happy if they work hard enough at it, not every road to happiness or every type of happiness is open to everyone, and to some people, even trying to be happy in that way will destroy every other piece of happiness you have. Enjoy what's in your reach, forget what's not.

Hey, I'm hardly the cheeriest of people- I got dumped four months ago after 1 1/2 years of being with someone, I've only just come to terms with it. Not trying just makes everything worse and worse, I found. I've not got to the point where I've just given up (yet), I'm sure there's someone out there I can trick into kissing my ugly mug one day.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Ya that only goes well when the girl already likes you, so all you eager young gents with a bleeding hearth hold on for a moment and observe the girl if she is flirty as well.

Otherwise there is some charming to be done before your dearest will want to be your dearest.

 

[Sentox6]

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

Believe me, you can. I had a similar experience (a bit less depth and backstory compared to this one, to be fair) in terms of establishing mutual attraction, physical closeness, etc.

Next day I discovered I was no longer in a relationship. It's worth giving it a week or two before you start considering yourself to have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Then you can start thinking about the long-term longevity instead

 

[RaikuFA]

Good job sir I hope the date/relationship is succesful.

I personally can't anyone out but I wish you the best.

 

[Faladorian]

Ya that only goes well when the girl already likes you, so all you eager young gents with a bleeding hearth hold on for a moment and observe the girl if she is flirty as well.

Otherwise there is some charming to be done before your dearest will want to be your dearest.

This.

I'm not here to rain on anybody's parade, but it's kind of true. Asking someone out doesn't mean they will say they like you back. Ya got lucky.

 

[JesterRaiin]

Im proud to say that I'm her boyfriend.

BRAVO SIR !
Good job !
Now, tiger, time for next advice : find out what does it mean to be yourself, and stay yourself.
If there's something that can ruin even best relationship, it's wearing the disguise of someone else.

 

[generals3]

Well good for you OP, and i mean it. However unlike asking a random person out this involves risks, i have seen a friendship go ka-boom because they decided to start a relationship and it didn't work out. But hey it doesn't have to be that way

 

[Mate397]

good for you, now let me counter that statement of yours with my experience, i also i have a lady friend who i know for a while now, but when i just barely started asking her out, (i couldn't say more than i like here when: ) i get a rage moment from here and the point of here rage was that how dare i even think anything can be between us, nothing common etc, plus she's into one of my friends.
mind you, up until that point i thought at least a little she likes me, but apparently just chained to the f*cking friend zone all the time.
though we're still friends and all but i can feel that she doesn't want to be around me...
just to show the other side of the coin of this "go head on" method i'm not saying you can't do it and won't work, but it's not a guarantee