So I asked out the girl I have a crush on...

[RastaBadger]

Good for you man.
I must say however that it tickles me somewhat that the reason you finally asked her out was because of courage wolf.

 

[Insanum]

Enjoy the bad break up =)

...too soon?

<color=white>Im just bitter, i wish you the best of luck =)

 

[Chris Pudney]

i actually registered with the escapist just to reply to this thread xD mate, fuck the doubters, congratulations! i wish everyone could have the courage to not worry about the risks (losing a friendship, etc) and just ask the girl out. *random stranger hi-5*

 

[Mitchell Osborn]

Grats on your good luck. Wish i could ask the girl out i known my whole life (best friend's sister).

 

[Doclector]

Basically, real happy for you, but while everyone can be happy if they work hard enough at it, not every road to happiness or every type of happiness is open to everyone, and to some people, even trying to be happy in that way will destroy every other piece of happiness you have. Enjoy what's in your reach, forget what's not.

Hey, I'm hardly the cheeriest of people- I got dumped four months ago after 1 1/2 years of being with someone, I've only just come to terms with it. Not trying just makes everything worse and worse, I found. I've not got to the point where I've just given up (yet), I'm sure there's someone out there I can trick into kissing my ugly mug one day.[/quote]exactly. Four months? Far too long to suffer such torture at the hands of somebody you care too much about to Physically stop them, and god knows, words never work. All it takes is one moment of stupidity/bravery/both to plummet you into a half year of hell. Much happier without such business.

 

[FalloutJack]

There's this lovely, charming, and beautiful young lady who I've had a crush on since middle school. We casually talked throughout high school, and now were in the same college. I'd flirt a little bit here and there, but nothing major. Made sure not to get stuck in the friend zone. Earlier today, I had read a bunch of courage wolfs and was feeling pretty confident. So, I asked her to go get coffee. And we did. I told her that I liked her; how she was always fun to be with, had beautiful eyes (wasn't trying to be chiche, but I mean, one's brown and one's blue. Its awesome.) and that my favorite times from the last semester were in the hour or so we'd occasionally hang out in between class on Thursdays. And she said she liked me back. And we held hands. And it was perhaps the greatest feeling I've ever experienced. Im proud to say that I'm her boyfriend.

But I didn't just come here to flaunt my good fortune. I came here to tell you that if there's someone you fancy, go for it. If I hadn't grown a pair and taken the leap, we may have never gotten together.

My advice?

Spoiler

Go do it. I believe in you.

Why thank you, Tom. I have one.

So...you gonna go take her out to make fun of a bad sci-fi movie?

*Rimshot*

 

[Colour Scientist]

Good for you! Nice to see someone here taking the initiative, rather than sulking and pretending to be the girl's friend.

I hope you're very happy together!

 

[Electric Alpaca]

Im proud to say that I'm her boyfriend.

Slow down sparky. Definitely don't go flaunting that title around, the most dangerous thing you can do early in a relationship is make it feel claustrophobic by labeling it.

Try and take it easy, enjoy the moments you have and let things come through naturally - and most of all try not to change the way you are. Seems obvious, but so many people ruin what was initially attractive about them in the first place by trying to step up to an "ideal" they feel they should attain.

I wouldn't dream of calling anyone my girlfriend for at least the first couple of months - it implies responsibility and in the beginning it should just be about the electricity and enjoyment.

 

[SuperSuperSuperGuy]

Good job, buddy. Honestly, Courage Wolf doesn't inspire much confidence in me. It only makes me think on my own inadequacies caused by social anxieties and low self-esteem.

I know this one extremely beautiful girl. We were friends before I told her how I felt about her. Then she rejected me. I count myself lucky to still be friends with this girl, but you're even luckier. As much as I want to take risks like this, past experience tells me not to. Besides, she's the only girl who I've ever really been attracted to, so I've never been motivated enough to try it again with someone else.

I wish you good luck in the future. Be careful, though. I don't know much on the subject, but if I were in a relationship I wouldn't try to rush it. I would lay off the titles of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" for a little while and just enjoy myself.

 

[DazZ.]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on.

I could happily tell my girlfriend that, I show her other meaningless stuff to her and blabber on about coding for about 30 mins before she changes the subject. I'd sit there showing her what I've done and she would smile happily and attempt to understand what I'm excited about, even maybe ask questions, just as I'd sit there and listen to her natter on about sparkly girly things and try and be interested and let her show off what she's happy about.

I talk about games a lot more even though I know she has no interest, but as it's what I am interested in it's what comes out of my mouth, and it's not an issue. She's joined in with gaming talk with a few of my other friends and pretending she knows what she's saying just going off of what I've nattered on about the past year.

I can guarantee it's not every woman put off by nerdy behaviour. Obviously just "coding" isn't as "bad" as emulating ancient machines, but she doesn't know the difference so it wouldn't change a thing.

 

[Deimateos]

My advice?

Spoiler

Go do it. I believe in you.

+1

Beats the hell out of slowly dying inside from imagined responses. The only way you'll lose them as a friend (if they're actually worth a damn) is if you go all crawlingiiiiiinmyskiiiiiin and become awkward on them after that point. That's on you, not them.

You don't know what they are thinking or how they will respond, so stop pretending you have precognitive abilities and ask them out. Weight off your shoulders is weight off your shoulders,

 

[cahtush]

Sigh. Thinking about the consequences of her saying no is something i never could get over. Never got the courage to aske her out. But good luck to you! I hope it lasts

 

[Bvenged]

[HEADING=3]What about, say, the step before that?[/HEADING]

I had girlfriends in early secondary school (around 13 years old) as we all did, alas:
When I was in the later years of school the girls I hung out with & was interested in resulted in me getting stuck in the "friend" zone. Now I've left school my contact with girls has reduced to pretty much 0.

I occasionally hang out with some at the pub/club/elsewhere once a month or so (most from school), but we were in social groups and not small sized groups either. It's not that I lack confidence or that I'm gay; but I'd say it's because I'm too nice - as in my manners are off the scale. That sucks as I play electric guitar, football, videogames, swear too much when in acceptable environments (Xbox Live or in jest) and I'm now studying Computer Forensics at Uni/College in a small class with no girls so-to-speak. I'm fine-looking and I'm far from ugly, where my only bad feature is a big nose and quite-narrow face which suits a painfully looking thin body (which is usually dressed casually smart); but regardless, my other features make up for that (I confidently hope!): Sharp eyebrows, dark-brown eyes, clean-looking & spot free, goodish teeth, styled hair, good stubble, great camera-friendly smile, enough money to enjoy myself, good education & general knowledge, car (sort of)... I'm no Yuppie, I'm 18 years and 11 months - I just have no luck with the ladies and no idea how to get with one these days.

I'm too moral for strippers/prossies, though I have for the briefest of moments considered it!

So tell me, oh great girl-getter - how should I get myself a lady, seeing as I've missed the window of opportunity that school was, at my age and in the situation I'm in?

 

[FarleShadow]

Did anyone else read op's post and hear the 'obviously doomed from the start' alarm go off?

Actually, while I'm here, I'll impart some things I've learned:

1. Most of the time, when you ask a girl out 'for coffee' or 'for a drink', you don't need to clarify that you're asking them out on a date as girls aren't dumb.

2. Given that we're all gamers, remember that real life is alot slower than games and there are no discrete 'levels' for you to attain.

3. Scale your dates. Your first date is a scouting mission and should be short. The next few dates should extend your time together. I personally don't like going straight for 'Dinner and a movie' as it doesn't leave you with many places to go after that.

4. If you feel some heat during the date, then it starts to fade, its time to go when convenient/appropriate. NEVER try to recapture that 'heat' as it'll come across as trying too hard.

5. At the end of the day, dates are supposed to be fun for both parties. If you're not having fun, then why are you dating that girl in the first place?

Oh, I forgot, dates aren't about laughing all the damn time, don't think a date went bad when you review it in your head and she wasn't laughing. Its all about good feelings.

eh, there you go, if that needs further explaination, ask later, i'm going to bed.

 

[Carboncrown]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Yes, how dare he spread a joyful message!

I feel like I should say something about statistical impossibilities and how presentation is everything... but others have probably tried and failed. Seriously, this is the most bitter post I've ever seen. And I've been to 4chan.


OT: Congratulations. Still, remember: hard to get works. The opposite doesn't.

Also, on the matter of courage wolf:

Spoiler

FEAR OF REJECTION
>:O
IS WORSE THAN REJECTION

What? I'm lazy.

 

[6_Qubed]

Well look at you, sounding all upbeat and positive.

Have fun being awesome, disciple of the wolf.

 

[chuckman1]

Good job dude.
Last time I did I got a maybe answer which annoyed me a bit.
Anyone have any advice for making a move more good and less awkward, I'm pretty new to this I only directly asked out 1 girl. Maybe I should just make a thread?

 

[Evil Smurf]

good job matey, Only I took your advice and got a no . But I had the balls to ask, that counts