So I asked out the girl I have a crush on...

[NinjaDeathSlap]

There's this lovely, charming, and beautiful young lady who I've had a crush on since middle school. We casually talked throughout high school, and now were in the same college. I'd flirt a little bit here and there, but nothing major. Made sure not to get stuck in the friend zone. Earlier today, I had read a bunch of courage wolfs and was feeling pretty confident. So, I asked her to go get coffee. And we did. I told her that I liked her; how she was always fun to be with, had beautiful eyes (wasn't trying to be chiche, but I mean, one's brown and one's blue. Its awesome.) and that my favorite times from the last semester were in the hour or so we'd occasionally hang out in between class on Thursdays. And she said she liked me back. And we held hands. And it was perhaps the greatest feeling I've ever experienced. Im proud to say that I'm her boyfriend.

But I didn't just come here to flaunt my good fortune. I came here to tell you that if there's someone you fancy, go for it. If I hadn't grown a pair and taken the leap, we may have never gotten together.

My advice?

Spoiler

Go do it. I believe in you.

Good for you. Just take care not to get too ahead of yourself and drop the ball by wanting too much too soon. But honestly I wish you all the best.

There was actually a girl who I was wanting to ask out, but I haven't yet for, well, for a vast catalogue of reason each more stupid than the last. But y'know what, fuck it. If there's one thing worse than being rejected it's doing nothing and waiting like a chump as someone else get's there first.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Yes, how dare he spread a joyful message!

I feel like I should say something about statistical impossibilities and how presentation is everything... but others have probably tried and failed. Seriously, this is the most bitter post I've ever seen. And I've been to 4chan.


OT: Congratulations. Still, remember: hard to get works. The opposite doesn't.

Also, on the matter of courage wolf:

Spoiler

FEAR OF REJECTION
>:O
IS WORSE THAN REJECTION

What? I'm lazy.

Don't even bother. I, and many others, have all gone down this road with RAK. He won't budge. You're just letting yourself in for a bucket load of hair-pulling level of frustration and all you will get out of the end of it is a warning when you finally lose it.

 

[spartan231490]

Congratulations sir, and great motivational right there. Sadly, I have already followed badass wolf's advice, and I have nothing to show for it. Then again, I certainly didn't lose anything, so.

 

[Erttheking]

Good for you man.

 

[CATB320]

Nice! It's good to see someone having a romantic success in these forums

Rejection is scary, but sometimes you just have to grow a pair or spend the rest of your life/a long time moping about it.

 

[kouriichi]

I used to hit on women like you.... Then i put a ring on a finger.

But all horrible memes aside ((DO DRUGS, KILL A BEAR)), being outgoing and making yourself known to the girl of your eye is really what you have to do. I met my girlfriend ((now wife)) on a forum. ((No, it wasnt 4chan. Shes a freak, but not that big of one, and shes pompous, but i didnt meet her on the escapist either, shes not THAT pompous.)) I took a leap, and asked if she wanted to friend up, and from there we talked, moved on to AIM, and then finally i asked if she wanted to Skype.

I took the leap of "she might be a dude trolling", and im glad i did. Taking leaps is what really gets you places. And im going to put it to all single males. If you want to get out of the friendzone, start making leaps!

You cant put an arrow in their heart if you dont point your bow at them! ((I do not endorse shooting people with bows, unless their adventurers, and your aiming for the knee.))

 

[Buzz Killington_v1legacy]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests.

[...]

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware.

Oh, for Christ's sake. I'm a massive game-playing nerd and former software developer who's the biggest Shakespeare nerd you're ever likely to meet (two degrees and counting, in fact). I do things like write programs to double-cast roles in Elizabethan plays. I am a huge, huge geek, in other words, and I've been married to the same woman for a decade and a half. If women are turned off by your interests, START TALKING TO DIFFERENT WOMEN. This isn't rocket science.

As for the rest of it...maybe--just maybe if you stopped talking like this:

I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest.

Then this would stop being true (if it even is):

There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am.

If there's one tiny bit of wisdom I've learned in my *mumblemumble* years on this planet, it's that women find self-pity and/or self-loathing a turn-off over almost everything else.

Read that again: WOMEN HATE SELF-[PITY, LOATHING]. When you talk like this, even to us or just yourself, you are radiating an unconscious field of "You're probably gonna hate me", and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Ditch the attitude, find different women to hang out with, and I can all but guarantee you your luck with women will improve.

It won't be easy, and you'll go through a bad relationship or two (everyone does--it's like falling off the bike the first couple of times), but you'll get there.

 

[FernandoV]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already.

Eh? You can never be too excited at the start of a relationship.

You can actually and it's really annoying for the non-overly excited person. I've lost interest in people in days because they get too excited.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

Good job to you ol chap. I raise a glass of the finest wine and tip my hat to you. Here's to your relationship working for ya.

 

[hazabaza1]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Jesus dude, take a chill pill. Go wank or something, I'unno.

OT: Good for you man. Just don't end up like this guy is something bad happens.

 

[ally2264]

besides if someone say's "no, sorry i don't like you back"that person would take it as a lovely complement.

 

[Skillswords]

the thing is with geeks is that we have a fear of embarrassing situations and loss of close friends because we could not only lead us to humiliation, it can also lead to alienating one of the few people in a small circle of friends for us. This especially holds true with a crush because you'll end up driving them away if ya screw up.

and yes, you can remove the we's and us's with I in that paragraph and get my current social standing.

 

[That One Six]

I'm wondering why so many people are making negative comments. It gets on my nerves. I know what it's like to be in the OP's shoes, and I know the great sensation that courses through one's veins when this sort of thing happens. So, from me, congratulations, and I wish you two the best.

 

[CODE-D]

do you have a pic of her?

 

[That One Six]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Funny, my girlfriend helps me build computers and whatnot. Perhaps you should look harder? I'd rather you didn't pollute a happy experience with your bitterness, but that's just me.

 

[tirsden]

I'm just gonna bypass all the other tangents and say: If you don't ask a girl/guy, you will always have the equivalent of a "no." You have to actually ask, to get anything other than "no." You still might get "no," but then at least you can move on and look for "yes" somewhere else.

Good luck, and to the OP as well. ^_^

 

[Gmans uncle]

The guy of my dreams is currently dating another guy, (I'm Bi, he's gay) so I'll have to wait on taking your advise mate, but your story does give me hope, and genuinely put a smile on my face.

 

[marioandsonic]

You, good sir, have earned 27 Man Points.