So I had my heart ripped out...

[Oh That Dude]

Simulord's advice seemed pretty reasonable. To be honest, time will be the judge of how important he is to you. One thing I would say is, don't try to change what and who you are and also don't act like someone you're not, that can only lead to more problems later. Believe me.

 

[The Stonker]

well ive never really been hurt by people i love (even my ex when she left me it was like "meh ok") so i cant really say much for you but i think if you just wait for a while and find a hobby you will get the right person

Well aren't you a soulless little bastard

But my advice to you from the multiple heartbreaks that you get is to eat some ice cream and watch moulin rouge.
Step 2.Get back on your legs and smile to the world and the world will smile back (Even tho if the earth you would be walking on would grin all the time then it would be quite scary in fact.

 

[hyperhammy]

My advice, have sex with anyone you can get your hands on, which will kill any feelings you have and make you immune to getting hurt. =)

Or just screw with his best friend.

 

[default]

Time heals all, even a broken heart.

I know it can be hard to believe, but it really is true, trust me.

I hope you feel better soon... x

 

[InGrindWeTrust]

It will be rough, but just try and do things to take your mind off it. Go take a long bath, make yourself some dinner, watch a film or read a book. The more time that goes by, the less it will hurt. I know that's not what you're looking for now, but look back after a day, then a week, then a fortnight, then a month- by then, things will have improved. Now, you just have to grit your teeth and try and make it until then. It worked for me, it can work for you.

 

[Lordmarkus]

Firstly, I say build up your self esteem, though I definately don't blame you. Your current view on life won't help you one bit in moving on or accomplish anything other than misery.

Delve deep into your favourite hobby, do what you love and try to ignore the world for a moment and as many has said, time heals everything.

 

[Mark Crimson]

There is no easy anwser. I know what you're going through. I recently lost a good friend that I care very much about. It's a bit different, as we weren't in a relationship. But I've always had the biggest crush on her, and she knew it. It even let to some ribbing between the two of us. But it recently took a turn for the ugly as she got herself a boyfriend. I did somethings I now regret and now I've lost two friends, (the boyfriend was also a friend of mine). In the last couple of hours, I had what I think is the 'final conversation', taken because I needed to take responsiblity and I at least wanted to walk away on equal terms. It didn't go well.....

My point is, it's never easy. My heart felt like it was trying to leap out of my chest, (this has gotten better), I've cried more then I ever wanted to, and I can't get a decent night's sleep. I know it's rough. But at least you can say that it didn't turn ugly. Break ups happen all the time, and the only thing you can hope for is that it goes as painless as posiable.

It'll pass eventually, it always does. I want my friend back more then anything. I miss her dearly. But wishful thinking never brings anyone back. It sucks, pure and simple. For now, I'm just trying to keep my mind busy and focused on other matters. Doesn't work all the time, but being depressed for an hour or two helps more then being it all day. Focus on yourself for a bit and it'll pass.

 

[hyperhammy]

My advice, have sex with anyone you can get your hands on, which will kill any feelings you have and make you immune to getting hurt. =)

Or just screw with his best friend.

You know, sarcasm or not, I don't think that's the sort of thing someone who recently got a heartbreak wants to hear >_>

Actually, in my experience, laughing about something makes it better.
So, chin up, life goes on.

 

[Avelestar]

*snip*

Spoken like only a divorced man can.

Toughen up princess, I'm sure you're a great girl and will find someone else to love. But for now do something to take your mind off things, watch a movie, play some vidyagames. Sure they don't seem as fun whilst you're in the stink, but it passes the time and you aren't spending all your energy on dark thoughts.

 

[Lucifron]

OP

My best advice is to not listen to what Paksenarrion said. Time heals everything in the end, as long as you let it.
Mourn for a while, then pick yourself up. The main characters in this [http://questionablecontent.net/] webcomic are experiencing exactly the same thing as you are. You should read it from page 1. And don't worry, the art gets better.

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[Outright Villainy]

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Time heals everything- as hard as it may be to believe, especially after a heartbreak.

Look, you're not the only type of person in your situation. It's never easy, but you can lessen the pain by interacting with people who'll listen to what you have to say. I doubt you're as pathetic as you claim yourself to be, although with your understandable vision of things as they stand, it may be hard for you to accept that.

You have no friends? You have some here. I know it's not the same, but it's still something. You obviously made this thread seeking an outlet and some support, and that's what you're going to get. Trust me. Some of us are always here to help.

If you feel hollow when you wake up, if you're losing appetite and sleep, if his thoughts torment you everyday... release them. Rant, cry, write in a diary. Don't destroy yourself though, no matter what. I really doubt you're alone where you stand. If nowhere else, we're right here for you. Some of us at the very least.

The only way to get over someone you love is to gradually let go. I don't know the detailed cirumstances behind your separation, but you will have those scars healed in time. The best You can do is take steps to make it the least painful as possible.

This guy has the most solid advice going. You need to just let it all out, in whatever way you can; be it to people here, or even your parents. If you can talk to either parent (though probably your mother) about what you're going through, I'm sure it'll make a huge difference, as they'll always support you. I don't know what your family situation is, but don't rule it out. They can surprise you.

It's...it's impossible. I know the feeling. You want to yell and scream and turn your fear and loneliness into anger and frustration, but you can't. You'll start trying to find fault and cling to anything you can find, because the only other alternative is to accept that it was your fault, and you cannot live with that. You'll switch back and forth between rage and depression. You'll desperately try to find things to distract yourself, but years from now you'll realize you've withdrawn yourself from all but the most token social contact.

There is a rather dangerous way to not feel the effects of grief and abandonment...

...pretend to be someone else.

You'll need to isolate yourself from everyone who knew you. Start a new persona. It gets easier over time. You'll find yourself becoming the role you play.

The dangers...if you still live with your parents, they'll be a constant reminder of who you were before; they'll become a reminder of that...event. You'll find yourself detaching emotionally from them, and from anyone else who knew you from before.

It's a constant battle with yourself. You end up just trying to live day by day. Or, if the memories keep haunting you, hour by hour, or even second by second.

Not to be rude, but honestly this is the best example of what NOT to do. Running from the past and what you were will just catch up on you; is it really worth abandoning everything else just to try and distance yourself? Also, in times like that, you need the good things you have already to fall back on. If you run from it, the only thing you'll have left is the thing that drove you to run in the first place.
Bad. Idea.

 

[viranimus]

As a person on the verge of breaking up, I would say it really is possible to truly love someone, but circumstances prevent you from being around them.

 

[Geekmaster]

I advice you to keep yourself busy for a while. It's not entirely different from... Say getting fired while having large expenses..

Your foundation has been taken away which leaves you feeling powerless and abandoned.

Since you mentioned uni I expect you're not that old so you still have plenty of time


In fact, I believe relationships are like everything else in life and takes practice. I'm 27 and so far it has probably taken at least 10 relationsships (that I can think of) and beyond twice that in uhm.... Short term partnerships to "get it right".... For now

Bottom line: Don't fret. Learn from each failure to build on future successes.

As hard as it may seem right now, if you will it, you may actually end up seing this as an opportunity to discover what the world has to offer you.

 

[Lust]

I accepted the break up.

I knew what was coming and I let it sink in. I didn't deny that this was the end. Though, I felt like crap. Good thing my family reinforced what I had already felt. They gave me the moral support that I needed. Even though, I have always coped with loss well.

I thought about what she meant to me all the time. I finally accepted the fact that we didn't click.

I'm not really helping, am I? Damn!

All I can say is, "always have someone to talk to."

 

[Talon_Skywarp]

Sod it.

Be right...these things happen I find so I don't tend to dwell on them. Go out, piss about with your friends, visit a theme park and eat a lot of kebabs.


Ok that's my plan but it usually helps...

(remembers he's been single for 2 years)

Damn

 

[MasterV]

Try to get over it. Play some video games. First time is hard for everything. There we go,lesson learned. Hopefully, next time you won't be so sentimental over a break-up

 

[LC Wynter]

Either find someone else, or if you're into gaming, get a copy of S.T.A.L.K.E.R.
Seriously, brah. It's good stuff. You'll really get immersed in the world.

Or you can just find another partner. That's cool too.