So I had my heart ripped out...
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Oh poor thing. Don't worry, it happens to the best of us. I think I was in the worst break up of all time, so I think I know about this stuff.
So, just cry it all out. Then talk with someone close. I don't know you, but I guess you can PM me if you want. Open up a bottle of wine and pop up your favorite jazz album.
So, just cry it all out. Then talk with someone close. I don't know you, but I guess you can PM me if you want. Open up a bottle of wine and pop up your favorite jazz album.
I just remember that relationships are doomed to end in either stagnation or partner demise, thus value them as what they truly are.
A union of physical and psychological needs, natural to the human species, enjoy them while they last and enjoy yourself when they end.
A union of physical and psychological needs, natural to the human species, enjoy them while they last and enjoy yourself when they end.
Get a job and a purpose in life, I suppose.
Something like this may happen to me soon, due to the fact that I messed up my exams very badly, so I guess telling you this is of some benefit to myself too.
Your mood swings and depression were getting to him: sort those out. To an extent, you've dug your own hole. Only you can get out of it, in the end. Others will help, but you can't rely wholly on them, because that's not fair.
Keep yourself busy. Idle hands do the devil's work.
Something like this may happen to me soon, due to the fact that I messed up my exams very badly, so I guess telling you this is of some benefit to myself too.
Your mood swings and depression were getting to him: sort those out. To an extent, you've dug your own hole. Only you can get out of it, in the end. Others will help, but you can't rely wholly on them, because that's not fair.
Keep yourself busy. Idle hands do the devil's work.
I have had a similar situation, but I was never in a relationship with her. I guess I was taking it a bit too slowly for her and she went out with someone else who was quick to the point. I wont get into details because this thread is about you, but she lasted less than a week with him until figuring out he was an asshole. And to top it off, she is one of those girls who believes in bullshit like "Never regret anything" so even months later she refuses to give me another chance.Girl With One Eye said:
As far as getting over someone you love? For some it just takes time, but some people like us it may just take forever..
This is why I don't want to date until I'm out of school.
Time heals nearly all wounds. I think you're best off getting yourself stabilized, getting out of the "funk" you mentioned, renew your self-esteem, and find another relationship in a couple years.
Time heals nearly all wounds. I think you're best off getting yourself stabilized, getting out of the "funk" you mentioned, renew your self-esteem, and find another relationship in a couple years.
Aw yes you do, we're your buddies.Girl With One Eye said:
My advice:
Pour your heart out onto paper, write down all your feelings. It's a wonderful release.
Cry every time you feel sad. Don't try to block the pain.
Learn to like being by yourself, learn to see yourself as a whole rather than a half of something. Try to appreciate the little things in life that make you happy - a long, warm shower, a new videogame, a comedy series you like, some little sweets or chocolate treats.
I won't lie, it's going to be one the worst times you've ever been through but I promise, you come out the other side ok. It just takes time.
I normally change my feeling from extreme depression to extreme rage and then calm down. Or light their house on fire.
Just wanted to say thank-you all for your kind words and private messages, its really helping in this time when I feel so alone. I'm sorry that so many of us have been hurt or are still hurting, I hope we all feel better soon.
Did you by any chance write the original Scott Pilgrim vs. The world?Suki the Cat said:
I dunno, seems kind of familiar.
OT: Do something epic with yourself. Friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years, went to Austria, and did an 800ft bungee jump. Tons more crap in Europe too. Maybe it's the answer?
Ok, I'm not sure that I used the same quote, letter by letter, but I think that I've say 87% of what you've just say up there, a few years ago.Girl With One Eye said:
Anyway, enough with making a fool of myself, getting down to business!
Time heals all wounds(I didn't believe it either, at first).
The best thing is not to think about it(I know easier said than done
)But think about something that'll distract you from your emotional pain.
See a comedy(not a romantic one, because you'll go like: "why does the hero always get the girl?" and feel bad about your ex), or see a philosophical flick(a documentary, or something to make you pounder and distract you).
Don't go all emotional and self-destructive(you may think that sad music and tons of chocolate help, but on the long run they only prolong your sorrow; I know, because I've been there)
Oh, almost forgot, considering your delicate state(and your emotional nature) it will do you a lot of good if you stop being pessimistic.
Probably you think you're ugly, unattractive and don't have any skills, friends, goals or things to make life worth living. That's not true(if that were true then who could you have had a boyfriend?).
Try thinking: "Hey, maybe my life's shit"(although that's not true)"but at least I've had one sweet moment of pleasure and love in it". "Who knows maybe similar time will come? Maybe even better times will come?"
Anyway if you really feel that you need to get over him, because you didn't "screwed up" anything.
Unfortunately I'm not such a great advice giver, but I'll try to end on a high note:
There will always be someone more "pitiful" than you: some people don't even get to taste love, some people die young because of social problems, some people never had a steady relationship(take me for example), some people have a genetic problems and can't feel love or pain.
Don't worry, because when you're down, there's no place to go but up!(man, do my moralising speeches suck or what?)
Probably not forever(my break up lead me to a big depression). Time heals a lot of stuff, trust me(you won't, just like I didn't trust others), it does miracles!nofear220 said:
Maybe it won't make you as good as new(if you had it really rough you'll be left with some emotional baggage), but you'll be back in the game sooner than you expect!
Guy here , so take my advice with a pinch of salt . If your story is true , then he really did still love you , but thought he would put his career in front of hist relationship with him . Do you really want a person like that to stay with you forever? As generic as it sounds , he totally didn't deserve you , seeing as you are a warmth-hearted soul.
There will be plenty of guys out there for you , some will be assholes , one of them will become your husband , just don't lose hope . Learn from the experience and move on , time doesn't exactly heal anything to be honest . It is YOUR life and only YOU can decide if you wanna cry over this guy forever or move on to greener fields.
There will be plenty of guys out there for you , some will be assholes , one of them will become your husband , just don't lose hope . Learn from the experience and move on , time doesn't exactly heal anything to be honest . It is YOUR life and only YOU can decide if you wanna cry over this guy forever or move on to greener fields.
- I do things I enjoy to distract myselfGirl With One Eye said:
- I throw myself deeper into activities that reinforce my self-worth
- I meditate a lot.
- I remind myself that the only person responsible for my emotional well being is me