So I had my heart ripped out...

[Uncreation]

Ok... i'm not even sure where to begin. First of all, i'm sorry to hear about this. I'm not going to pretend i know what you're going through, because every person is unique, and feels things like these differently.
But, i saw you said you didn't even know why, so, i though i might give it a shot. I've taken out some of the things you said in your post.

*snip*
I don?t know how I?m ever going to find someone to love me, when I?m such a loser. I don?t have friends, or a job, or any purpose in my life. He was the person who gave me strength to make it through every day.
*snip*
He said I have mood swings and my depression is getting too much for him.

I don?t know how I?m ever going to get over this, how can I get over someone when I love them so much. Even though he?s hurt me, more than I?ve ever been hurt before, I can?t even hate him.

I'm sure that that's at least partly the sorrow of the breakup talking. However... and i'm sure i'll be called a jerk for this, you seem quite... uh, fixated on him. I mean, i understand that you love him, and that the breakup is affecting you, but things like: "I don?t have friends, or a job, or any purpose in my life.". I don't know, that does not sound right.

Now, i'm a guy, and i read, i have heard and i have been told many, many, many times by both guys and girls, that being so dependent on the other is not good. Plenty of people find this unattractive. I've been told over and over again that being needy is a big turn off, at least for girls. That they don't like to be put up on pedestal by their boyfriend, and be the other persons "only reason to live", or other such things. Maybe that is true just for girls, but i think plenty of guys would also find that unattractive.

And you should have some friends, some goals in life, and most likely a job, anyway. Those things are quite useful to have, boyfriend, or no boyfriend.

I don't know, maybe i didn't quite understand what you meant. I'm sorry if i didn't.

Anyway, i think the best thing for you to do now, would be to just try and concentrate on other things. Other parts of your life. If there aren't any, then build them. I think this would do you the most good, in the long run. Find something that can give you satisfaction, outside of relationships. Hope this helped.

 

[sam13lfc]

Time's the best healer really, trust me : \

 

[Smagmuck_]

-_-
*Hugs*
^_^

I wish I could help. The best thing you can do is try to move on and hope they come back.

 

[Vampire cat]

I dye my hair, find some cool clothes and look awesome. Thats how I deal. Then I'm awesome for 2-3 months until I've forgotten his name, and BAM; I'm over it OO.

Did you by any chance write the original Scott Pilgrim vs. The world?

Never heard about OO.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

The fact that people break up with each other over bullshit like this is a reason why I have turned asexual.

Other factors include not having to deal with similar shit to this and being independent.

 

[Dags90]

I think your major problems are horrible amounts of codependency and low self worth, not a failed relationship.

 

[CouchCommando]

Oh sorry thought you were posting about some horrific freak accident.

 

[shticks]

How do you get over someone you love?

The best way to get over someone is to find someone else, I realize that's not always easy.

The Best way to get over someone is to find yourself again.

It's not abnormal to give up some of what makes you "you" in a long term relationship the best thing to do is to realize what you like in life and DO IT. Pick up an old hobby...... Start a new hobby. Reconnect with old friends that you lost touch with..... or make new ones.

IMO it important not to take your loneliness and latch on to another person to fill the void. Fill it with something that will be around after the next guy breaks up with you.

 

[Aur0ra145]

This is just another sad breakup thread, so if you don?t want to see/hear it, then turn away now.

Yesterday, the only person I have ever loved broke my heart. And I don?t even understand why. Even during the three hours that it took for us to say goodbye, he still kissed me and told me he loves me. I?ve barely slept and I can?t sleep because if I lay in my bed I just think about him, and it hurts so much. I?ve been in relationships before, but I?ve never cared about the other person. I don?t know how I?m ever going to find someone to love me, when I?m such a loser. I don?t have friends, or a job, or any purpose in my life. He was the person who gave me strength to make it through every day.

He said his reasons for breaking up with me, was because he has other issues like family problems, and he?s starting his masters at uni soon. So I guess I was the only existing problem he could get rid of. He said I have mood swings and my depression is getting too much for him. And every word he said was another stab in my heart.

I don?t know how I?m ever going to get over this, how can I get over someone when I love them so much. Even though he?s hurt me, more than I?ve ever been hurt before, I can?t even hate him.

How do you get over someone you love?

Last time I broke up with someone I loved, I drove 450 miles in my pickup truck. Met up with some of my bestfriends, packed and drove another 150 miles to a state park, so we could hike another 6 miles and sleep ontop of a rock and drink beer.

 

[YouCallMeNighthawk]

It just takes time, also hopefully this should give you the inspiration to get a job as it will take you mind of him and keep you busy or find new friends so that you might need someone else.

i genuinely am sorry to hear this has happened to you but like they say "things happen for a reason" even though the reason may not be clear yet.

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

First of all, I'm sorry. I know that probably doesn't mean much coming from some random internet stranger, but I do mean it.

It's hard to get over someone we love, for everyone. The best way for me is thinking about how happy that person is, and know that I will find someone who I can make just as, if not more, happy.

As for having friends, that should be your priority. In my eyes, your friends are the ones who are going to be more important. I've had lots of friends, but now I only have 3 that I really consider friends, and even then only 3 or 4 that I would consider acquaintances/companions.

If you want someone to talk or vent to, I'm here to listen.

 

[Daipire]

And here I was hoping for a Temple of Doom thread...

OT: Find someone else, that works perfectly.

I thought I found a girl I fancied more then the last, but I've recently discovered something that's made me like the previous girl.

We seriously need a 'relationship' topic.

 

[Nouw]

Spoiler: Listen to this song. It'll make you feel much much better

Feel better?

 

[PurpleSky]

I dye my hair, find some cool clothes and look awesome. Thats how I deal. Then I'm awesome for 2-3 months until I've forgotten his name, and BAM; I'm over it OO.

I have no ideea how that helps you girls get over someone.Or how you can forget someone's name in a few months.

And here I was hoping for a Temple of Doom thread...

Spoiler

Haven't laughed in these forums in a long while,thank you!

 

[CobraX]

Get over it. Your acting like your 12.

 

[Lavi]

How do you get over someone you love?

Honestly, I ain't gonna sugar coat this. You defined your life by a man! That is PATHETIC. How the hell are you going to love another person if you can't love yourself first?! You aren't. You don't need a relationship right now so don't bother running after him or going to get another one to leech an existance off of. You need to learn to love and respect yourself realizing you can exist alone.

You know another factor as to why he broke up with you? This. Men aren't clueless or unemotional things for women to cling onto. The fact that you are so insecure in yourself is something he would have known.

He didn't hurt you. You hurt yourself by letting this manifest into a situation where you feel like he gave your life purpose and your life is practically non-existant without him.

SO: Harsh, but necessary. You need to learn how to love yourself before you can love somebody else, because if you don't, you'll never truely love them. To get over him, you need to realize you aren't even prepared to have someone. You need to spend time on you.

 

[mythicdawn12]

Take fighting classes. Physical exertion helps out with emotional stuff. With the bonus of being able to punch things.

 

[Glamorgan]

I don't have the social skills to either know what it's like to be in that situation, nor how to fix it.

But until you fix it, you can't go wrong with a little bit of cheering up.
As such, here's a dog in a swing.

I have never been in a relationship so I really wouldn't know what to do. I guess go do something you love doing, also watch this video, it is adorable. <youtube=S3xAeTmsJfg> . Sorry if I wasn't really helpful.

Thank you good sirs. You just made my day.
They're almost as good as Still Alive on repeat in terms of cheering me up.

 

[Glamorgan]

How do you get over someone you love?

From my experience, badly. But, that's just me. Maybe it's the fact that I'm incredibly insecure, but whenever I like someone, unless it's a special case, I usually progress from attraction to love in a week or two. I always have a problem with moving on. Honestly, the best thing to do is wait it out. This always works, but it can be very painful. Otherwise, try just finding someone you can talk to. This makes this so much easier. If you're lonely and friendless, I would be more than happy to try and help.