So Let's Talk About Sex....
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your hand does not give you the same satisfaction. Trust me. IT DOES NOT! neither for the guy or the girl. Sex is way better feeling in practically every way. That said, I don't necessarily condone sleeping around. If you want to have sex with every person with a hole/dick I guess that is your choice, but it just becomes meaningless in the end.
Besides, no guy likes the idea of sleeping with a girl who has had too many partners. Its just kinda...ew.
Besides, no guy likes the idea of sleeping with a girl who has had too many partners. Its just kinda...ew.
Eh. I prefer not to judge people for being a little promiscuous and having some casual sex. There's nothing really wrong with that. Hell, provided it's safe and both parties know that it isn't anything more than sex but neither treats the other in a demeaning, dehumanising way, I applaud people for it.
I can't bring myself to do it because sex is still a little bit strange and frightening to me. Give me some time, and experience, and I might be able to become a little more sexually liberated. Maybe.
I can't bring myself to do it because sex is still a little bit strange and frightening to me. Give me some time, and experience, and I might be able to become a little more sexually liberated. Maybe.
I am afraid I must disagree with you. There are many reasons to turn it down. My main reason is that the girls that have been available in my life set off many red flags. Primarily the she is emotionaly unstable or she is clingy, ect alarms. That's a damn good reason to say no. I will wait for a sane and clean girl. I will grant you than some of the females may have been drunk, but when the alarms go off I cut them out of the picture no matter what.Sadly_Awake said:
I back drisky, after all I also don't make a big thing of sex. Sex is just a physical act, not an elite club.
I don't understand random sex. When you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone they have been with, and everyone those people have been with and so on. If anyone in that tree has an STD, you do too. Condoms work, but I wouldn't rely on them for it only takes 1 falure to ruin you.
Emotionally unstable can be dangerous depending on the kind of instability. Clingy by itself is not necessarily a bad thing if you've got enough of a dominant personality to deal with the care and feeding of someone who is more pet than girlfriend.2fish said:
As far as having the stink of excessive alcohol consumption on her, that's enough of a turnoff with me that it's easy to turn her down.
(Off-topic / jerk / troll)
What do stupid people with no money do? Procreate.
What do stupid people with money do? Procreate with prostitutes.
What do smart people do? Not care.
I think I figured out why we still have stupid in our gene pool.
(On topic)
I am sixteen and I have no experience or opinion on the matter yet, because I can't seem to find anyone who is at my level of... intellect? Not sure if that is the right word, but nobody I know seems to think about science or math or the big picture of where our civilization is going. Everyone I know seems to only worry about shoes and what the guy/girl next to them says about so and so, I hate being intelligent sometimes, because that's all people near me talk about. I focus and doing things that are important, and until I find someone that thinks the same way I do, I probably will die alone, since nobody seems to like things like string theory or trigonometry, or doing the 'smart' and what is deemed by society and our civilizations as 'right' thing.
What do stupid people with no money do? Procreate.
What do stupid people with money do? Procreate with prostitutes.
What do smart people do? Not care.
I think I figured out why we still have stupid in our gene pool.
(On topic)
I am sixteen and I have no experience or opinion on the matter yet, because I can't seem to find anyone who is at my level of... intellect? Not sure if that is the right word, but nobody I know seems to think about science or math or the big picture of where our civilization is going. Everyone I know seems to only worry about shoes and what the guy/girl next to them says about so and so, I hate being intelligent sometimes, because that's all people near me talk about. I focus and doing things that are important, and until I find someone that thinks the same way I do, I probably will die alone, since nobody seems to like things like string theory or trigonometry, or doing the 'smart' and what is deemed by society and our civilizations as 'right' thing.
In my opinion, casual "having-sex-with-you-for-no-real-reason-other-than-to-have-sex" sex is totally acceptable. That being said, unless getting a girl pregnant is okay with both of y'all, I think you should *always* wear a condom.
Casual sex is a weird subject for me and my boyfriend. We'll allow it as long as it's BOTH of us participating at once, so it's still the two of us in bed but just with an extra few bodies ;D
There is no one thing suits all for humanity and this is extremely objective however I have felt both sides that casual sex was better and that meaning full sex is better all I can say is we are generaly emotionaly driven if the physical and very very powerful stimulants you get from sex and climax is what you want go for it and if you want a loving deep connection go for it but your more likely to lean to what ever side your jonsing for at the moment and forget the past.
I hate to sound old, but all you 'casual sex' fans wait until you're a few years older, when you're looking for a guy/gal to actually settle down/get married to who doesn't have herpes/4 kids/lots of emotional baggage...and when you can't find one the whole 'casual sex' lifestyle will have something to do with it. Everyone should just cool their jets a little bit and quit thinking with their dicks.
I hope this post makes sense, as I am up way too late.
I hope this post makes sense, as I am up way too late.
You know guys who are in the triple digits at the age of 19?
Would it make you feel better to know they're liars? I know guys at the age of 29 who are rather good with women, and even they're not in the "hundreds".
Would it make you feel better to know they're liars? I know guys at the age of 29 who are rather good with women, and even they're not in the "hundreds".
Sorry, but imo, you're just being a prude there if you're "bothered hearing about people like that". If it's not your thing, it's not your thing, but if you're at the point of actually being bothered by someone else's active sex life, you should rethink the subject a bit imo.
Sex is fun. It's great. There's no reason to avoid it. And don't jump on HIV, yes, the risk increases the more you have it, but you have to be having sex with a person who has HIV (something that's rarely a case) and have the condom fail it's 98% protection or whatever. If you wanna live by those odds, buy a portable bridge and use it to cross the street to avoid ever being hit by a car. And then cry in agony when it goes onto the curb and still hits you.
Anyway where was I. The point is, I understand where you're coming from, personally. I myself am not big on jumping every chick I meet and casual sex is not the first thing on my list of priorities in life. I much prefer a solid relationship and someone I care about.
But a sexual friend is not an alien thing. It's not something to be feared. It's just the next step and we, as a society on the whole, are usually afraid of next steps. Are you telling me that you've never had a friend who you were somewhat intimate with? It's usually called a "best friend" but with a denotation "of an opposite gender" (sorry I guess this is a generalisation, nothing against gays/bisexual peeps, just talking from a heterosexual PoV here). You might feel comfortable doing 90% of the things couples do, might even spend more time together than a couple does. You might hug, cuddle while watching stuff, etc. Basically, all you're not doing is having sex.
So why not? I'm not saying every such relationship should do it, but it's not some "omagawd, stepping over the line" sort of thing when some do. That's basically what an open relationship is, a good friend you have sex with.
Sometimes it can be purely mechanical and some people do it just for the sake of sex itself, but hey, it's just a step up from wanking and I doubt you'll tell me you think that's wrong&evil. And I should remind you, the previous generation of prudes did refer to wanking as wrong&evil.
Anyway, it boils down to social evolution. A new generation will often take a step forward and if we're not a part of it, we'll likely feel the urge to think it's wrong. It's a built-in stopping mechanism and yes, it's purpose is to make us rethink what we're doing. So rethink it, don't just blurt out the moral outrage based on nothing but that built in feeling.
Sex is fun. It's great. There's no reason to avoid it. And don't jump on HIV, yes, the risk increases the more you have it, but you have to be having sex with a person who has HIV (something that's rarely a case) and have the condom fail it's 98% protection or whatever. If you wanna live by those odds, buy a portable bridge and use it to cross the street to avoid ever being hit by a car. And then cry in agony when it goes onto the curb and still hits you.
Anyway where was I. The point is, I understand where you're coming from, personally. I myself am not big on jumping every chick I meet and casual sex is not the first thing on my list of priorities in life. I much prefer a solid relationship and someone I care about.
But a sexual friend is not an alien thing. It's not something to be feared. It's just the next step and we, as a society on the whole, are usually afraid of next steps. Are you telling me that you've never had a friend who you were somewhat intimate with? It's usually called a "best friend" but with a denotation "of an opposite gender" (sorry I guess this is a generalisation, nothing against gays/bisexual peeps, just talking from a heterosexual PoV here). You might feel comfortable doing 90% of the things couples do, might even spend more time together than a couple does. You might hug, cuddle while watching stuff, etc. Basically, all you're not doing is having sex.
So why not? I'm not saying every such relationship should do it, but it's not some "omagawd, stepping over the line" sort of thing when some do. That's basically what an open relationship is, a good friend you have sex with.
Sometimes it can be purely mechanical and some people do it just for the sake of sex itself, but hey, it's just a step up from wanking and I doubt you'll tell me you think that's wrong&evil. And I should remind you, the previous generation of prudes did refer to wanking as wrong&evil.
Anyway, it boils down to social evolution. A new generation will often take a step forward and if we're not a part of it, we'll likely feel the urge to think it's wrong. It's a built-in stopping mechanism and yes, it's purpose is to make us rethink what we're doing. So rethink it, don't just blurt out the moral outrage based on nothing but that built in feeling.
I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that you're a nihilist.The Man With the Soap said: