So Let's Talk About Sex....

[Evilsanta]

I am what you call a hopeless romantic...Mostly thanks to all damn romantic movies.

I dont condone casual sex but i feel that it should be done with some you care.
And i must admit if i found out that the girl i am dating would have sleept around i would think less of them which sickens me as i dont want to judge people like that.

 

[Naleh]

At 18, I've never been in a relationship. I've only ever even had two crushes (heck, for all I know they might not have counted as crushes), and those weren't until I was 16/17.

And to be honest? I have no interest in it. If I ever have sex, it'll be with someone I love; and if I never find someone I genuinely love, I'd be perfectly satisfied with a single (and, yes, therefore virgin) life. From all I've heard, love is a fantastic emotion, but so far it hasn't proven necessary to my happiness.

But if other people want to have casual sex, all power to them. It's not what I want for myself, but I don't have a problem with it.

 

[Elementlmage]

I would like to give you a high five but I am pretty sure that would be a bad idea...

Giving a high-five to ANY guy over the age of 12 is a VERY bad idea.

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Anyway, my greatest shame is that I am 22 and still a virgin. Because of this, I am rather strangely envious those who can have such casual relationships. I wouldn't call it jealousy as much as curiosity though. My opinion of such relationships basically boils to: "To each his/her own". That is the way I think about it mostly because I don't know my own needs yet, so, in an effort to remain open to my own needs, I remain open about that needs of others.

Well, back to trying re-master metal songs so that they are listenable through HLSS.(I think this might have something to do with my lack of a relationship xD)

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AGH! No matter what I do there is a freakin buzzing sound right around 350 hz that doesnt show up outside of when I am playing it in game... I WILL GET RID OF IT!

 

[Datsle]

its a something completely different with someone you love.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Some friends I know have friends at that age (19) who are in the hundreds.

Im sorry I just cannot believe that. You would have to be a very successful prostitute to get that kind of number.

OT: I personally do not really mind casual sex, nor do I romantic commitment. Depends on the current situation.

Yeh...that does smell pretty strongly of bullshit. Young men lie about this stuff, all the damn time.

I have no strong opinions and I don't care what others do. It's a non-issue for me, I have no sex drive.

Sex is about procreation anyway, that's why it exists...to make babies. We're such a self involved and narcissistic species that we make it about us.

 

[Timmehexas]

I'm more of a romantic and although I do have a bit of a perve when I see an attractive person, I don't think I could ever just have sex for the sake of having sex, I need a spark to be there an emotional attachment. And some people just like to have some fun, to each there own.

Sex is about procreation anyway, that's why it exists...to make babies. We're such a self involved and narcissistic species that we make it about us.

Gah damn it, I knew I was doing it wrong.

 

[Lord Krunk]

Note that I'm in no way saying my way of thinking is better, it just works best for me. I personally don't see the point in going around fucking everyone you possibly can when you have your hands to give you the same satisfaction. For example, I know a girl who is 19 and has had sex with 29 men. And she lost her virginity at 17.

I know a girl who's 16 that has for many years enjoyed toying with other girls' sexuality. As in, snatching them away from their boyfriend just to spite them. And she has a boyfriend herself. Shadenfreude if ever I saw it, but that's probably a much more deviant example.

Regardless, I'm a friend-with-benefits myself. I enjoy the idea of hedonism without regret, for both parties involved. No hard feelings if either wants to move on, and it can always become serious later on.

 

[FamoFunk]

Sex is good.

I'm all for casual sex with as many people as you like (even at the same time if you wish!) if you're not in a relationship, you can practise safe sex, have knowlage on STI's, birth control, condoms etc. Then why not? As long as both parties know it's "just sex" it's a win win as you've both sorted out your sexual desire. Plus "fuck buddies" or "friends with benifits" is fun!

I really dislike how a woman will get branded a slut/whore/slag, while the man will get high fived and told to "get in there" as long as no one is getting emotionaly hurt or physically, then shag away.

 

[junkmanuk]

I am a virgin

Since when?

Am I the only person who found that funny?

Anyway, sex is fun; with as many and varied people as your life allows. Life'a too short as it is.

 

[int boom]

And she's not the worst I know. Some are in the triple digits and they're not even 30. Some friends I know have friends at that age (19) who are in the hundreds.

I don't understand human interaction well enough to attain such a high tally, but I would if I could. If I could find romance I would probably prefer that, but I don't meet people much and no one seems interested so I'll never know.

 

[Betancore]

I don't really care for casual sex myself, but I'm not into the whole saving myself for the right person either. As far as my first experience went, I can safely say that I'm glad I didn't, since I'd rather screw up with the wrong person than with the right person. Then when you find the right person, or at least someone you experience a strong emotional connection with or whatever, you know more or less what you're doing and everyone can enjoy it a little bit more.

So I'm sort of on the fence. I don't go out there and attempt to have sex with as many people as possible, but I reckon if you don't try at all, you're missing out on a bit. I know a guy (don't we all?) who has sex with most of the women he meets, and still claims that he's just looking for a relationship. But hey, I have reason enough to believe that it's all consensual, so I'm not about to tell him to stop or anything. Anyway, I don't think sex should be treated too lightly, but it shouldn't be taken too seriously either. In the end, it's just to make babies. Everything else is just a by-product. As long as you're aware of the consequences of what you're doing, and you're not hurting anyone in doing it, then you're fine by me.

 

[Eldarion]

Or more specifically, your feelings towards casual sex and romantic sex.

Just something I'm curious to find out, how does the Escapist feel about open relationships, casual sex or people who sleep around a lot?

This is something I've been wondering about for some time now but never really got around to asking it. I was talking with a certain user here who shall not be named, who is in full support for casual sex and open relationships. Now, I think I've made my stance on the subject clear by now, but for those of you who don't know, I am the type of person who wants to wait for someone I love until I have sex so needless to say, I don't agree in the least with those types of people who go round having sex with as many people as possible.

Note that I'm in no way saying my way of thinking is better, it just works best for me. I personally don't see the point in going around fucking everyone you possibly can when you have your hands to give you the same satisfaction. For example, I know a girl who is 19 and has had sex with 29 men. And she lost her virginity at 17.

Now I may be a prude or I may be close minded with an old fashioned way of thinking but am I the only one who is bothered when you hear about people like this?

And she's not the worst I know. Some are in the triple digits and they're not even 30. Some friends I know have friends at that age (19) who are in the hundreds. Personally, I don't see the point of that. Thinking about things like that makes me very uncomfortable and I know that's just me but I can't be the only one.

I'm all for sexual freedom, but when it gets to that point, it becomes a little much.

So, Escapist, what do you think about all this?

For those of you wondering, I am 16, a virgin and an atheist, so my opinions on sex are not affected by religious influence.

Old fashioned, just like you. I think it it supposed to be special.

 

[Sebenko]

Meh, I've slept with... a few people.

Not many. But I'm already tired of random sex. Seriously. It was fun and all, but explaining stuff to new people, making sure they're not an STD infested whore, etc. etc., then ending up with some mediocre sex because we don't really know each other or our likes and dislikes wasn't really that good.

Meanwhile, doing stuff with my boyfriend is great- we don't need to spend ages dicking around with finding out what we like. Great sex on tap, so to speak.

 

[Meanmoose]

Having sex for fun is totally fine... It's not like that's going to ruin sex with a partner you love later. Sex to me is either good or fantastic!

 

[Timmehexas]

Meh, I've slept with... a few people.

Not many. But I'm already tired of random sex. Seriously. It was fun and all, but explaining stuff to new people, making sure they're not an STD infested whore, etc. etc., then ending up with some mediocre sex because we don't really know each other or our likes and dislikes wasn't really that good.

Meanwhile, doing stuff with my boyfriend is great- we don't need to spend ages dicking around with finding out what we like. Great sex on tap, so to speak.

Sex in tap form you say? Where would I find said tap?

Is it wrong that I giggled just a tiny bit when I read the words dicking around? Well if thats wrong then I don't want to be right.