So Let's Talk About Sex....
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None of you geeks have ever been laid, so what are you basing this off of? Pretty much everyone is a slut compared to you
My sex life is my business, nobody has any right to judge anyone else's sexual habits as right or wrong in any way shape or form because morality is completely down to personal perception.
I have nothing against casual sex and sex in commited relationships. I have no problems with 3somes, 4somes, orgies or a simple roll in the hay with your loved one.
I wouldn't partake of casual sex if I was in a relationship, and I'm not going to promise to anyone to not fuck more than one person while I'm NOT in a relationship.
I have no religion other than my own spiritual beliefs which are not based on any form of deity, so there is nothing swaying my beliefs on sex and sexuality in that way.
Live and let live for fuck's sake.
And for the record, I'm currently in an open relationship. We're completely in love, and the fact that we have other people round to play with us will never change that. \o/
I have nothing against casual sex and sex in commited relationships. I have no problems with 3somes, 4somes, orgies or a simple roll in the hay with your loved one.
I wouldn't partake of casual sex if I was in a relationship, and I'm not going to promise to anyone to not fuck more than one person while I'm NOT in a relationship.
I have no religion other than my own spiritual beliefs which are not based on any form of deity, so there is nothing swaying my beliefs on sex and sexuality in that way.
Live and let live for fuck's sake.
And for the record, I'm currently in an open relationship. We're completely in love, and the fact that we have other people round to play with us will never change that. \o/
I've gotten two perspectives on the subject from a couple of acquaintances. Example One could only be classified as a womanizer. He made no attempt to disguise the fact that he entered relationships for the sex, and was completely disinterested in long-term commitment. His problem was that he objectified it to the point where he nearly forgot that an actual human being came with the naughty bits, and ended up offending and hurting several girls by being completely insensitive and essentially using them. This came back to bite him in the ass when he encountered a girl he had real feelings for, and she rejected him because she knew about the way he usually handled relationships.
Example Two, a girl, was the victim of someone like Example One, and avoided commitment specifically because she was afraid of the other person using her. Since then, she's been going at it with whoever strikes her fancy, swinging both ways to boot. She doesn't do it for a momentary thrill, though; she remains friends with most of her bunkmates and seems to genuinely enjoy the intimacy. When an open relationship is that consensual, I suppose I see nothing wrong with it. It's just a different sort, and not something that should be condemned so quickly.
Personally, I think it's best to wait until you meet someone you truly care about, simply because it's a rather momentous occasion, and one that should be valued rather than taken for granted.
Example Two, a girl, was the victim of someone like Example One, and avoided commitment specifically because she was afraid of the other person using her. Since then, she's been going at it with whoever strikes her fancy, swinging both ways to boot. She doesn't do it for a momentary thrill, though; she remains friends with most of her bunkmates and seems to genuinely enjoy the intimacy. When an open relationship is that consensual, I suppose I see nothing wrong with it. It's just a different sort, and not something that should be condemned so quickly.
Personally, I think it's best to wait until you meet someone you truly care about, simply because it's a rather momentous occasion, and one that should be valued rather than taken for granted.
Julian King, You have earned +3 respect points with me now. I would wait for 2 things before I do the deed: A, to be in a long, committed relationship, and B, to be at least 18.
Sleeping around just sounds stupid and slutty to me, *flame shield up* but that's my take on it.
Sleeping around just sounds stupid and slutty to me, *flame shield up* but that's my take on it.
I'm 15, Virgin and an Atheist.Julianking93 said:
*A wild lurker appears*
-An excursion through hyperbole forest-
Let us use logic and math to be our guide and trusty orienteer.
There have been specific numbers 'laid' about in regards to quantity of sexual partners which would seem to be 'promiscuous' in their accuracy.
For a 19 year old to have over 100 separate partners the person in question must have started a regiment of locating and establishing an entirely new person to have sex with averaging about once every 3 weeks starting from age 12 nearly non-stop for about 7 years. (Not to mention the amount of sex involved if you re-use some of the partners at least a few times.)
Public Query: Is it reasonable to believe above mentioned task possible for a child between the ages of 12-19?
Clarification: The frequency of sex or amount of partners will not make a female, "loose".
OT: Attitudes towards sex tend to be set initially by the definition of sex. When I express that I don't mean the text-book definition of the action, but the meanings similar to what a "high-five" is and what it means. (i.e. a high five is to hands hitting each other) it meaning is constructed on an instance to instance to person to person basis. The same with sex. So it all depends on your own unique definition of the act. Some have a romantic view of it others a causal hedonistic view.
"Sex" like "God" is not clearly defined and has no stable consensus among people ergo everyone's construction of what sex means is correct in relation to the self, but not correct in relation to outside one's self. One should always be careful when expressing something that is not true outside of one's self most particularly if one is keen to pass judgment.
Public Query: If the disadvantages (STD & unplanned Pregnancy) of being promiscuous with sex where nullified would it be amoral to be promiscuous?
-An excursion through hyperbole forest-
Let us use logic and math to be our guide and trusty orienteer.
There have been specific numbers 'laid' about in regards to quantity of sexual partners which would seem to be 'promiscuous' in their accuracy.
For a 19 year old to have over 100 separate partners the person in question must have started a regiment of locating and establishing an entirely new person to have sex with averaging about once every 3 weeks starting from age 12 nearly non-stop for about 7 years. (Not to mention the amount of sex involved if you re-use some of the partners at least a few times.)
Public Query: Is it reasonable to believe above mentioned task possible for a child between the ages of 12-19?
Clarification: The frequency of sex or amount of partners will not make a female, "loose".
OT: Attitudes towards sex tend to be set initially by the definition of sex. When I express that I don't mean the text-book definition of the action, but the meanings similar to what a "high-five" is and what it means. (i.e. a high five is to hands hitting each other) it meaning is constructed on an instance to instance to person to person basis. The same with sex. So it all depends on your own unique definition of the act. Some have a romantic view of it others a causal hedonistic view.
"Sex" like "God" is not clearly defined and has no stable consensus among people ergo everyone's construction of what sex means is correct in relation to the self, but not correct in relation to outside one's self. One should always be careful when expressing something that is not true outside of one's self most particularly if one is keen to pass judgment.
Public Query: If the disadvantages (STD & unplanned Pregnancy) of being promiscuous with sex where nullified would it be amoral to be promiscuous?
I personaly believe sex and open realtionships are up to the couple I am still a virgin mainly because I dont have a GF
Haha. These kind of topics are always fun. I remember my own thread, that somewhat questioned the rather fierce opposition to casual sex, casual drugs and casual-other-things on this board. It wasn't pretty.
It wasn't pretty at all.
There's nothing wrong with sleeping around. Nor is there nothing wrong with waiting 'for the right person'. Of course, I personally doubt there's such a mythical creature as The Right Person, but that's subjective.
Actually, it all is.
To a girl, sleeping around can be both empowering as it can be slutty. A guy sleeping around is just as slutty/awesome as a girl doing this. Pre-conceived notions based on what's socially accepted is just that: subjective, arbitrary bullshit.
Nothing is set in stone.
So sleep around, but if you do, at least take some precaution. Lots of sex is fun, but STD's and babies are not.
It wasn't pretty at all.
There's nothing wrong with sleeping around. Nor is there nothing wrong with waiting 'for the right person'. Of course, I personally doubt there's such a mythical creature as The Right Person, but that's subjective.
Actually, it all is.
To a girl, sleeping around can be both empowering as it can be slutty. A guy sleeping around is just as slutty/awesome as a girl doing this. Pre-conceived notions based on what's socially accepted is just that: subjective, arbitrary bullshit.
Nothing is set in stone.
So sleep around, but if you do, at least take some precaution. Lots of sex is fun, but STD's and babies are not.
I believe people should have sex whenever they want to with whom they want to. I personally don't see sex as something intimate or special. To me, it's nothing different than eating or pissing.
There would be many a dainty fellows in federal penitentiaries across the land that would be inclined to disagree with the validity and accuracy of that statement, good sir.Levski7 said:
I sorta feel the same as you. Like, I'd rather have sex with a girl that I love than just going around looking for random girls to fuck. I've had sex with my girlfriend whom I love so very much, and to me that's better than doing it with a girl you really don't know. That's the way I think about it. So you really aren't alone
The truth? Sex is an important part of an intimate relationship. And if you'll wait out of principle, or insist that the person you have sex with has to be the one you're going to be with for the rest of your life - you're going to ruin your life. Either one way or the other.
I mean, no need to sleep with as many people as possible. Or have sex with everyone you're intimate with. But finding the right partner involves looking for them, 's all I'm saying.
I mean, no need to sleep with as many people as possible. Or have sex with everyone you're intimate with. But finding the right partner involves looking for them, 's all I'm saying.
I know a girl who claimed to have lost her virginity at 12 to her sisters boyfriend. Yeah, that bad.
But I couldn't give a flying fuck how many other people sleep with. So long as I wear a johnny I'm safe for most things. However, if you have feelings for the girl then make it special, if she's special then make it special. She's not just another slut from a night club.
But I couldn't give a flying fuck how many other people sleep with. So long as I wear a johnny I'm safe for most things. However, if you have feelings for the girl then make it special, if she's special then make it special. She's not just another slut from a night club.
Hmm, guess we're kind of doppelgängers. I'm also 16 and an atheist virgin. Our views don't differ too much, but enough for us to be doppelgängers.Julianking93 said:
In all honesty, while our opinions don't differ too greatly, I still have one qualm with this statement that some may find as....odd or prudish.The Unworthy Gentleman said:
I personally wouldn't really want to be with someone who has had a lot of partners before me. Specifically in the 10s or 20s or more. Though, considering I just turned 17, it would be kinda weird for someone around my age to have double digits in partners.
Got a friend, I'll call her sam, she lost her V-plates at age nine and has fucked about 78 people since then. All casual relationships.
She's 15. Dude.
Me, I have a boyfriend. Sam tells me that casual sex leaves you hollow and empty, constantly looking for someone to fill your hole or someones hole to fill, and tends to be something of an emotional rollercoaster, especially if one feels too strongly about their casual partner. She says that she regrets everything, but who would want a 15 year thats done shit like that? Sam is literally trapped in that lifestyle. Personally, my loving relationship with my boyfriend is far better for me in terms of happiness, mental well-being and sexual health. Plus, I know where his dick has been.
Theres never that certainty with casual partners and that can lead down some dark roads indeed (read: STI's/STD's, shotgun weddings and unwanted pregnancy).
She's 15. Dude.
Me, I have a boyfriend. Sam tells me that casual sex leaves you hollow and empty, constantly looking for someone to fill your hole or someones hole to fill, and tends to be something of an emotional rollercoaster, especially if one feels too strongly about their casual partner. She says that she regrets everything, but who would want a 15 year thats done shit like that? Sam is literally trapped in that lifestyle. Personally, my loving relationship with my boyfriend is far better for me in terms of happiness, mental well-being and sexual health. Plus, I know where his dick has been.
Theres never that certainty with casual partners and that can lead down some dark roads indeed (read: STI's/STD's, shotgun weddings and unwanted pregnancy).
I don't have anything against people in open relationships, or those who have casual sex. It's the ones that do it too much that I have a problem with. Word gets around, and if those people wanna settle down with someone later on in life, the fact that they've slept around a lot makes them less appealing in many people's eyes. There's also the obvious ris of STDs.
While I don't have anything against those people, I myself am monogamous. I didn't wanna just fuck some girl at a party and have that be my first time. I waited and am now in a relationship with someone I love. We've consumated our relationship and it was just right. It was how I envisioned it when I was younger, that's for sure. It was very special, too.
While I don't have anything against those people, I myself am monogamous. I didn't wanna just fuck some girl at a party and have that be my first time. I waited and am now in a relationship with someone I love. We've consumated our relationship and it was just right. It was how I envisioned it when I was younger, that's for sure. It was very special, too.
Here here. I can nothing but say that I agree with your point of view. And while this might be the reason why I am still a virgin, I think I have made my point clear to myself.Julianking93 said:
I'm 17, quite horny, and a satanist (modified LaVey-satanism)