So relationships...Why?

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Speaking as someone who recently entered a relationship...

It's nice. It's nice to have a girl that makes you happy, and you can make her happy, just by being together. Plus, she's also a great friend. We still do all the stuff we did as friends (including lots of gaming), but now we have something else as well.

Personally, the only downside is that I start missing her pretty bad, even though we saw each other the day before!

 

[Trogdor1138]

You'll know why when the time comes

Everybody is going to break your heart in the end, it's about finding the ones that are worth the pain.

 

[Fappy]

I don't feel like I'm wasting my time if someone can shift my mood from sad to happy with a simple smile. >.<

 

[Zaik]

People want sex, but there's a stigma on being promiscuous, so relationships were created to be a ritual involving undue stress and annoyance on both parties in order to have guilt free sex.

 

[^=ash=^]

It beats being alone

This, having someone to commit to is lovely ... I want that feeling again :/

xxx

 

[Kris015]

Eventually, you'll meet a person who makes you truly happy. Someone who makes you feel like a part of you is missing when they're not around. Someone who makes you want to try things you've never considered before. That's why. When it's good, a relationship is like a puzzle. The pieces fit together, and the picture isn't whole otherwise.

That's fucking deep. But true, very true.

 

[Brian Hendershot]

Cause its nice to know there is someone who is always there for you if need them. And yes I realize your mother or someone like that might possibly fill that void in your life, but I ask you this. Can your mother cook for you AND satisfy you sexually? Please GOD let the answer be no.

Also, the getting to know someone is nice. I mean it sounds weird, but its nice to let someone get to know you. Let them see the part of you that no one else sees and then watch as they accept that part of you and even love it. That's always nice.

EDIT: I have always thought of it like this. There are two types of people in the world. People you wanna marry and people you wanna fuck. When you find a girl you wanna marry, hold on to her and don't let go. Cause in the words of the over quoted Bob Marley, "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for."

 

[bdcjacko]

Cause getting some tang on the wang feels great. And not having to pay cash money up front only makes it sweeter.

Plus I guess companionship and having someone there for you is nice too.

 

[Palademon]

I had to facepalm at everyone who wrote "For sex".

Yes, that is an advantage, and ONE reason. It may be a leading reason for some but not all.

Sure, I'd like to have sex. I'd also like to be compatable with someone, and spend the rest of my life with them acting snarky to the rest of the world. Because aslong as I have them, who needs the world?

I'd like knowing that for once somebody sees things like I do and agrees with me, making me feel important. I'd like to be someone's favourite thing in the world.

Sex is an important part, but it's not the only thing that can cause relationships to live or die.

 

[creager91]

I gotta be honest it is nice to see such optimism in this thread but I do have a question for those in the long term relationship.

I have a female best friends, I mean I have always had one and no more now that I think of it, like even when one friendship ends I end up finding another, but at the same time I have never been attracted to these girls, other guys have, damn ive almost gotten into a lot of fights from being the protective older brother haha like I know that guys find these girls hot and to be honest I do too until they become my best friend then its like theyre my little sister and I just dont see them as attractive anymore.

So how do you marry or get into a relationship with your best friend? I guess I just dont get it it might be because Im so young tho i wont rule that out

 

[MelziGurl]

I've been single now for 7 months. I've loved the freedom of it, but I like idea of having someone to come home to, a person who truly loves you for the person you are, that can make you feel the way family and friends just can't.

My ex decided that after cheating on me before proposing to me, then cheating on me some more and eventually falling in love with my best friend that it was time to end our relationship. After everything he's done I still want to share myself completely with someone, but I have been left with some deep seeded trust issues which that person will need some patience and understanding with.

 

[gustcq]

DEstiny man destiny! theres some1 waiting for ya always! -__-.
I guess it is part of animal and human behavior(which are animals) .
True they can get stressful, annoying etc...
It's all part of the life experience.

You dont wanna die a loner nerd in a couch with every console in the world weighting 600 pounds

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Sex. Relationships are all about having a readily available source for sex.
Cynical? Maybe. But true.
Anyway I know I will never meet someone who I want to spend every single day with. That to me is the true killer of relationships. Successful relationships are built on both parties having time away from the other to be themselves.
... and sex.

Wow... You're quite cynical. I suppose if you wanted to go further you could imply that society forces people to view being in a relationship as positive, and being single as negative?

Meh. The anti-depressants I'm on render me essentially asexual for the duration of the treatment, but I still managed to find a girl I wanted to be with just for the sake of her company. Being around her just feels right. And I'll stop now before any further cliches...

 

[Verp]

I don't do romantic or sexual relationships. I generally don't get attached to people and very few of them make a lasting impression. Don't get me wrong, I do like people, but I don't see why I'd need specific people to be with, even though long-lasting friendships are indeed pretty convenient.

The idea of "belonging" to someone and having someone whom I'd "complete" is very creepy to me. I don't want to be anyone's partner unless it's, like, a professional partnership.

 

[bdcjacko]

I don't do romantic or sexual relationships. I generally don't get attached to people and very few of them make a lasting impression. Don't get me wrong, I do like people, but I don't see why I'd need specific people to be with, even though long-lasting friendships are indeed pretty convenient.

The idea of "belonging" to someone and having someone whom I'd "complete" is very creepy to me. I don't want to be anyone's partner unless it's, like, a professional partnership.

Well you don't because the relationship would be a hollow empty gesture. But just because you personally have no reason to be in one doesn't mean it is the same for everyone else. It would be like someone trying to describe why they like chocolate to someone that doesn't like chocolate. You really can't.

 

[Baby Tea]

Sex. Relationships are all about having a readily available source for sex.
Cynical? Maybe. But true.

Cynical? Yes.
True? Absolutely not.

I've been married for just under 3 years. My love for my wife isn't rooted the search, or desire for, sexual gratification. I'm not 15. I don't love my wife because we have sex. That's ridiculous. I don't stay with my wife because we have sex, that's juvenile. I didn't marry my wife so that we could have sex, that's idiotic.

If you honestly think that's what relationships are about, then you've either have never had a meaningful relationship, or you're the latest fad: A cynical teen on the internet. That, or you've had the worst examples of relationships paraded around you your whole life, which is beyond sad. If you aren't some cynical, inexperienced teen, then I find it hard to believe you'll ever have a meaningful relationship with that attitude.

And this:

I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money.

What?
What kind of relationships are you in?
What are earth are you worried or stressed about?
What are you jealous of?
And what money are you wasting?

If you're seriously stressed or worried about a relationship, rethink the relationship. Or the roles within it.
If you're jealous, or if your partner is, then that's a personal vice, not a relationship problem. I have no worries, stress, or jealousy if my wife went out for lunch or something with a friend of hers who is a guy. She's her own person, and if I can't trust her to go out with a friend, then I shouldn't be in that relationship. Straight up.

And 'money'? Tell me you're just young. Money means nothing in the face of my wife's happiness. If you're putting your finances over your partner, then what worth is that relationship? Any money I spend on my wife is hardly wasted.

Geez. No wonder divorce rates are so freaking high.
Everyone has the most selfish views on relationships.

It's about sex, money, or how easy is makes your life, apparently.
Grow up, kids.

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

Having just entered my first real relationship I'd say the appeal is knowing that that person returns your feelings you have for them. Me and my girlfriend connect more than I do with any of my friends, even my best friend who I consider like a brother to me. I guess it's that emotional connection that really brings it all together.

Also, as for it adding stress, I've actually been less stressed since meeting my girlfriend. We talk a lot and I've found that it really helps me relax even when I'm worried about stuff like college.

 

[creager91]

snip.

I see what you're saying and I'd like to point out that I never said it was all about money or sex. I just said that to me, by which I mean through my observations of my own experiences and the experiences of the people I know, most likely due to my age I'll admit, relationships and dating in general cost a lot of money and generally that money isnt well spent.

Let me clarify, I personally have no problem paying for a girl on a date, provided she doesnt expect me to pay at all, I however will not pay for a girl that already expects me too, if she doesnt bring any money I'm walking out on her. When I pay for something I want it to be because I want to pay for her not because she expects me to.

At the age of 19 youd be surprised how many girls out there are like the one I just described. Also, I'm not the one saying that what I believe is the way it is. I understand that some people out there really do just find that one person that makes them want to settle down. And as a player I have always told my female best friends (as you can imagine they do get mad at me for being one on occasion) that a player is only a player until they find the girl that makes them want to throw it all away.

 

[SturmDolch]

snip.

Great post!

Romantic relationships are like having a best friend that makes you feel extra special. Someone you can talk about anything with, someone to help you when you're down, and someone to stop you from doing something stupid and give you advice. And then there's the whole physical aspect, too. Just knowing that someone you truly understand can understand you just as well is a great feeling.

Money, stress, jealousy... It's up to you how you'll deal with those.

Today's the third year anniversary with my girlfriend. We've both only been in one relationship, but it's working great.

Money is never a problem. Sometimes I'll pay, sometimes she'll pay, sometimes we'll split it. I really don't care about money spent since the time spent together is worth a lot more. Same goes for gifts.

Stress is way down, too. Most of my friends are going different ways now that we're in University. We're all drifting a bit. It's natural. If I didn't have my girlfriend, I'd feel a bit left out and alone.

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