So there's this girl...

[Dragunai]

So, keep in mind that the girl class gets upgraded attack power when they choose the BoyFriend feat.

Keep your distance, and drop DoTs on her until she can't easily Mortal Blow you with one hit (without KO her) and then line up your gems so you can get the double or triple word score with a single play. Whatever you do, don't persue from the roofs, or your persuer will assassinate you first. Try finding a good vantage point to get full charged sniper shots off, and remember to use smash attacks and ledge whoring where possible.

Good luck!

(Whipes a tear) Ah, noobs grow up so quick these days.

In order of reference:

Dungeons and Dragons (or any rpg based off of it)
World of Warcraft
Gems... Hmmm... Im gonna go with Alchemist on this one
Scrabble
Assassins Creed Brotherhood multiplayer
Not sure of the last handful, too ambiguous.

I feel that this is probably the most relevant reply to a dating thread on a games forum ever presented.

You sir, stand as a testament to the lesser trolls. Kudos on you!

TF2 (note 'charge') and Super Smash Bros.

*awaits cookie*

OT, the only advice I can give you is not to wait. I've tried it, and it is hell.

My dog currently smells like cookies, will that do?
Kinda Gross tbh.

I havent played TF2 but thanks for clearing that up for me.

OT:

Dude, look girls do this stuff from time to time. They will play games with guys for their own amusement because they can. Hell just 4 hours ago I was schooling my adoptive kid sister (not actually adopted, long story) on how to manipulate guys from my experience of seeing my 2 sisters do it and both my ex gfs trying it on me (hence EX gf)

Adopt the CIA approach to interaction with humans during the cold war. Assume she is Russian, wants to kill you and promote Communism over your corpse.

Failing that, utilise the advice of one of the other people here and give her an ultimatum.
"Him or me, no more games."

 

[newwiseman]

There is no way to win here.

Your only hope is if the BF somehow gets caught cheating on her, but then you would still need to make a tactical withdrawal as to not end up being the rebound guy. Relationships started as a fall back BF never last, and worst you end up being used as an emotional tampon (a boy friend with no benefits).

Your best maneuver would be to go on the attack with a bold offensive. Find a very attractive girl you like even more and back off the affection with your friend. If your lucky you'll be happy with the new lady, and make your friend a little jealous. This sets you up in a very good position if you two are ever single at the same time later.

Of course there is always the ass's gambit, you have to somehow convince her that her BF doesn't appreciate her while at the same time backing off from the affectionate behavior but dialing up time spent together. Best case here is you get to sleep with her, maybe date a couple months. You would be a prick but if I won't judge.

Regardless of decision you should back off and if she notices and confronts you about it you have to be completely honest. Tell her how you feel and you want to be her friend but can't be close to her because of how you feel. You'll come across as a bit of a pansy, so definitely DON'T CRY, at least where she will find out about it, but she'll be forced to have more respect for you. Keep you chin up and she may eventually see that she want you more. Weirder things have happened.

 

[newwiseman]

I've been the girl in this situation, all I can say is back off. She has to learn that she can't get both of you. She has to have one or the other, it isn't fair to you or her boyfriend to keep leading you on like that.

I actually choked on my own shock.
A woman with a reasonable responce to something.

ARGH the very walls of reality within the dimension are twisting and cracking.

MUST. FLEE.

As did I. I spit Mountain Dew all over a pile of laptops that I'm Repairing.

 

[Lem0nade Inlay]

How do you know she actually likes you?

There is no way to win here.
-snip-
Regardless of decision you should back off and if she notices and confronts you about it you have to be completely honest. Tell her how you feel and you want to be her friend but can't be close to her because of how you feel. You'll come across as a bit of a pansy, so definitely DON'T CRY, at least where she will find out about it, but she'll be forced to have more respect for you. Keep you chin up and she may eventually see that she want you more. Weirder things have happened.

This pretty much sums it up.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

She's in a relationship. Don't push her! You have to wait until she is ready to break up with him. Don't try to be that guy she cheats on her boyfriend with, but also, don't preassure her into ending her relationship. Just stay friends until she is ready to break up. In the mean time, you can spend your time worrying about more important things.

 

[beniki]

Just walk away. Moral superiority and all that.

I mean, she's lieing to someone. Either the boyfriend she's in a 'stable' relationship with, or you. In this situation, one of you is the sucker, and if you can't tell who it is, it's usually you.

Bah, the old 'I trust you' line irritates me more than anything else. It's just a way of assigning blame when she finally gives in to her lust and does something more serious with you, so she feels less guilty when she runs crying back to her boyfriend. Because she 'trusted' you.

Wow, I made myself annoyed. I'm going to go shovel snow until I cool down.

 

[likalaruku]

Just patiently wait. If she is a teenager, she & her boyfirend WILL eventually break up.

 

[PeePantz]

Girls like this are terrible and are "emotionally" cheating on their boyfriend, which in my mind, is worse. She obviously digs your chili and this odd relationship she has with you is going to create animosity between her and her boyfriend. She'll either toss you aside because of the strain, or breakup with her boyfriend. I suggest you wait it out. However, do not date her!

After the potential breakup, you should just hookup with her and have fun. She is not girlfriend material and obviously doesn't know what she wants. She won't remain true to you and will always be intrigued by others.

Just be careful. She might not even hookup with you if she breaks up with her bf, the thrill won't be there and she might either be bored or she might be too guilty about the whole the situation. If this is the case, you'll notice her distancing from you.

 

[BrionJames]

take it from me friend, I'm in a similar situation with a girl I work with, do yourself a favor and forget about it. In the end all you end up with is a broken heart.

 

[teutonicman]

Well you better do something else be put in the friend zone and then seen in the same sexual light as a lamp. Though.....it is possible you're already in the friend zone. To see if this is the case watch(carefully) how she interacts with her close female friends. Then compare and contrast with how she acts around you. It is possible she could be a tease.

 

[Gudrests]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

Set her on fire. its the adult version of pusing a chick into the mud.
If she has a bf dont be the prick to break her up. Makes you look like a jerk and creates doubt in her mind about your character from day 1.

If she leaves him of her own accord and comes to you WIN!

2nd reading of your post:

Sounds like she is messing with your head buddy. Probably wants you break her relationship up so you carry the blame. I'd walk.

Heres the advice I gave to another guy dealing with a retarded chick:

Find yourself a nice single hetero chick, preferably one who is pretty and feminine with a nice personality. Take her out for dinner with the final goal being to sleep with her.

GO BEARS!

close thread...this is all that needs to be said....but god man if she starts having problems with him and shit.....remember...HIM=DEVIL YOU=SUPERMAN.... (i got a girl calling me superman...she still does it...sooo awesome)...and dnt gimmie that im shy shit...im extemly shy...this is 2010....do what everyone does...be a man over the internet and sensitive in person.....and if you think she might be messin with ya....date her friend...and make sure that friend likes to tell her how amazing you are...

 

[zehydra]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

Do NOT! and I repeat DO NOT! KISS HER WHILE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. That's cheating(for her) and you know if she is willing to do that to her now boyfriend, she will do it to you. Stay away from physically doing ANYTHING with her.
Advice? Walk.
In Reality? Walk. Don't let this "love" crap screw you over. Just walk away from her and tell her that when she can respect people, she can talk to you again.

I'm going to have to support this. Listen to this guy, OP.

 

[Chronologist]

It's a trap. Don't go there. Just wait and see what happens. In the mean time, just forget about it and do something else until they break up or whatever. If they don't break up, you didn't waste your time.

 

[thedeathscythe]

She wants attention, or a back up just in case. If things are going well for her, and you don't want to be just friends, then back off. If it's going well, don't mess it up for him, and if you think you can be the guy on the side, remember that he might not like that if he finds out, and he might have friends...Trust me, I was that guy on the side and it didn't end too well. I had to take a beating and I learnt my lesson. Sure, he was a dick to her the whole time, but does that justify what I did? Not really, instead I went into someone else's business and messed around how I saw fit. If they break up, then go for it, but don't mess up a good thing, especially if you aren't ready to have your ass handed to you.

 

[kalakashi]

Well, a huge factor in all of this is your age. How old are you?

 

[Gothtasical]

i find it quite funny how mny of you are scorned into believing that their is such a thing as the friend zone and that you are for ever stuck in it if you happen to fall in it.
OP: to be quite honest there isn't much to do besides be her friend if you all of a sudden back off and quit talking to her you won't only hurt her feelings but yours if you really do care about her.

 

[Karhukonna]

Hah, cool replies in this thread. Anyways, on topic.

I kinda agree that you're in the friend zone right now, and you're having a very one-sided relationship here. My advice is this:

Tell her how you feel.

Honestly, that's it. No planning, no lies. Just the brutal, honest truth. But you have to also understand the realities of these things. She might not reply with the answer you're waiting for, she might dump you (or vice versa) in a few years. Anything could happen. Even bad stuff. So just accept the truth, man up and tell her how you feel. Ain't nothing that attracts women more than a man who is honest to himself.

And there's really nothing confusing about hugs and trust, is there? You're essentially a trusted male friend, which is a good thing to have around for any girl. Not so pleasant for said trusted male friend if he's got a crush on said girl, but...

Remember. Honest truth.

 

[BonsaiK]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

This seems very straightforward to me, not confusing at all and there are certainly no mixed messages here. She trusts hugging you etc because she likes you and she knows you like her and have respect for her, and therefore she feels that you're not going to take advantage and try to grope her in the wrong way or whatever. She won't want to kiss you though, for her I think that would be crossing a line into infidelity - and while she does like you, she doesn't like you enough to mess up the good thing that she's got going with this other guy who she probably likes just as much if not more. The hugging on the other hand is okay with her, because she perceives it as non-sexual.

If she's happy in her current relationship, then she's happy. Don't intrude. However, few relationships last forever. I wouldn't be holding out specifically for hers to fail though, because you could be waiting a long time - see other girls for now. However if her relationship starts having problems while you remain single, then you may wish to present yourself as an alternate option if you still have interest at that time.

 

[usairborne1123]

Dude, just wait it out and see what happens. You DON'T want to be a dick and be the reason her relationship ended, because in the end, you OR her boyfriend won't get any. Patience is the keyword. Don't fuck it up...