So you discover that your girlfriend is transgendered.
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If I discovered it about my boyfriend, I'd be weirded out, but I fell in love with him and that's not going to change.
If I discovered it about my boyfriend, I'd be weirded out, but I fell in love with him and that's not going to change.
My last girlfriend, we were together 3 years and she was awesome to me. Great sex life, great little apartment, looked after me, had good family (her parents and sister) etc. But if I found out she was transgender ooooooooooooooooh shit son. I'd be outta there so fast.
I'm a bad person I think. But come on.... COME ON.........!!
I'm a bad person I think. But come on.... COME ON.........!!
I've actually had this conversation with a transgender 'female' before. By the way, transgender covers a LOT more ground than you describe, but we'll go with your description.
I'd ditch them. I view such a thing as a mental defect. Harsh? So be it. It's my opinion and its my right.
I'd ditch them. I view such a thing as a mental defect. Harsh? So be it. It's my opinion and its my right.
Well, she's not a man anymore anyway, so it's not really a huge problem if she's so convincingly female that I'm discovering that she's transgendered.
Sorry, but this has to be done.
If someone decided to drop this bombshell on me right there on the telly I would flip out myself.
If someone decided to drop this bombshell on me right there on the telly I would flip out myself.
Ok, if it where me, and i was dating her for months to hte point where i really liked her, i would try to make it work, sex isent everything people.
One of my good friends is transgendered. Honestly, I can't remember how I reacted when I first met her (she was transitioning, and didn't yet 'pass' completely as female, so the fact that she was born male was never a surprise). I think we just started talking about our favorite science fiction, and left the discussions about gender for when we knew each other better.
If it was someone I was dating, I'd hope that she or he would feel comfortable enough with me to be upfront about their life, including their sexual identity. Frankly, I'd find it kind of interesting -- it takes a lot of bravery to throw over social taboos surrounding gender and identity.
If it was someone I was dating, I'd hope that she or he would feel comfortable enough with me to be upfront about their life, including their sexual identity. Frankly, I'd find it kind of interesting -- it takes a lot of bravery to throw over social taboos surrounding gender and identity.
Assuming that I somehow knew him* long enough to develop a relationship without discovering his little secret, I would immediately break up with him both because I'm not into dudes and I'd like to have children. For anyone else, I really couldn't care less how they choose to live their life.
*I don't know (or care) what the politically correct pronoun is. I'm using the masculine since this assumed person was born male, and is therefore only pretending to be female.
*I don't know (or care) what the politically correct pronoun is. I'm using the masculine since this assumed person was born male, and is therefore only pretending to be female.
Totally not. I have nothing against transgendered, transsexual or transvestites (not the same, I know), but I would be grossed out to thing I had sex with them. I's just not my thing. But by all means, you are free to do what you want to do and so should you. As long as we don't end up in bed together it's fine by me!Zeithri said:
depends how far along in the relationship I am, if I've only been going out a few weeks, I'd probably run for the hills, and then curl up into the fetal position crying. If I've been going out for longer than that, like a few months, so by that point I actually start caring about the person, I would have a serious talk with her and we'd discuss the best course of action. It may well not end up with me running away