So you discover that your girlfriend is transgendered.

[Sylocat]

Well, I'm bisexual, so I really wouldn't care...

 

[RatRace123]

"But how did we? Um, whu?"

Then I'd probably just accept it, if I was fooled for that long, then it shouldn't really matter. Plus the no children thing is a plus if the relationship ever evolved into something serious.

 

[Riobux]

I'd probably not really mind since if I fall for someone, I fall for them hard enough to not mind. However, I'd probably feel surprised and maybe slightly hurt at not being told before dating. It wouldn't really be so much that they're transgender that would bother me to be fair, but just how much of a big part it is to who they are and they felt like dating me without telling me that crucial piece of information. After all, I really don't think I could date someone for any period of time if they didn't know I'm bisexual, just because it's part of who I am.

 

[DefunctTheory]

N' they have surgeries to change the nibbly-bits of a man to a woman's

They can't lubricate naturally, and you can tell it's fake just by looking. Don't ask me how I know this.

You'd be surprised how well the expensive surgeries do.

Okay, some of them might pass at a cursory glance, but if you're down there for a while you'd have to be a virgin to not tell the difference. And unless there's some brand new procedure, they still can't self-lubricate, which is a pretty big tell in itself, given how rare that condition is in real women.

Like I said, you'd be surprised. Given enough money and time, they can make it look EXACTLY like a vagina, even to the trained eye. And while they can't self lubricate, their are pre-engagement lubrication options that can be put in place hours before hand.

Scary business, this gender bending business.

 

[Cheesebob]

Run, screaming, into the night

 

[Lord George]

Yay, the best of both worlds.

 

[no_more_usernames]

I'd STILL get to be the one who cosplays as Bridget. No damn surgical advantages! lol but seriously i probably would care or ba all that surprised as both me and my gf are bisexual.

 

[Mannayz]

I'd probably be weirded out, but if all things have been going well in the relationship, I don't see why it shouldn't continue. Then again... future conversations and certain "activities" are going to be a tad more awkward...

 

[Deviltongue]

If She(he?) was my girlfriend(boyfriend?), I'd get the fuck outta dodge. Otherwise, I wouldn't give a shit, I'd make a bunch of tasteless jokes and move on. It's what I do with all of my friend's problems.

 

[Rarhnor]

What girlfriend? And that's ketchup on my hands...

 

[Sporky111]

This thread is very disappointing.

It's not like they were lying to you, it's like someone who's gay/bi who never came out. It's not that they're lying to you, but that you made an assumption.

Aside from that, I'm sure it would be a insecurity issue. Would you really expect someone to say, "by the way, I'm transgender" as soon as you meet them? Many people (as evinced by this thread) would turn and run. If it doesn't come up in conversation, it's not important.

If you couldn't tell, I wouldn't have a problem finding out someone I know is transgender.

 

[Zero47]

I wouldn't be able to stay in that relation. First of all it's something that should be shared before you enter a relationship together, by not sharing this information a transgendered person puts her/his loved one through a lot. I would feel my trust violated.

Second reason is more personal. I am a straight man and I find gay sex quite repulsive, we couldn't ever be intimate together. No matter what people say sex is important to a long lasting relationship. There would also be the issue of children, I find the prospect of making children, these little humans that grow and share our genes incredably fascinating. It is something a couple shares, something that binds them together, not having that would be disapointing on itself.

Without that (slight) possibility of a long lasting relationship I wouldn't want to attempt it, no matter how much I like her or feel connected to her.

If it was a friend I would probably be a bit shocked, but wouldn't have any problems with it. The person remains the same, not like I had anything to do with her/his genitals anyway.

T's not like they were lying to you, it's like someone who's gay/bi who never came out. It's not that they're lying to you, but that you made an assumption.

If it's your girlfriend... Technically it isn't lying but she knew you would make the assumption she's female, she also knew this would be a very large factor in wether or not most men would go into a relationship with her. Not mentioning it is akin to lying.

 

[DarkRyter]

I'd be a bit grossed out, but they just get a downgrade from "girlfriend" to "friend".

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

If they were a girlfriend then naturally I'd feel betrayed and angry, and would end the relationship there and then.

If they were a friend/collegue then the former would give the same reaction, although I'd be slightly more understanding and the latter wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Meh, as long as the sex is good, I could care less.

The phrase is I couldn't care less, If you can care less then it means a lot to you.

This thread is sexist to any female users. Shame.

Not if you read the actual OP where it is stated that it doesn't have to be a girlfriend.

THANK YOU.

I hate seeing people get that wrong.


Also, this is kind of a difficult thread for me to answer, so ... I'm not going to.

 

[Mrsoupcup]

One of my good friends is transgendered. Honestly, I can't remember how I reacted when I first met her (she was transitioning, and didn't yet 'pass' completely as female, so the fact that she was born male was never a surprise). I think we just started talking about our favorite science fiction, and left the discussions about gender for when we knew each other better.

If it was someone I was dating, I'd hope that she or he would feel comfortable enough with me to be upfront about their life, including their sexual identity. Frankly, I'd find it kind of interesting -- it takes a lot of bravery to throw over social taboos surrounding gender and identity.

One of ex's was a Hermaphrodite. (Apparently, we never did the deed, but she said she could do it to herself. I was almost jealous in a way. Well at least she was honest before we did it.) Note: Again we never actually did do it, when she told me I said no. (If I was really drunk I may have gone for it, probably regret that)

 

[Snotnarok]

I ..shrug my shoulders and not care? They're a woman now, so what? If anything I'd ask them how they look so damn good and how I can get the same treatement.