Taking of Names, oh and marriage

[DigitalSushi]

I would want my husband's surname. I don't like be connected to my 'father's' side of the family so I would want any way to separate myself from it.

Though... when I was engaged (no longer) we had planned on having a handfasting and I wouldn't take his surname until a year and a day later when we had the second ceremony.

To any who are curious... a handfasting is a pagan version of a wedding. Traditionally... the couple has a ceremony were they are bonded as man and wife. Then they wait a year and a day to see if they will actually make it as a married couple. If so, their souls are bonded together a year and a day after the first ceremony.

Sorry about the lesson... didn't want anyone confused...

No need to apologise for giving us lessons.

Three seperate bank accounts is the way to go: yours, mine, and ours. I buy what I want, you buy what you want, and stay out of my wallet.

I like this.

 

[King_Paco]

i'm a man. i would not mind giving up my last name. it was my biological dad's therefor i'd rather do without it.

 

[traceur_]

Hell yes she's taking my name. Why?

Spoiler: This is why.

 

[CouchCommando]

I don't give a shit about taking his name. There are more important things to argue about in a marriage.

lol so true.

 

[AngloDoom]

Whose ever name is the best. That, or if they both suck or we can't decide, we change one of our surnames to one we like and both take it.

Ultimate compromise.

 

[DigitalSushi]

edit: OK people of the escapist, what about taken you and your partners name and mixing them up to create an entirely new surname?, not a double surname hyphenated or whatever, but an whole new surname, a hybrid of sorts of two names.

Yep, sure have. Getting married is far easier than getting divorced, too -- again, you'd think it would be the other way around.

What about being granted a Decree Nisi? isn't that a quickie divorce?, I wouldn't know how to actually obtain one.

Its something I really need to know to be honest, I get bored easily, and i'm the worst partner to have.

 

[Golden Gryphon]

I wouldn't mostly because I can't imagine myself with anything other than my current name and I want to be the fourth person in my family with Dr in front of our surname. Among my parent's friends most of the women have kept their surnames because they have already established themselves with that name. My mother changed hers because she hadn't published any significant papers when she got married.