The Friend Zone
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Well that's the advice I got from about 3 people. I can't even find any reasons not to any more. I think the thing that's making me reluctant is that she's a good friend and it would kinda ruin it either way, us breaking up (I'm terrible at relationships, as you can tell) or her rejecting me.RhombusHatesYou said:
Nope, never got stuck in the 'friend zone'. I did have a female friend that wanted more from me but I didn't find her attractive, so I used the 'friend zone' excuse, but really there was never any hope for her at all.
Fine. We'll do that when you stop torturing us with mixed signals and leading us on over the span of several months.Lineoutt said:
See the other side of the story?
I asked out a girl who considered me a close friend. She found out I liked her, I asked her out (the first and only time I've ever asked out anyone because it was the first time I felt as confident about it) and she rejected me, multiple times, making excuses that were untrue, and now just says she doesnt want a boyfriend and would rather have a good friend instead because apparently they're harder to come by. She said I was "Unique, thoughtful and actually kinda cute". Obviously not cute enough since one of her past times is staring at twilight pictures...FML
EDIT: Months have past and she was the only person who said I was hot in a picture of me at the prom, who wasnt a person I know purely through the internet. I repeat, FML
EDIT: Months have past and she was the only person who said I was hot in a picture of me at the prom, who wasnt a person I know purely through the internet. I repeat, FML
Okay, ask yourself if that fear is worth having to sit back and watch her date more arseholes, knowing that you never even tried?fishman279 said:
Yeah I've been in the FZ before, and honestly it never really bothered me after I left high school. Mainly because I'm one of those guys that no longer gets stuck on one girl, at least I don't let it elevate to a certain level, and that I ALWAYS am able to find my next new potential...special friend. Seriously, I've been told by several people that I've never met a woman (one I am attracted too) that I didn't have a thing for, whether it was for ten minutes, ten days, or ten months... haven't bridged the ten year gap though. I'm able to handle rejection well and move on to the next. Alot of you on here will probably be able to do that no problem once you get older, especially once you get into your 20's.
However, the FZ thing isn't really something that I get into anymore. Usually it's because if I have any sort of romantic interest in a girl I let them know immediately. I don't get all mushy and exclaim my love from a mountain top, it's as simple as just asking them out on a date. Don't disguise it as a "friendly hangout" when you really want a date. Tell them it's a date and treat it like one. Usually for me, we either become romantically involved or the jig stops there. I only have a few reallly good female friends though, the rest are just acquaintances I will hang out with periodically or run into at social gatherings. So because of this I keep myself out of the friend zone (The FZ where you actually want to be more then just friends) because they are either established as my good friends, or we were never really that close to begin with.
If you meet someone you like, ask them out, and do it quick because they may lose interest. I have never ever understood the phenomenon of people wanting a certain person to know they like them and yet are too scared to tell them. It's a bit of a contradiction in my book.
However, the FZ thing isn't really something that I get into anymore. Usually it's because if I have any sort of romantic interest in a girl I let them know immediately. I don't get all mushy and exclaim my love from a mountain top, it's as simple as just asking them out on a date. Don't disguise it as a "friendly hangout" when you really want a date. Tell them it's a date and treat it like one. Usually for me, we either become romantically involved or the jig stops there. I only have a few reallly good female friends though, the rest are just acquaintances I will hang out with periodically or run into at social gatherings. So because of this I keep myself out of the friend zone (The FZ where you actually want to be more then just friends) because they are either established as my good friends, or we were never really that close to begin with.
If you meet someone you like, ask them out, and do it quick because they may lose interest. I have never ever understood the phenomenon of people wanting a certain person to know they like them and yet are too scared to tell them. It's a bit of a contradiction in my book.
Easy two step program. You can repeat step one a few times, just not to many.Aur0ra145 said:
1. Meet girl and talk for a bit.
2. Ask girl to meet on a future rendezvous.
Possible scenarios.
She says yes: good job, take her out. If you like each other you may go out again. If you don't, move along.
She says no: that sux man, move along.
Repeat this process until you find someone you want to be with and the feeling is mutual. This program could also be used if you are not really interested in a relationship and just wanna get some, however if this is the case, let it be known early on.
Done and done. That will be $14.99 from each of you.
I've yet to enter the friend zone. I've kept my distance, yet still close enough to any of my female friends. But it's a very tricky walkway. I haven't fallen into the abyss known as the "friend zone"...yet.
And YOU, as a fellow male organism shouldn't expect that a girl in the friends zone is just going to magically realize one day that the two of you were meant to be together and make the first move. And don't give the girl the pretense that you are just "hanging out" and "being friends" when you really want more. Just... grow a pair man.... and let her know you have a certain interest in her early on without seeming desperate and creepy about it. And if rejection is the case... don't worry... there are plenty more amazing females out there.Mr Montmorency said:
I like the way you think.Eggsnham said:
@topic: At New Year's Eve a few (2?) years ago I was at a party, and me and a friend hit it on. However the next day she said she was drunk (she wasn't, nor was I) and she didn't want a boyfriend after I asked her out. Two weeks later she went out with a friend of mine. I don't like liars so I decided to not talk to her.
Most recently was Christmas last year, started college earlier in the year and really liked me a girl in my course. Told her I liked her, and well I didn't know at the time, but she distanced herself from me (and I her unknowingly). Not long ago I found out she did like me (unlike last time at New Year's Eve) and I'll see if anything happens. Doubt she does now, to be honest, though I still like her.
This is where the problem lies. They send mixed signals, so you can't determine the more reasonable course of action. I can say something. And I do when I get the signals. But sometimes they send you them, then they back up and fuck with you, and you don't know they're fucking with you.quiet_samurai said: