The most Crushing things people have said to you.

[Generalissimo]

if i started off on a ramble, I'd have to raid my mum's supply of wine.

but basically:

1. when i found out the girl i loved had no feelings for me at all "sorry, tom. but i just don't love you"

2. when my cat died of old age "Jeff is gone. in cat heaven"

3. when my dad left because i wasn't going along the routes he wanted me to (no quote, sorry. it just kinda happened ;__ but my father is an emotionally bankrupt sociopath, so not a big blow. but having a dad is always nice.

ALCOHOL TIME.

 

[Westaway]

"Ur a faget"
-Anonymous

The tears were numerous.

 

[deathninja]

I'm guessing you're in a police cadets thing if you helped the other officer out?

I wish. But no, I just saw what was going on and waded in; my dad (and by extension a lot of family friends) were in the job, I knew the shit the good ones put up with.

Besides, as long as you're careful assisting an officer is perfectly legal.

 

[deathninja]

"sorry, tom. but i just don't love you"

If only you'd been called Dave...

In all seriousness, I feel for you man, my dad left about a year ago because he couldn't handle the family; my mum then tried to top herself and I've been trying to mediate ever since, I know it's not easy.

And may god have mercy on the man who led to my cats (yes, both of them) being run over if I ever find him.

 

[Legendairy314]

Generally it's girls. Finding out they have no interest in me or already have someone else always sucks and is the reason I've yet to land girlfriend. Other than that, finding out that my Dad had drunk himself to death was pretty harsh as well. Recently had a friend said he hated me but we've sort of worked that out.

Damn you Escapist, I come here to escape the feels, not bathe in them.

 

[Padwolf]

Well, let's see...

1. Coming home from my somewhat birthday celebration and being told my grandfather has died of a heart attack, also that thyroid problems run in the family and that my mum has the problem. She's going in for her operation for it next year thankfully.
2. Waking up to my cat on the floor barely breathing and not being able to move. Took her to the vets, being told "It's a huge tumor. It's time." Keep in mind that this cat of mine had a blood test only a month prior to this. They told us it was a cold. They fucking told us it was a cold. I don't think I'll be able to get over that. She shouldn't have died like that. She shouldn't have had to of lived her last few months alive in pain like that. I swear if only I had known sooner I would have had her put down sooner, or maybe we could have saved her. I still feel like I failed her.
3. Being told that my ex boyfriend cheated on me numerous times when our relationship changed to a long distance one and that's why he broke up with me. I had just paid £30 for a coach to go and visit for a weekend. I never got that money back. But damn, being cheated on was horrible. I'm over that now, but damn it really hurt at the time.
4. Being told that my boyfriend may not be able to get to London (He's from US, I'm UK, he was coming over to study here) Still figuring out that plan though. I'm hoping to whatever gods there are that our next plan will work.
5. My dad telling me he should kick me out the house and see what real struggling is like. He apologised immensely for this though. But it was crushing when he said it.
6. Being rejected for jobs over and over. This may not seem crushing to some, but to me it means the loss of the hard work my boyfriend and I have put in to being together.

Well bugger me, need to shoot something on a game or something and relieve stress and whatnot. After 5 years of nothing but bad news and bad luck, no matter how hard I try to work for everything I do, I just can't take more crushing blows.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

My dad has laughed about my drawings before and, generally put me down for them in past.

 

[deathninja]

After 5 years of nothing but bad news and bad luck, no matter how hard I try to work for everything I do, I just can't take more crushing blows.

I don't like to sound like a broken record, but please trust me on this, it gets better, or easier. I'm not sure which, but either way it tempers us, strengthens us.

 

[Mr F.]

"Look, its over, your life is going nowhere and you are going to amount to nothing. You are failing college and I don't see you doing anything with your life".

College girlfriend. It was the straw that broke the camels back and drove me into a total mental breakdown, a fucktonne of drugs and getting incredibly sick (Cause of all the drugs and the total lack of food). The lighter note is my bloody mindedness, I realised I was fulfilling her prophecy so I moved back in with my parents, went cold turkey, went to a different college hundreds of miles away and got into one of the best Uni's in the country.

The irony behind it all though? I was failing college (And getting into fringe, softcore drugs) cause of the college girlfriend. She was a crazy *****, totally and utterly fucked up, and looking after her consumed my life. I saved her life directly once (Stopped bleeding, called ambulance, sat in hospital for hours) and indirectly countless times. Sure, it was down to my messiah complex, but I really tried and I looked after her, day in, day out.

Stupid *****.

 

[Arfonious]

Well,most crushing was propably the words: "I don't think I love you any more" from my girlfriend at the time
We had been together for 2,5 years and she broke up with me via text

 

[Padwolf]

After 5 years of nothing but bad news and bad luck, no matter how hard I try to work for everything I do, I just can't take more crushing blows.

I don't like to sound like a broken record, but please trust me on this, it gets better, or easier. I'm not sure which, but either way it tempers us, strengthens us.

Thanks I'm getting through it all with a smile on my face. I figure that as long as I can smile still, and still make my family and friends smile and can help them, things won't be as bad. Got to make the best of things.

 

[GistoftheFist]

I had spend about 8 years attempting to make friends and earn an unselfish act from someone, but I hadn't succeeded in that whole time. One fine Christmas day, I was taking care of my sick dad and brother who insisted I go out looking for medicine and grocery items, (both of them ignoring me when I said nothing would be open Christmas day) when I got a text message from someone whose friendship I had been trying to earn for three years. I couldn't believe it, I finally got a text message; a simple act of someone making effort to show me they give a shit. I was so excited I didn't open it until I got home later, when I was finally in my own room watching an episode of That 70's Show where Eric is moping because he keeps getting crappy birthday gifts instead of the one he wants. Forget a present or an offline visit or even a few minutes of chatting online, I was grateful just to get this simple text on my phone. So I open up the message and it says: "Happy fuckin' Humbug."

I got a sarcastic text message.

On Christmas.

Yep, definately made me have to sit down and take a good hard look at my life up to that point.

 

[deathninja]

Thanks I'm getting through it all with a smile on my face. I figure that as long as I can smile still, and still make my family and friends smile and can help them, things won't be as bad. Got to make the best of things.

Keep your chin up, Ma soeur

 

[Elgnirp100]

Oddly enough, the most crushing thing ever said to me was by myself.
I had been struggling with depression for a long time, but this was during the worst time (so far). I wanted to kill myself. I really did. I even had an excuse all in my head. A friend of mine found out and reported it. I then got referred to the school counsellor. Keep in mind that I instantly hate anyone who tries to "get in my head". I had kept running through this excuse in my head, but when asked why I wanted to die, I said it out loud for the first time. And I just broke. As I said it, I got more and more unhinged, and by the end I was screaming at this guy trying to help me as I just cried uncontrollably (I was 16 at the time). The excuse went something like this:
"Everyone benefits. My parents don't have to deal with me failing at everything I do, my classmates don't have to put up with me anymore, my teachers don't need to bail me out of all the idiotic things I do, my friends don't have to worry about being associated with a dick like me, and I finally get to stop being so fucking miserable all the fucking time!"
It may not seem particularly bad, and it is nowhere near as crushing as some of the things in this thread, but hearing yourself rationalise your own suicide is surprisingly heartrending, even when you see absolutely nothing wrong with your reasoning.

Wow, this ended up long. Sorry for the depressing wall of wangst guys.

 

[yeti585]

There is a long story behind this one, so don't judge me too harshly. I'm pretty sure I've said the most crushing thing I've ever heard...

I was in a long term relationship with a very depressed girl. I needed to abort, eject, run away because I just couldn't take it any more. I was living with her and her parents who had all kinds of problems of there own and the accumulation of all the hate, sadness and despair made me feel like I was going to die unless I got out. So in the moment where all tact had abandoned me and I had to say something to convince her that I really didnt/couldn't love her anymore (because she couldn't just take honesty for an answer)... I uttered the immortal phrase...

"well I think I would probably still love you if you weren't fat"

Yeah I know... No one feels worse than she did, but I'm a close second. After we broke up I heard she became anorexic...

Ever since that moment I have had the up most respect and consideration for the things I say....thankfully, she pulled through and went on to become much happier.

I understand where you are coming from. Your mind goes into "tuck and roll" mode and you take a seat on the sidelines. You normally would look down upon the things that you may do to get out but you are so far gone you can't stop yourself. I wonder if this is how a coyote feels before it chews through it's leg to get out of a bear trap?

I did something akin to this once. I could deal with myself (I didn't sleep much to begin with...) but, Whenever relationships/love/etc. would come up in conversation I knew as sure as the sun rises that someone would call me out on it. Not only would my closest friends throw it in my face, they'd torture me on as why I wouldn't go back (while knowing I never could). To them it was some sick game to them, that made me sick.

They had their own problems so I doubt they knew it tore me apart.

 

[Feneture]

The popular one that keeps coming up.. "I love you but i'm not in love with you anymore"...
Said to me by my Fiance of 7 years, had been together since we were 15! Wow that hurt alot but got over her in the end.. Was helped even more when her and her new boyfriend both started turning up at my gym and taking every opportunity to flaunt their relationship infront of me.. I should thank them really because it really helped me train even harder

And also when I was young, coming home from school one day to find out that my labrador had been put down because he was old and had Arthritis in his back legs, what hurt the most was that I never got to say goodbye to him.

Cheery thread

 

[Sarah Kerrigan]

To me, it had to be when they first said Prey 2 was cancelled. I was devastated, but felt better when they said it was coming along, but slowly.

But to be honest, it's when my family told me my Uncle died. He was a priest, and one of the nicest members of my family. He also was the only one to honor my religious beliefs and not push everyone else's down my throat (and it was ironic, as he was a priest.)

 

[Radelaide]

Oh! I have another one.

So, I used to have a Jack Russell terrier that I'd had since I was like 8 years old, right? He used to jailbreak every time the garage door was open. He'd stay on the path and only go a few houses up or whatever, but he always got out for a run.

One day my stepdad had left the back gate open and Mitch got out. My stepdad backed over my dog in his fourby. Crushing #1.

We'd taken him to an emergency vet and left him there while the vets did their work. I'd gone to get some groceries for my mum (she told me to do it to distract me) when I got home, my mum told me that they had to put him down. I didn't even get to say goodbye! </3 Crushing #2

About 4 months later, our other little dog had trouble breathing and kept passing out. We'd taken him to the vet, they'd done x-rays and told us that he had cancer in his throat that was crushing his windpipe and they had to put him down.

OH GOD, THIS IS MAKING ME TEAR UP JUST THINKING ABOUT IT!

Spoiler: Something to make this thread kind of happy.

My idiot boxer chasing around a toy car

 

[Voulan]

"You're one of those girls that guys just use to practice on."

Sure thing guy I just met, meanwhile you're working at McDonalds and my friend broke up with you because you're a douche. And you tried to overprice me for that cheeseburger, so you apparently suck at your job. Sure it was the worst thing anyone's ever said to me, but considering who it was, I didn't take it too terribly. In hindsight. At the time a part of me died a little.

 

[Exius Xavarus]

I...can't recall anything. I'd become devoid of such emotion at a young age, I usually just shrug everything off. It's hard for someone to crush you when you simply don't care. And even if I had been crushed, no one would know. Rockin' a perpetual poker face makes you difficult to read and no one can tell just what you're thinking or how you really feel. Which is actually how I prefer it to be.

Uh, if I had to choose something, it would have to be an old friend deciding that I'm not worth hanging out with because I wasn't what they called popular. Talk about shallow, eh?