The Most Sexist Thing That's Happened To You
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I was born a middle class male?
Not the worst thing to happen to a person but it's seems alot worse when I was 9 and every altercation between a boy and a girl was the boys fault, all the boys were considered stupid and the crude use of gay as a taunt.
But I'm not complaining cause I don't really care and I've got it alot better than a large majority of the world. But I prefer not to think in generalizations so as far as I see it I've had the worst life I've ever had.
PS: We just need male dresses with all the comfort and utlity of sterotypical male clothing if we want equality.
Not the worst thing to happen to a person but it's seems alot worse when I was 9 and every altercation between a boy and a girl was the boys fault, all the boys were considered stupid and the crude use of gay as a taunt.
But I'm not complaining cause I don't really care and I've got it alot better than a large majority of the world. But I prefer not to think in generalizations so as far as I see it I've had the worst life I've ever had.
PS: We just need male dresses with all the comfort and utlity of sterotypical male clothing if we want equality.
i held a door for a woman and she just assumed that i did so cause i didnt think she could do it, just because she was a lady, instead of just out of common courtesy, one of my main gripes with modern feminists, and no, not the ones that are actually doing the right thing, the ones that think every man wants to hold them back from being an "independent" woman. honestly, holding the door is just holding the door, why do i do it? cause im not rude
My sister pressured me into going to church with her and bringing my boyfriend. It was the single most embarrasing thing Ive ever had to sit through, because the whole night was about how the woman should serve her husband in everything she does, and the guy has to protect and care for his wife, because she is delicate and can not do it on her own.
Also, because I have a reasonably large bust size, I have to regularly deal with random idiots on the street wolf whistling at me and yelling 'suggestions' across the road. Very annoying.
Also, because I have a reasonably large bust size, I have to regularly deal with random idiots on the street wolf whistling at me and yelling 'suggestions' across the road. Very annoying.
Once in middle school a girl randomly punched me in the chest, and not like a little tap a literal wind back really hard hit right between the lungs kinda punch. she did it right in front of a teacher and got off scot free because shes a fucking girl.
This topic annoys me. As far as men wearing skirts, it's not right in societies eyes. It was always an icon for the female. I don't know why, I don't care why, maybe it's because women have better looking legs than men (on average) and it shows them off better?
There will never be total equality, it can't happen. For example, paid parental leave. If a woman and a man are applying for a job with paid parental leave, assume wages are they same, they both have equal qualifications etc. As an employer which would you choose? For arguments sake it's a customer service rep, which I think men and women should do equally well.
Any employer would choose the man as if he fell preggers, wouldn't take the paid parental leave.
Our bodies are different, men and women are different, there are surgeries to try and alter that, but at the end of the day we are ultimately who we are born as. And because of that, there will always be differences and inequalities. It's something that, in the real world, just will not, and can not change.
That said don't think of me as a sexist pig, I'm all for womens rights, and I do think they have a little way to go in some areas before things will be right.
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There will never be total equality, it can't happen. For example, paid parental leave. If a woman and a man are applying for a job with paid parental leave, assume wages are they same, they both have equal qualifications etc. As an employer which would you choose? For arguments sake it's a customer service rep, which I think men and women should do equally well.
Any employer would choose the man as if he fell preggers, wouldn't take the paid parental leave.
Our bodies are different, men and women are different, there are surgeries to try and alter that, but at the end of the day we are ultimately who we are born as. And because of that, there will always be differences and inequalities. It's something that, in the real world, just will not, and can not change.
That said don't think of me as a sexist pig, I'm all for womens rights, and I do think they have a little way to go in some areas before things will be right.
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It's called chivalry. I don't understand it either. It used to be a good thing.stutheninja said:
i have a similar story to the OP with my choir, but the most sexist thing to happen to me was not that, but rather being told by my bosses at an interior design studio, where i worked as a cashier, receptionist, bookkeeper, and general pack mule, that i can't help with fabric choices because i'm a lesbian and lesbians aren't girls and therefore can't match colors.
Eh, I've not really had much in the way of sexism except for the odd woman having double-standards on chivalry/politeness, it doesn't really bother me as it's so small and rare. Hell, I've even had more shit for being Irish than that and barely anyone does that anymore.
That said, I did give a couple of teenage boys a stern talking to the other year when they were making lewd gestures at my fiancée. Being fairly tall, beardy and muscular, I apparently gave them a bit of a fright, which I find pretty funny considering how unlikely I am to beat anyone up.
That said, I did give a couple of teenage boys a stern talking to the other year when they were making lewd gestures at my fiancée. Being fairly tall, beardy and muscular, I apparently gave them a bit of a fright, which I find pretty funny considering how unlikely I am to beat anyone up.
Hmmm... Whenever I tell anyone about the type of family I grew up in, it always seems to come out sexist (only a few point that out with any seriousness). I grew up in the country culture where the man will do any work that needs to be done, at home and at the job, and that the wife will usually stay home, take care of the house, yada yada.
Funniest thing is when I took my first girlfriend to a family get together, and to see her reaction when my mother and my aunt went to the kitchen and cooked, and me, my father, my uncle, and my cousins stayed outside and sat around a boiling pot with a turkey in it, even though everyone was happy.
Funniest thing is when I took my first girlfriend to a family get together, and to see her reaction when my mother and my aunt went to the kitchen and cooked, and me, my father, my uncle, and my cousins stayed outside and sat around a boiling pot with a turkey in it, even though everyone was happy.
I'm not sure if this qualifies since it's probably more to do with perceived sexual orientation than perceived sex, but as an effeminate guy with long hair and a pretty clearly "gay" voice, I can't even count the number of times people have acted like jackasses to me. People constantly assume that I can't handle "manly" tasks, must not like sports, must love every stereotypically gay thing, must be physically weak, etc. Regardless of whether these things are true (and naturally some of them are), it's just as obnoxious for someone to assume them of me as it is for someone to assume them for any woman. Probably the worst part is when it becomes clear that friends implicitly assume these things - not maliciously, just automatically. Like when a friend sees me watching basketball and acts incredibly surprised or jokes that they "can't believe" that it doesn't take me an hour to get ready in the morning.
I have degrees in Electronics, Robotics and CIS, do my own car work, play games, I know what machine shop tools are and how to use some of them, used to skate board, ride dirt bikes... And I was doing so before the average user on here was born. I would be locked up by now if I gave a shit about anyone being sexist. Most of them aren't negative about it anyway, they are more curious than anything. It does give me a chance to screw with some people on occasion. Committing it to memory though is not a priority. I am more likely to recall fixing a typewriter with a rubber band at 10, telling my cousin that is 7 years older than me how to fix something he was fighting with and him telling me I am just like my dad, and grabbing a pole to put my ratchet in to get leverage in order loosen some bolts the same cousin put on a motorhome I was working on. He is a big burly jock and I was all of 5'5" and maybe 120 soaking wet. Actually, I was soaking wet at that point because I was doing the work in the mud and rain.
All I can think of is being in an automotive store with my boyfriend and a guy approached us and asked him if the Camaro out front was his. My boyfriend chuckled and told the guy, "Nope, it's hers." I think I managed to tell him that it was a 68, burned a quart of oil a week and had a 6 cyl Powerglide in it before he managed a "Nice car." and fled. My boyfriend and I cracked up. I miss that car.
All I can think of is being in an automotive store with my boyfriend and a guy approached us and asked him if the Camaro out front was his. My boyfriend chuckled and told the guy, "Nope, it's hers." I think I managed to tell him that it was a 68, burned a quart of oil a week and had a 6 cyl Powerglide in it before he managed a "Nice car." and fled. My boyfriend and I cracked up. I miss that car.
The worst were 2 teachers in high school one was a male english teacher who'd give guys shit for missing an assignment or talking during a lecture he'd call them out and berate them for a few minutes never happened to the girls thought, the other was a female parenting teacher who blamed men for any unwanted pregnancy or single mother while saying men couldn't handle any household chores or taking care of a child rather screwed up. I have gotten several sexist comments about being a guy who likes to cook which II've never really understood I like good food maybe it would be a good idea to learn to cook well so I'm not forced to eat poor food or live off fastfood if anything you think people would go for the old fat person likes food comments but those have been rare.
Really? Wherabouts?Vrud said:
I happen to pick up sexism more than others for some reason, I don't know why but it pisses me off so I'm really sensitive to spotting the most subtle of sexist things. So I sorta see it all the time :/ Personally, I don't really experience it, friends make jokes that gamer girls don't exist but they're only kidding. I really can't think of anything right now. I get really bothered because everywhere I go I see these gender roles and stereotypes. Comedians are always making jokes about women. It pisses me ooooffff.
hmmm not sure thats ever happend to me (other than do you need any help?), though I think a couple of times they have double checked "this is for you right?" while talking games...but thats more out politness than anything,Bara_no_Hime said:
though nowdays I think most of the poeple in all the EB games I go to recognise me more or less (because I have an hour lunchbreak in the city...I find myself looking at the games to kill time) so I dont go in too often to avoid running into the same people (I pre ordered Batman AC and Deus ex at different stores)
though thease days there are are quite a few girls working in thease stores...
Well I was once kicked out of a certain establishment just for being a man.
All these angry woman screaming something about a ladies room....
On a more serious note:
My school's pretty unintentionally sexist at times.
We have a cross-country event once every year or so where everyone has to run.
Guys have to run 4km, but girls only have to run 3km.
Not the most terrible thing ever, but it still pisses me off
All these angry woman screaming something about a ladies room....
On a more serious note:
My school's pretty unintentionally sexist at times.
We have a cross-country event once every year or so where everyone has to run.
Guys have to run 4km, but girls only have to run 3km.
Not the most terrible thing ever, but it still pisses me off