The other side of "Girls only date jerks"

[spartan231490]

I'm sorry but I laughed at the start of your second paragraph. Probably because I was expecting something along the lines of "And guess what? Being a jerk actually makes people hate you, who'd have thought?" But nope, it gets you laid, and I found that hilarious.

It really comes down to one thing: confidence. If your confidence borders on douchbaggery it rarely matters. I've had a girl honestly admit she likes guys who are jerks and are mean to her. Why? Because they're confident. So why not try being a confident nice guy?

Confident nice guy doesn't work. Whatever causes this trend, it goes a lot deeper than just confidence.

 

[PirateRose]

There was a jerk who was a rep selling direct tv at my store. He liked telling me how I should be dressing and how I should wear my hair.

I complained to management about the harassment and direct tv doesn't send him to my store anymore.

My only conclusion is he was that way because it worked before. Whatever group of people he runs in the women are all receptive to that sort of comments. So he got to a point he believed he had the authority that he could start telling these things to women he occasionally and rarely crossed paths with aka total strangers. Kind of like how criminals get braver and braver with their crimes to the point they do it in public places in broad daylight.

Cause I certainly don't know any jerks in my group of friends and we'd kick those types of guys out in a heartbeat.

As far as I'm concerned, if being a jerk is working, you're attracting the unfortunate type of women who tend to end up in abusive relationships.

Being confident and respectful is all you really need.

 

[SpectacularWebHead]

Wait...What?


I'd been working under the crazy assumption that not all girls are the same, and that not all girls like douchebags. But seriously, if this is true, I don't want to live on this planet anymore.

 

[Vegosiux]

But hey, it beats the alternative, right? (Dying alone)

Does it? It depends on the individual, that one. We also seem to have blurred the line between "getting laid" and "having a relatiosnhip" somewhere in this thread, somehow.

Being single, it has its perks too.

Also, inb4 people make massively uninformed and generalising statements about women.
Oh wait.
Too late.

You know, women? They're like...you know, women.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I think it was more of a social experiment than an outright attempt to get laid. That's what I took away from it, anyhow.

Sorry, still tired, can't brain.

Manipulation is manipulation.
Doing it just to see if it works doesn't really make it a whole lot better, imo.

True, if this were a science fair project it would be laughed out of the display room. And while you and I may not like the OP's methods, you have to admit, the results are somewhat interesting to see (even if the way to get them was douchebaggy).

As for this thread, I think it's going to turn out like a car accident. Too terrible to watch, yet impossible to turn away from.

 

[Wolfhowl the shadow lurker]

i suck at girls..they are so angry but i have never had a girlfreind, so fuck it

 

[Soxafloppin]

You became A Jerk.....by exercising. Right okay.

Seems I've been a Jerk for quiet some time now, who knew.

 

[Lt._nefarious]

Oh look, a "women date jerks" thread... "yay"

Enough of that. So the general consensus is chicks like confident blokes and, well, do we really need to be told this? I'd have thought it was pretty obvious, doesn't confidence always improve your chances of getting the things you want? I feel the line between being over-confident and just straight up being a bad person are getting blurred... You don't have to be a total dick who treats women like dirt to look confident. Have you guys seen Face/Off,?

Well, y'know how the people always really like the villain when they first meet him? It's not because he's a prick, it's because he's funny and up beat (and John Travolta). Try just being a funny person with a bubbly disposition and you should find you get girls like that.

That said, I have never had a girlfriend and I'm a hateful person...

(and yes the Face/Off thing was just for an excuse to post that gif...)

 

[GonzoGamer]

I take a step back and get sort of sick knowing that I'm just playing a game intended to produce offspring. I see who I am pretending to be and it's totally pointless. Maybe I take life too critically, but I don't see how a lasting relationship like marriage can come from the stupidity that dating appears to be in our culture.

Usually guys who pick up chicks by being dicks aren't looking for a lifelong mate, they just want to get laid.

 

[Something Amyss]

Naw, you're just being inexpressive. That's alright. My hightened levels of empathy allow me to be embarrassed on your behalf.

Be fair. Men not speak too good. Not capable. Logic strong. Expression. Bad.

You became a `jerk` to get women?
Lol.
I thought that only happened in shitty movies.

Phasmal, you'd be surprised how many people live their lives like movies.

 

[Something Amyss]

But hey, it beats the alternative, right? (Dying alone)

People really believe their only options are faking it to deceive a person and dying alone?

God, that's...That's bleak. I feel really bad right now.

 

[The Rascal King]

The results: It worked. And I hate it. Seriously, it's almost depressing. I'm not the type of guy who really wants to have sex constantly. I like deep conversations and would readily share insecurities if it would give me a greater perspective on life. I can't be who I am, though. I have to be a dominant, borderline rude douchebag to get any attention. It's shallow attention at that, too. I've yet to share any meaningful events with the women I've met. None of them really know me.

I've done this before on a bet! I needed to prove to my friend that being a dickcheese works on some women, so I adopted an abrasive persona and feigned interest in shit I hate and it got the attention of a dull-witted woman. She was tan, skinny, and bleach-blond; qualities that mixed together are gross to me. Anyway, once after successfully flirting for a half-hour or I begin ease in my personality, changing topics from loving frat parties to literature and she lost interest so fast I almost lost it when she started to make up an excuse to leave, which is the awesome "My friend is throwing up in the bathroom I have to help her.".

The bathroom was empty. Oh the laughter that ensued was bountiful.

Sure, in an environment where dumb college girls and and alcohol are flowing like the river it's easy to be an asshole and score, but that is certainly no way to live if you're a self-respecting individual. All my relationships have been far and few in between but they were with women that are intelligent and embraced who I am. Sometimes you have to just endure the struggle and pursue personal betterment if you want to have a shot to find the person that's right for you.

Lesson: Don't be a dick.

 

[KiloFox]

confident nice guy

Does not compute.

Anyway, I asked a girl who always complained that the guys she dated were so horrible why she dated them. She said that they pissed her off so much that she couldn't stop thinking about them and just went out with them because of it.

No part of that is logical. Not a single part.

much agree that dosn't make a lick of sense... that's why i date men...

anyway. i can say that a "confident nice guy" actually DOES exist. i can be one of them...
sure i'm an asshole most of the time. but when i know someone, or i don't and i just have something to say about a topic (usually relevant to my interests) i can be a very nice guy. and i'm loyal to my friends almost to a fault. (actually i think it's past that...) and i have loads of self-confidence (thank you Narcissism!) so pretty much any building i walk into, i walk into like i own the damn place.

i cannot even TELL you how many girls (and guys) have tried to get with me... only for something to not work out (distance, they're a girl, they're a sub, sheer un-interest, etc.) so i don't get with any of them.

the trick is not caring(about what people think). douchebags try and ACT like they don't give a shit. but i ACTUALLY don't. i havn't cared what people think of me since high school and before i made that switch i was just the weird guy who sat in a corner. i'm still the same weird guy, i just don't give a damn. once you do that, you're free to be whoever you are/want to be.

 

[Naeras]

Confident nice guy doesn't work. Whatever causes this trend, it goes a lot deeper than just confidence.

Wrong, confident nice guy does work. I dare say I belong in that category, and I had no problems with getting female attention/dates/sex back when I was single. Neither has any other of my friends that share this trait.

Confident "nice guy" doesn't work, though. Although, that combination might not even exist, as one of the defining features of "nice guys" is that they're passive-aggressive, insecure introverts that blame their social shortcomings on the fact that women won't have sex with them just because they're being "nice" (read: doormats).

 

[Yopaz]

You became a `jerk` to get women?
Lol.
I thought that only happened in shitty movies.

I thought this was fitting here.


What I gather from the OP is basically this:
"I started acting like a jerk to get laid and it turns out I do get laid and I don't like it and I don't really want to have sex constantly". Seems like you are whining about a problem which can be fixed easily by not being a jerk.