The Right Way to Get Over A Girlfriend?

[Gitsnik]

Reading a lot of these replies has made me lose a lot of respect for Escapists in general.

One night stands and sleeping with her friend? Seriously?

What would you suggest, ecstasy and heroin?

There is not much you can do to get over someone except try and move on. Moving on is often difficult if you haven't "nailed a few" to get some tension out - mostly because people are likely to pour their emotions on the next woman to come along (and none of them want to be the rebound chick) rather than keep them to themselves. A few one night stands (or one movie dates if you are saving yourself) are good because you are getting back in the scene and you have no obligations.

The nailing the sister thing is more a revenge joke than a serious suggestion (well, I hope ).

That depends entirely on what you see sex as.

If you prefer animal-like lust where you screw people just to get your rocks off then what you suggest is true.

If you prefer to connect with people and see sex as more than lust, then pointless random sex will just feel hollow.

In that situation I'd prefer to get over the emotional problem by doing something that doesn't make me feel just like any other animal.

I attempted to cover for that with the movie comment, just so you know.

 

[DND Judgement]

booze, listening to loud music and talking about chicks with mates...

 

[El Poncho]

Well what I do is try move on to another girl.

 

[Golden Gryphon]

I'm not going to advocate alcoholism, but drinking is always the solution to everything.
It is also the question.

The equation looks something like this:
"Alcohol?"
"Alcohol."

...I was always bad at math.

Reading a lot of these replies has made me lose a lot of respect for Escapists in general.

One night stands and sleeping with her friend? Seriously?

Yeah, a lot of The Escapists Really Get Around, it seems.
Not to mention it's a really shitty thing to do in general - and sleeping with someone's friend doesn't indicate "getting over them" as much as it indicates a childish willingness to stoop to new lows just to hurt them.

I agree with this. Has doing this sort of thing ever really help somebody get over being dumped?

 

[Gorrister]

Delete her number, go out with your mates in your best threads, drink the right amount and start macking on a similarly drunk girl, but don't go any further than that. You don't wanna fall into bad habits now

Keep a stiff upper lip, and keep your mind off her. Talking about it will help, but try and do it with a family member or a best friend, rather than someone you're marginally friends with. All in all, in time, you should feel a lot better.

 

[Dogstile]

It's been about a month or so, but I still get some unpleasant pangs of loneliness.

if you still hang out around her, then its going to take a while, if she isn't around you much any more, it won't take so long

it took me about 6 months to get over my last girlfriend, but she was my first serious relationship and i was still friends with her for about 5 of those months

just hang with friends, and not around her

 

[stabnex]

I always found that venting in the form of an axe and large breakable (obviously expendable) objects of varied usefulness, plus all your friends, plus the middle of nowhere so cops don't bother you is a sure fire way to let out some of your lonelies. Add in an inappropriate amount of cheap alcohol and you'll find yourself missing the dumb slut in no time parallel to the level of damage you inflict on an old car engine or pile of mac computers.

 

[Golden Gryphon]

I agree with this. Has doing this sort of thing ever really help somebody get over being dumped?

Probably not.
If anything, it just shows that you still have feelings for them, as I said above.

It seems like a lot of the guys on here have tried it. I was asking them because as far as I'm aware you've never been in a position where you've had to get over being dumped.

 

[Cody211282]

Recently, my girlfriend dumped me. I'd rather not go into the reasons, but let's just say it left me pretty devastated. It's been about a month or so, but I still get some unpleasant pangs of loneliness. Does anyone have any tips on getting over someone, outside of getting another girlfriend?

I'm going though the same thing, only about 2 weeks for me, but I have noticed that drinking Rum and Cokes until you pass out helps.

 

[Legion]

I agree with this. Has doing this sort of thing ever really help somebody get over being dumped?

Probably not.
If anything, it just shows that you still have feelings for them, as I said above.

It seems like a lot of the guys on here have tried it. I was asking them because as far as I'm aware you've never been in a position where you've had to get over being dumped.

That doesn't mean he can't know that getting "revenge" on an ex clearly shows the person has feelings for them.

Getting over somebody doesn't just mean affection, it also means the anger and resentment for the relationship ending.

 

[Golden Gryphon]

I agree with this. Has doing this sort of thing ever really help somebody get over being dumped?

Probably not.
If anything, it just shows that you still have feelings for them, as I said above.

It seems like a lot of the guys on here have tried it. I was asking them because as far as I'm aware you've never been in a position where you've had to get over being dumped.

That doesn't mean he can't know that getting "revenge" on an ex clearly shows the person has feelings for them.

Getting over somebody doesn't just mean affection, it also means the anger and resentment for the relationship ending.

I wasn't saying he didn't understand, I was asking a genuine question. I know that if you didn't still have feelings for them you wouldn't need to get over them. I guess I've never been mad enough at someone at the end of a relationship to want revenge.

 

[metalmmaniac]

Try to hang out with family and friends. Don't leave yourself alone with your thoughts, that is the worst thing you can do, IMO.

 

[world_of_dragons]

This may sound counter-productive, but then would be the best time to reflect over things. Reflect on your relationship, what kind of person she was to you, what kind of person you were to her and most importantly why you broke up.

Keep in mind that it's not the end when a relationship ends, and rather than moping over you lose, learn from it. You may come out of it a wiser person

 

[Eatbrainz]

Call her at 3 in the morning and shout "TIMME TO DIIIIE!!!"

 

[MrDeano89]

sleep with someone else, worked for me and as far as i know its the only thiung that works

 

[Triple AD]

My best advice is to distract yourself as much as possible go around with your friends, learn a new instrument, go to a theme park, go random places and soon you'll live your life normally just find different ways to distract yourself and when you are alone just think about the advantages of being single. Then again you don't have to listen to me because I've never really had a girlfriend soo... yeah... but that might be because I'm not THAT old... I'm gonna go back to sleep now ZZZZzzzz YAY 200th post WOOOO

 

[ZonerZ]

Id say not to change a thing you did before her. If you go out of your way to not let it hurt then you're just running away from the problem. The pangs will stick a few years no matter what you do. The most you can do is not let it affect you externally unless it's clearly for the best.