I am a polite man. I hold doors open for people, always say please and thank you and am respectful in conversation. However, a lot of people now seem to have forgotten what manners are. Why, dear escapist?
The slow death of politeness
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Where I live that isn't the norm, hasn't been since as far back as I can remember. It's even considered a social faux pas to make unnecessary eye contact with strangers.
I held a door open for a little old lady at the post office the other day and she said something to the effect of 'I wish I had a camera with me', because it's so uncommon here. Certain pleasantries are considered to be hollow time wasting that people in retailed are forced to do by their corporate overlords.
I held a door open for a little old lady at the post office the other day and she said something to the effect of 'I wish I had a camera with me', because it's so uncommon here. Certain pleasantries are considered to be hollow time wasting that people in retailed are forced to do by their corporate overlords.
You should have used the word "courtesy". Didn't you ever go to shcoool?
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I think it's these douche bag party freaks in my age bracket. They are so annoying and RUDE. While I like to keep my manners instead of giving then up to look like a tool.
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Maybe they just don't want to be polite to you. They could hate you, so before you go saying judging all of humanity maybe you should look in the mirror first and ask yourself why people hate you? Of course all the people you know could just be jerks for the hell of it. We may never know.
Like others have said, I don't know where you live but it must be some bizarre place.
I open doors for plenty of people and people do the same for me.
No time now...chicken and fries just dinged in my toaster oven...
I open doors for plenty of people and people do the same for me.
No time now...chicken and fries just dinged in my toaster oven...
I don't think it's really going away, it's more that the rules are changing. What you consider to be common courtesy isn't so common anymore, but there is likely something else that is.
It all depends on where you are. I have lived in one place where you get made fun of if you run in order to catch the bus and where I currently live (much larger place) people will actually signal to the bus driver to wait.
Here I open doors and sometimes people thank me for it, If I were to say thanks when someone holds open a door where I used to live they will laugh.
I don't know what makes the difference, but I have heard some bullshit about farmers and those who live in small towns being more polite (which I have seen nothing substantial evidence for given that I have been living on a farm, a small town and in the city). Some people are polite, some aren't. Also it's easier to notice those who aren't polite msot of the time.
Here I open doors and sometimes people thank me for it, If I were to say thanks when someone holds open a door where I used to live they will laugh.
I don't know what makes the difference, but I have heard some bullshit about farmers and those who live in small towns being more polite (which I have seen nothing substantial evidence for given that I have been living on a farm, a small town and in the city). Some people are polite, some aren't. Also it's easier to notice those who aren't polite msot of the time.
People are too damn polite. You don't need to say thank you for every little thing I do, just the things that are unusually considerate. When politeness becomes automatic it loses all sincerity and starts to seem fake.
That being said, genuine politeness, when the person actually acts that way to be considerate and not because they're expected to, is kinda nice.
That being said, genuine politeness, when the person actually acts that way to be considerate and not because they're expected to, is kinda nice.
Sorry about that. xdWolf-AUS said:I'm a pretty big party goer, I'm only 3 years older than you. I also have manners, and now I'm hurtStormShaun said:
I mean people that push people out of the way or just bash people in just for looking at their girl. lol.
Basically Jersey Shore kinda douche bag.
I meant no offense!
Froggy, if I might say...your statement here is rather vague. The diffusion of politeness across the spectrum of human beings is largely unchanged for a long while now. What you're accusing the general public of is like hitting a dartboard with a sledgehammer. You might hit a target, but damn if anyone knows what you're really aiming for. Suffice to say, I KNOW I've told people not simply base these things on the little gulp of humanity they've met and of the time they were under observation. There's not enough evidence to support the death of polite behavior. There's evidence that people do dumb things and often, but not that!Froggy Slayer said: