There's a girl... that old chestnut

[sparten042]

right, first thing's first, there's a girl that i've liked for a long time now, sinc at last june last year and in october i had just built up the courage to ask her out, but turns out she was dating one of best friends without my knowledge, and this had been for several months.

now last friday her boyfriend broke up with her to go out with his ex, who he cheated on in the first place so he could go out with the girl i like, and now that she's single i want to ask her before i lose her again, so im asking for any advice and opinions any of you many have but only if you think it will genuinely help because this girl means the world to me, any advice on when to ask her, how, what to say etc... would much very very appreciated, thank you

 

[Gxas]

Just ask her. The worst she could do is say no.

Well... Actually... She could murder your whole family because of that innocent little question.

But we'll stick with realistic scenarios!!! Yeah, the worst she could do is say no. Just do it. PM me results. I like hearing about the romantic triumphs of others. I live vicariously through you!

 

[thelonewolf266]

Ask her out soon the friend zone is real and it sucks.
That's all I've got sorry.
Also this should probably be in the advice section.

 

[mephistophelesees]

Just ask her. The worst she could do is say no.

Well... Actually... She could murder your whole family because of that innocent little question.

But we'll stick with realistic scenarios!!! Yeah, the worst she could do is say no. Just do it. PM me results. I like hearing about the romantic triumphs of others. I live vicariously through you!

ditto this, especially as, if you're still in school, it's almost over so there'll be no scandal whatsoever, but seriously, ask her, and post the results, or get her to, if you're feeling daring

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

Give her a short while before you ask her, but yeah, ask her when you feel she's 'over' this other guy.

 

[Gxas]

Ask her out soon the friend zone is real and it sucks.

Honestly, having been friend-zoned by... what is it now... Four girls of five that I've ever been romantically involved with, I can say that it initially sucks. But after a while, and if they really meant that much to you, having them not there is so much worse than having them there, even just as a friend.

 

[Zac Smith]

Like Steve said, man up and ask her, you don't get anything in this life unless you get up and pull your finger out. Exactly how I got with my girlfriend, little under 4 1/2 years now

 

[Phlakes]

The longer you ask for advice on the internet, the less time you have to ask her.

So go do it. Right now. Not tomorrow. Not even later today. Right now. Call her up, tell her to meet you somewhere and ask.

 

[artanis_neravar]

right, first thing's first, there's a girl that i've liked for a long time now, sinc at last june last year and in october i had just built up the courage to ask her out, but turns out she was dating one of best friends without my knowledge, and this had been for several months.

now last friday her boyfriend broke up with her to go out with his ex, who he cheated on in the first place so he could go out with the girl i like, and now that she's single i want to ask her before i lose her again, so im asking for any advice and opinions any of you many have but only if you think it will genuinely help because this girl means the world to me, any advice on when to ask her, how, what to say etc... would much very very appreciated, thank you

I believe this should be in the Advice section, but either was go for it, I can tell you that it is far worse questioning whether something could have happened years down the road
Also this

PM me results. I like hearing about the romantic triumphs of others. I live vicariously through you!

Or post it here, I would like to hear how this turns out

EDIT: Sorry I forgot to answer your original question
I would say get her alone and just tell her how you feel, but don't do it at the beginning of the night(or when ever you hang out) if she says no it would be really awkward for the both of you for the rest of the night. As to how, just tell her straight up how you feel, be honest

 

[Ashesinmind]

Well what was your plan the first time around? And importantly what is your current relationship with the girl, as in, are you friends/good friends or do you just know her form school/work? (I have no idea how old you are so I'm covering everything)

 

[sparten042]

okay okay, guys i've to do it, i just want to give myself the best possible chance, so anyne who has tried something whether it worked or not let me know 'cause seriously she means everything to me, and i have to get this right, if i get thisone moment right then it'll be smooth sailing from here on out

 

[sparten042]

okay okay, guys i've to do it, i just want to give myself the best possible chance, so anyne who has tried something whether it worked or not let me know 'cause seriously she means everything to me, and i have to get this right, if i get thisone moment right then it'll be smooth sailing from here on out

 

[sparten042]

okay okay, guys i've to do it, i just want to give myself the best possible chance, so anyne who has tried something whether it worked or not let me know 'cause seriously she means everything to me, and i have to get this right, if i get thisone moment right then it'll be smooth sailing from here on out

 

[sparten042]

okay okay, guys i've decided to do it, i just want to give myself the best possible chance, so anyne who has tried something whether it worked or not let me know 'cause seriously she means everything to me, and i have to get this right, if i get thisone moment right then it'll be smooth sailing from here on out

 

[Gxas]

okay okay, guys i've to do it, i just want to give myself the best possible chance, so anyne who has tried something whether it worked or not let me know 'cause seriously she means everything to me, and i have to get this right, if i get thisone moment right then it'll be smooth sailing from here on out

Walk up to her. Say, "Hey, [name], I've liked you for a long time now and was wondering if we could hang out sometime, just the two of us. Maybe a movie or dinner or both."

I demand results.

(And yes, it really is that simple)

 

[Gottesstrafe]

Timing is everything. Ask her too soon and all she'll say is "Thanks, I could really use a friend right now." and BAM! Friend-zone. You'll spend the next few months trying to cheer her up before working up the courage to ask again, during which you'll be comforting her after her next inevitable break up or going out on "not-dates". Ask too late, and she'll say "I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship." and you're in the friend-zone again. Same as the other occasion, except that you've invested so much time and emotion on her that you feel obligated to stay rather than saying "Fuck it." and leave with nary a look back.

Maybe you'll fool yourself into thinking "It's better this way." or something like that. All I'm saying is: Maintain a comfortable distance. Don't ingratiate, and certainly don't seem desperate.

 

[Kaytastrophe]

Ask her out soon the friend zone is real and it sucks.
That's all I've got sorry.
Also this should probably be in the advice section.

I completely agree, in my teens I always used to try and get with girls by hanging out getting to know them being their friends and then asking them out... learn from my mistakes ASK HER OUT IMMEDIATELY. DONT BE HER FRIEND, come straight out with your intentions it is the only way it works. Once your a friend you stay a friend.