Things your girlfriend does that piss you off.

[Shadows Inc.]

The problem with that is that most women actually want somewhere to go to eat, but makes it your job to find out. This is for a few reasons, but one of them is that they regularly check to see if you are making a commitment to learning about them, in this case, what they like to eat and when. They are always paying attention to you and is usually second nature to give these kinds of tests. This is why they're usually unhappy after the conversation and don't like where they are because it's not where they wanted to go. Of coarse telling them that they weren't decisive is an OK comeback, for only one reason if nothing, what is she going to say? "Oh, I was testing you. I do it all the time, pay more attention."? I don't think that's the point of the tests. If you know, the tests are invalid.

I guess I wouldn't think of that, I've been with her for two and a half years and we've gotten to the point where we know each other far beyond picking something the other isn't going to like. That aside, she actually is just indecisive and wants me to pick.

Other than that, it's a stupid game to play and women need to stop playing it. If you want something, learn to say it.

That's why I said most women, and I agree with you full-heartedly. Women are naturally indecisive, but not without reason. This reason is a thin razors' edge that is purely unidentifiable, and rather redundant in the fact that it does seem more like a game, but the real jaw-dropping hair-pulling reality of the situation of some of these girls, is that they don't even know why they do the things they do half the time. Of coarse, this isn't a gender directed accusation, for men do things they're not fully aware as to why they're doing it as well. These particular actions vary among sexes, but the amount actions and unprecedented blissful ignorance as to why you're doing it in the first place is the same. Bringing me to the conclusion that it's either something we pick up from everyone around us as we grow up, or it is infused in our genetics that we do these actions of sheer pointlessness.

 

[Shadows Inc.]

The problem with that is that most women actually want somewhere to go to eat, but makes it your job to find out. This is for a few reasons, but one of them is that they regularly check to see if you are making a commitment to learning about them, in this case, what they like to eat and when. They are always paying attention to you and is usually second nature to give these kinds of tests. This is why they're usually unhappy after the conversation and don't like where they are because it's not where they wanted to go. Of coarse telling them that they weren't decisive is an OK comeback, for only one reason if nothing, what is she going to say? "Oh, I was testing you. I do it all the time, pay more attention."? I don't think that's the point of the tests. If you know, the tests are invalid.

I guess I wouldn't think of that, I've been with her for two and a half years and we've gotten to the point where we know each other far beyond picking something the other isn't going to like. That aside, she actually is just indecisive and wants me to pick.

Other than that, it's a stupid game to play and women need to stop playing it. If you want something, learn to say it.

P.S.
..... They're ALWAYS paying attention, regardless of time. Carefully keeping a mental notepad of your inadequacies.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

The number one thing that annoys me when I've had a girlfriend is the way they see my female friends as a threat to our relationship. Some of my very best friends are women, and they have always been a friend. Nothing more, and I cannot imagine seeing them as anything more. It's just... wrong. But no, any time I have any contact with one of said friends, the whole mood changes between my partner at the time, and I'm put on trial. It's insane and hugely frustrating.

my BOYfriend used to do this shit every now and again. I'm friends with a lot of girls (the gay best friend is an immensely sought-after accessory) and he knows I have no attraction to them, or any girls at all, but until a month ago he used to get really defensive when I went out with the gals, even though nothing was ever doing to happen.

 

[Queen Michael]

Not exist. That gets annoying.

*runs off crying*

*sung to the tune of You Are A Pirate*
You posted this sentiment before me! You are a ninja!

 

[Justank]

That's why I said most women, and I agree with you full-heartedly. Women are naturally indecisive, but not without reason. This reason is a thin razors' edge that is purely unidentifiable, and rather redundant in the fact that it does seem more like a game, but the real jaw-dropping hair-pulling reality of the situation of some of these girls, is that they don't even know why they do the things they do half the time. Of coarse, this isn't a gender directed accusation, for men do things they're not fully aware as to why they're doing it as well. These particular actions vary among sexes, but the amount actions and unprecedented blissful ignorance as to why you're doing it in the first place is the same. Bringing me to the conclusion that it's either something we pick up from everyone around us as we grow up, or it is infused in our genetics that we do these actions of sheer pointlessness.

Yeah I agree with that. The worst one to me is arguing in circles about incredibly minor, mostly irrelevant things while ignoring whatever started the argument in the first place. Both people know nothing is being accomplished, but at that point you're so fired up you don't even care and the whole thing has become 'winning' the argument. Pretty sure everyone does that, and I'd say it's something we pick up from our surroundings.

 

[Cupid]

What pisses me off is a clingy boyfriend. Someone who can smother you with phone calls, text messages and just the all around has to know what you are doing every minute of the day. Most little petty things can be worked out if you have the conversations and understanding to feel as though you can express such things without having to go through such punishments like the cold shoulder or just to cut you off totally. Most things are the little games younger kids engage in because their feelings are all over the place, and someone so close to a heart just may be too much for someone to handle. It's most all a learning curve really. As people get older, they are able to handle things much better and without the drama, which really will make a difference, not only in your romantic relationships, but in all your relationships in general.

 

[The Wykydtron]

Lol as if I would ever need a Girlfriend... They take up valuable anime and gaming time

 

[Shadows Inc.]

The number one thing that annoys me when I've had a girlfriend is the way they see my female friends as a threat to our relationship. Some of my very best friends are women, and they have always been a friend. Nothing more, and I cannot imagine seeing them as anything more. It's just... wrong. But no, any time I have any contact with one of said friends, the whole mood changes between my partner at the time, and I'm put on trial. It's insane and hugely frustrating.

my BOYfriend used to do this shit every now and again. I'm friends with a lot of girls (the gay best friend is an immensely sought-after accessory) and he knows I have no attraction to them, or any girls at all, but until a month ago he used to get really defensive when I went out with the gals, even though nothing was ever doing to happen.

Jealousy or feeling threatened by an individual (in that sense) is not even close to being defined by a gender. In fact in males, it's primal instinct to be protective of they're mate, due to the fact that it is a competition. In females, it's instinct to stick with what they have in order to provide correctly for an upcoming family. On the womens' part, this is why early and late marriages don't work. Too young and they're not even subconsciously thinking of a family, and too late... well, it's too late. The ones that do work are usually subject to the "Well, I just got to make this work for a while" thought process.

 

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Asks me if it really matters that much.

 

[Justank]

P.S.
..... They're ALWAYS paying attention, regardless of time. Carefully keeping a mental notepad of your inadequacies.

Fortunately for me, my memory is a lot better than hers

 

[ReservoirAngel]

The number one thing that annoys me when I've had a girlfriend is the way they see my female friends as a threat to our relationship. Some of my very best friends are women, and they have always been a friend. Nothing more, and I cannot imagine seeing them as anything more. It's just... wrong. But no, any time I have any contact with one of said friends, the whole mood changes between my partner at the time, and I'm put on trial. It's insane and hugely frustrating.

my BOYfriend used to do this shit every now and again. I'm friends with a lot of girls (the gay best friend is an immensely sought-after accessory) and he knows I have no attraction to them, or any girls at all, but until a month ago he used to get really defensive when I went out with the gals, even though nothing was ever doing to happen.

Jealousy or feeling threatened by an individual (in that sense) is not even close to being defined by a gender. In fact in males, it's primal instinct to be protective of they're mate, due to the fact that it is a competition. In females, it's instinct to stick with what they have in order to provide correctly for an upcoming family. On the womens' part, this is why early and late marriages don't work. Too young and they're not even subconsciously thinking of a family, and too late... well, it's too late. The ones that do work are usually subject to the "Well, I just got to make this work for a while" thought process.

makes sense. i just find it funny that my boyfriend used to think it was possible that, despite me being 100% upfront about my sexuality the first time I met him, I was gonna leave him for a GIRL. if i was hanging out with other guys it might have been cause for his alarm, but girls...there's no chance of that.

 

[Folio]

I don't have a girlfriend, but my sister dated someone who was always exactly a half hour late for everything. So she made a plan: skip the date a half hour sooner and just get there on time. He was on time as well, I guess he knows how to piss people off.

 

[Shadows Inc.]

That's why I said most women, and I agree with you full-heartedly. Women are naturally indecisive, but not without reason. This reason is a thin razors' edge that is purely unidentifiable, and rather redundant in the fact that it does seem more like a game, but the real jaw-dropping hair-pulling reality of the situation of some of these girls, is that they don't even know why they do the things they do half the time. Of coarse, this isn't a gender directed accusation, for men do things they're not fully aware as to why they're doing it as well. These particular actions vary among sexes, but the amount actions and unprecedented blissful ignorance as to why you're doing it in the first place is the same. Bringing me to the conclusion that it's either something we pick up from everyone around us as we grow up, or it is infused in our genetics that we do these actions of sheer pointlessness.

Yeah I agree with that. The worst one to me is arguing in circles about incredibly minor, mostly irrelevant things while ignoring whatever started the argument in the first place. Both people know nothing is being accomplished, but at that point you're so fired up you don't even care and the whole thing has become 'winning' the argument. Pretty sure everyone does that, and I'd say it's something we pick up from our surroundings.

I don't know if you have read earlier in the posts, but if you have, you may have read my "How to fix a 'situation'" through "seed" metaphors. I think you might like it...

 

[Charley]

In the space of about 4 months, I did the following

[Insert list here]

Just before we broke up, she accused me of NEVER SHOWING HER LOVE OR APPRECIATION. Instantly angry, I reminded her of all these things (and more, but it's been a while and I don't remember EVERYthing) and turned it back on her, accusing HER of never showing ME love or appreciation. Her response? Here's what she's done for me:

(1) I bought you a camera for your birthday (NOTE: with MY money, even though she had more than enough at the time and we were financially independent of each other).
(2) I let you kiss me.
(3) ... ... (silence)

Like Tristan and Victoria on Stardust.

Be prepared to yell at me, quotee.

In her defense, you didn't really show her "love" the way girls understand it. You whipped out your wallet and stole scenes from romantic movies, feels a little like you were rattling through a 'to do' list.

To be fair within four months if you did all that (and I was a girl) I'd be running for the hills - talk about too much flash too fast :-/

I've been with my girlfriend eight years on Dec 17th, we own a house together and a pair of slightly spiky Bengal cats. It's all pretty rosy, except two things annoy me about her a little bit-

> She has no opinion on where to eat when we go out - she can't pick a place but she's good at saying "no" until we get all the way back to the first place she turned down.

> She'll sit reading a magazine if I'm playing a videogame, then announce that the sound effects are annoying her (or her new one "they're upsetting the cats") and stare at me until I turn it off. This may be a harrowing indictment of videogame sound effects for spectators, but more likely I think she's just being a loser.

As miserable as it is, outside of that... and by the sound of all the "not exist"s, I'm lucky to have her.

EDIT - This has reminded me that I need to buy an anniversary present while I'm working in Singapore. Ten points to OP.

 

[fgdfgdgd]

My girlfriend can easily start liking other people, and although it doesn't get really lovey and such, it gets close to it, and that bothers me somewhat. Then again, I've always been paranoid and very protective of her, so that'll probably be the end of us X_X. Well. She does like this other guy right now, but if I know her as well as I do, she won't do anything too much...mostly kisses him and such...but she loves me too much to go far with someone else, as I do her...

Wait-Wait-Wait. You're paranoid and protective of her...but it's fine that she kisses other guys because she loves you...The logic there if baffling. Seriously, deserve better, or is this a 'wearer of horns' scenario?

Well, it's really complicated and quite hard to explain, and honestly, it makes her look bad, I...*sighs* I don't know what I'm really saying...'wearer of horns' though, what is that exactly? Anyways, we love each other, and we don't get to see each other much (like....very, very little, it'll be a few years till we can move closer to each other) so as long as she doesn't take it far and I'm first, I'm okay...
...Doesn't mean I want her to or don't get jealous...

Strickly speaking the term i used is only in reference to StarGate... >.> maybe not the best for the wider community, but a definition and term does exist. But seriously, i feel for you, and making a long distance relationship work can require many kinds of sacrifice.

 

[Dublin Solo]

Damn.... It's pretty amazing to see so many guys out there being pissed all the time about their girlfriends, and yet they're still with them.

Sex is that important to you, or is it something else? I don't get it.

 

[Charley]

My girlfriend can easily start liking other people, and although it doesn't get really lovey and such, it gets close to it, and that bothers me somewhat. Then again, I've always been paranoid and very protective of her, so that'll probably be the end of us X_X. Well. She does like this other guy right now, but if I know her as well as I do, she won't do anything too much...mostly kisses him and such...but she loves me too much to go far with someone else, as I do her...

Wait-Wait-Wait. You're paranoid and protective of her...but it's fine that she kisses other guys because she loves you...The logic there if baffling. Seriously, deserve better, or is this a 'wearer of horns' scenario?

Well, it's really complicated and quite hard to explain, and honestly, it makes her look bad, I...*sighs* I don't know what I'm really saying...'wearer of horns' though, what is that exactly? Anyways, we love each other, and we don't get to see each other much (like....very, very little, it'll be a few years till we can move closer to each other) so as long as she doesn't take it far and I'm first, I'm okay...
...Doesn't mean I want her to or don't get jealous...

You, my friend, are setting yourself up for a fall. As a general rule (and yes, I'm generalising, but I had four years of long-distance relationship) girls that love you don't go making out with other guys "because that's how they are". If I understand what you're saying, then we have a word for them and it rhymes with flut.

 

[Justank]

Damn.... It's pretty amazing to see so many guys out there being pissed all the time about their girlfriends, and yet they're still with them.

Sex is that important to you, or is it something else? I don't get it.

Most of these are minor things that come up every now and then, not daily occurrences, and certainly not things worth breaking up over as most of them are very common in the sex they occur in.

I don't know if you have read earlier in the posts, but if you have, you may have read my "How to fix a 'situation'" through "seed" metaphors. I think you might like it...

Not sure how it applies to my post, but yeah I had read it.