I'll go further and say this "soul mate" stuff is bullshit. They're simply someone you like a lot, enough to want to live with them and have sex with them (ok, that doesn't take that much liking). They're not someone you're destined to be with.StarStruckStrumpets said:
I think he knows that now. But even still sometimes it's hard for those who are in love with someone to go in moderation. I used to be in love, and I honestly thought that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. It just felt that right. But we broke it off, for reasons I don't really feel like telling to a bunch of strangers. Love is an odd thing. A lot of people experience it different ways and at different levels. So telling someone to just "go live a fucken little" probably wont do anything. I agree with you that people shouldn't be in love at this age, but hey, sometimes for some people it's not as clear cut as that. I used to tell myself that relationships are crap and then I fell right into one. And I'm younger then you! So I'm just saying that when love does come along, sometimes it's hard to resist.pimppeter2 said:
I've never really found that for myself. I always knew that my current girlfriends and I wouldn't be together forever and that we would eventually brake up. Thu, I've never cried or been sad when we fought/broke up.mrpenguinismyhomeboy said:
Destiny is pretty much bull. You can never be destined to be with someone, no matter how much someone wants to manipulate you into thinking so. Been there, done that.A random person said:
pimppeter2 said:
Man you are such a complete downer. So I shall answer your points one by one.pimppeter2 said:
Everyone knows the saying "It is better to have loved and lost..." and optimism is a very attractive quality, pessimism on the other hand isn't. Instead of trying to be the "voice of reason" and shoot people down when they talk about love, be a little optimistic and see what happens, you're 15 live a little.pimppeter2 said:
pimppeter2 said:TheWieeerdo said:Man you are such a complete downer. So I shall answer your points one by one.
1. "You are 16 motherfucken years old. That is WAAAAYYYY to early to be thinking about 'soul mates'"
I do agree with this to a certain extent however there is no definitive age that one should be considering a "soul mate" and 16 is only 2 years away away from being an adult by law and 1 away from driving. Not that long.
No, if you get married at 16 you will regret it. if you get married at 18 you will regret it. If you have children at 22 while your friends are getting fucked at bars you will regret it
It is officially illegal to get married at 16 in my country, let alone me doing such a thing. Oh and guess what? Whether by getting fucked you mean getting drunk or getting fornicated, it, in no way, applies to my person. If you live long enough to survive your cirrhosis and your STD's, YOU'LL REGRET IT!
2. "Go live a fucken little"
Don't be immature, being in love is a form of "living" and to be quite frank you, yourself have posted over 2000 times on this website. Hipocracy is not a very charming quality.
First of all, I've been on this site for quite a while now. 5-6 months. Also, I did alot of my posting while I was in school. Don't judge me if you don't know me.
Second of all, I've been in this site MUUUUUUUUCH more than you, and even though this is my homepage in my browser, I still have less posts. Why? Make your own conclusions. Also, you're telling him not to judge you, but let me quote God here, judge not and be judged not (or however it goes), and now you know how bad it feels to be judged, deal with it.
3. "The FACT that you should not be in love at 16, especially after haveing like 4 girlfriends in your life."
You can scientifically prove that you can't love when you are 16 years old? This I would like to see.
I guess I can't. Its an opinion that should be a fact. I don't care how much you think your inlove. This isn't boy meets world, and you guys aren't Cory and Topanga. This is not a movie. You've know the girl for too little to think your in love.
I'd like to quote both of you here, in fact. I'll quote Thewieeerdo by saying that it was MERE INFATUATION (look it up, schoolboy). Whoever Cory and Topanga are, I'm sure we're nothing like them. We're cooler. Also, what makes you think I've known the girl for too little? Here is were I quote you, You don't know me, so don't judge, (this does not deny my prior point, I am merely quoting you and I am open for judgement), because as a matter of fact, I've known the girl for 6 years now, like I said, we've always been classmates.
4. "You can't support a family/wife at 16."
That is right... But given that both of them are probably still living with their parents talk of marriage and parenthood is more than likely YEARS away from discussion.
If they are 'soul mates' isnt marrige the next step? I doubt if ye so sue of your love that he should be thinking about marring her. Unless you know HE'S ACTUALLY NOT SURE HE"S IN LOVE. If you're in love at sixteen, wouldn't marrige be the option at 19? And wouldn't kids be in question after 3 years of marrige? You try imagining taking care of a cryying baby while your friends are at frat parties
Why are you stratifying everything like this? I said I wanted to make her my soul mate, not that she were. In fact, if she truly were, she wouldn't have rejected me, now would've she? Just comes to show. On the other hand, yes, I am pretty sure I was in love, and no amount of criticism or judgement is going to change that. Besides, I have never, EVER though of marrying anyone, not even my guitar (and mind you, I love her to pieces). Proof once again that yuor vision of love is waaaaaaaaay too stratified. I have also got the perfect example to prove you wrong on the other hand. (Drumroll) Enter: my sister. She has been in a relationship with his now husband for at least 9 years, 8 of which were spent as novitage, and 7 were spent without living in the same house. And it's going to take a looooong time before they breed, because, regardless of the fact my sister earns over 1000 euros a month, she still values partying out with her friends, and has done things right, and is going to wait till 30+ to have babies. Oh, and guess who, being a teenager, took care of me like a second mother, thus throwing away most of her partying life? Yup, that's right, her, and I will never be able to thank her enough. So, in fact, she took care of a baby from being 12 to being over 16, and she still has to deal with me. I think she deserves a medal
5. "You don't have a job."
Plenty of people have jobs at 16, and again this proves nothing about not being able to have a relationship, it aint "all about da money" as you seem to assume.
When the babies come (lets say around 22), and your still in college. I want to see how you can pay off all those debts. You think the parents could afford college and a child? What if they don't end up going to the same college? What if one of them is forced to drop out to stay at home or work. Nice fucken life. Were's your love now!
Once again, wrong. Babies can come at any age, and the amount of time you spend with a girl doesn't ahve to determine that. I think you are basing it all around the typical and completely wrong belief of: Kiss the girl around 2 weeks of going out, have sex with her after 2 months, then dump her (time intervals and other activities may vary), which of course seems like the only thought that goes around the minds of younger people these days. On the other hand, and I hold my parents responsible for this, they re-mortgaged our house to pay of one of their projects, and it's a house whose mortgage value cannot be paid off in any shorter time than 25 years. That's right, and my parents are 55 and 53. You know what that means? When they're too old to work, it's me who's paying that mortgage, and I will have to do so whilst being in college, so comparing that to a baby, I think it's a small price to pay. Also, people work and study, and people break through the worst of crisis'. Just because everything in your life has been done for you doesn't mean that you won't be resourceful when the time comes to be so, but what about 16 year old rape victims? They have to take care of their child, and they're much younger, and they still study and make themselves worth something. Oh, and the love will probably be in the same place, same person, if it isn't, once again, IT IS INFATUATION
6. "Do you think today people that are 16 can last in a relationship. Maybe it worked for our parents but not for us."
Yes, yes I do. Law of averages my friend. Besides what he was talking about was more of an infatuation then a life long relationship, and even though our age is more materialistic -MUCH more materialistic- it can and will be done. You yourself said that there are exceptions.
I'm not saying he shouldn't be upset or at least go out with her. But don't push this too far guy
Yes. Yes you did. Don't talk about soul mates (when I didn't) you said. Go out and live a little, you said.
Sooooo this is what your post should look like:
pimppeter2 said:Is that seriously, seriously now, the best you can come up with? Mentioning how he likes cock (when I can easily assure he doesn't)? Truly, try to base your arguments on facts.pimppeter2 said:
I'll talk about love when im 30. Right now I'll focus on friends, having fun, and chasing girls. Like a fucken kid should
WHICH YOU SHOULD! I mean, go full steam ahead man, you and I are just different, but if we don't try and comprehend each other, we will never stop this flmae war. But just think about it this way: many people are just a shadow of their former self when they reach 30, both mentally and phisically, so maybe you'd prefer to have fun now, but what if you don't make it when you indeed are 30? That, and no other thing, is what originates the famous midlife crisis, accentuated from 40+, and I honestly wish that to no one. My opinion is that you can have everything you want, as long as you are ready to work for it and pay for the possible consequences. I am, and I know I am.
Are you?
I told you what I thought. I don't expect you to take advice from a stranger on the internet. I was trying to cheer you up. You are 16. You don't need to worry about love or 'soul mates' or whatnot.Tonimata said:
What? because you have been to this site more than me that makes you right? I was only telling that guy that I had been here a while, thats why I had a lot of posts, that means nothing. That has nothing to do with the argument.stupid shit said:
Her parents were not happy, but they states we are from mark 16 as the age of legal sexual activity. While we have and intend on "being good" it was something we made note of for our protection.Assassinator said:
