This one girl

[Discrodia]

Ignore her 1/3 of the time, smile another 1/3 of the time, and improvise the last 1/3.

Additionally....

1. DO NOT BECOME ATTACHED. Save that for when/if you are together. This will save you a crapload of pain down the road.

2. Always keep your options open. There's an extremely good chance while you're enchanted by her, one of her friends (whose likely just as good) has been staring at you and sighing for the past few weeks.

3. Find a common interest. If there isn't one, don't bother.

4. Girls love to mess with people. There's a very good chance she's just doing this to see what happens.

5. Act like yourself. Don't act differently just because you like her. Again, will save you a lot of time down the road.

6. Be friends first. That way, when/if you get anywhere, you'd likely be together longer and/or have a far less painful eventual break-up.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Tell the ***** to just come out and say whether or not she likes you. God dayummmm.

 

[qazmatoz]

Flirting can just be fun, doesn't mean she wants to jump you or anything. Flirt back and have a good time. Don't take it too seriously and you'll be just peachy.

 

[Veret]

Well for starters, you might wanna go find the relationship thread(the actually name, if misspelled.), but something you might want to try is not asking dating tips on a gaming website.

Yes indeed, that thread is here [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread#2209647], and it is well worth your (OP) time. Of course, BonsaiK has a habit of sniffing out threads like this on his own, so he may already have noticed you.

If I may offer some advice of my own: Consider the possibility that she isn't actually flirting with you. You didn't mention anything specific so I couldn't say for sure, but sometimes people can mistake "being nice" for flirting. Maybe she just likes you as a friend. Or maybe not--you won't know for sure until you talk to her about it.

 

[Zac_Dai]

There is this one girl at my school and she is super nice and the girl of my dreams. She flirts with me a lot but the time i asked her out, she said no. She still flirts with me and acts like she wants to go out with me. I'm not sure what to do. I really want to go out with her. She is everything I want but she's sending me mixed signals. I wish i could just move on and forget about her but that's harder than it sounds. What should I do?

She's playing you so play right back. Its game and to play the game well you have to act like you're not really interested in her flirting. Make her work hard to receive attention from you.

This way she is chasing you instead of you chasing her (ie asking her out) and you become instantly more attractive to her. With luck and some applied smoothness you'll get to fondle her after school one day. Don't try to have a relationship with her though, as she will lose interest after a few weeks, she is 14 afterall.

Also when you were in nappies I was playing Tomb Raider and Wipeout on the original Playstation. Christ I feel old.

 

[trueluigi7]

I am in a very related situation except the girl I asked said no because she has problems with grades while in a relationship...it feels though we will be going out in the summer though...I feel sorry for you dude but I have no advice except remember that in another part of the world someone is dying.

 

[TheTim]

hit it and quit it, hump and dump

 

[Zedzero]

Maybe she isn't trying to flirt with you, and it just seems like she is. Also, it might be because of your Pedobear avatar, you never know. (Sarcasm, by the way)

This. Are you 100% if not more that your are sure she is flirting?

 

[bassdrum]

There is this one girl at my school and she is super nice and the girl of my dreams. She flirts with me a lot but the time i asked her out, she said no. She still flirts with me and acts like she wants to go out with me. I'm not sure what to do. I really want to go out with her. She is everything I want but she's sending me mixed signals. I wish i could just move on and forget about her but that's harder than it sounds. What should I do?

I've been in an identical situation, it really sucks. Just try to find someone else, as impossible as that may seem, because it will only get harder if you don't--I speak from experience.

 

[T3h Merc]

This thread is making me sad.
OT: It's probably nothing. Just ignore.

 

[0p3rati0n]

flirt back?

i dunno, that just seems the most obvious.


of course, you're a guy.
you don't know what flirting is... you'll never know.
it is why us guys always piss girls off.

and that's why we suck! Then again we are human and we all suck soooooo.... *looks up thinking* huh.....

 

[ProtoChimp]

Ah the mindfuck of love, I've been there, nearly got stabbed for it actually. Be straight with her dude, be honest and ask if she's just messing with you or if there's actually something between you two.

 

[The Almighty Aardvark]

As hard as it may seem try to forget her. Considering your ages and how she's acting chances are you're interested in her for the wrong reasons. I've been in your situation before, and it wasn't until we ended up going out that I clued in. Girls like to flirt and often don't realize when someone is reading too much into it. Try not to be too attached to her, chances are that she'll start flirting with other people and that'll be much easier to deal with if you're not emotionally involved.

 

[geldonyetich]

If you're asking for advice on a gaming forum, methinks you'd best bide your time lest you get hurt.

Personally, I'm a straight shooter, which would prevent the situation from manifesting in the first place.

"Hey, I can't help but notice you're flirting with me, what gives?"
"Yes you are, or at least I'm certainly interpreting it as such."
"You're still dodging the question."
"Alright, see you around."

 

[w@rew0lf]

I think she's leading you on.

When you ask her out again ask her somewhere private and out of the way. Minimal distractions and just you + her in the immediate area is what you're going for.

Keep your plans away from your friends this is not their business make sure it stays that way. Be as straightforward as possible and keep it a low pressure situation for her.

If you start saying things like "Your the love of my life", "Your so perfect I want to be with you forever" or "I can't live without you give me a lock of your hair so I can sleep with it" then she'll be in China by the next morning.

Try something like. "Hey your a pretty cool person and I have to be honest I like you. I was kinda wondering if you might want to hang out and do (insert activity here) sometime?

If she refuses or continues to lead you on.

*Shrug*

Cut all contact. There are other girls (or?) boys more deserving of your time.

 

[firedfns13]

There is this one girl at my school and she is super nice and the girl of my dreams. She flirts with me a lot but the time i asked her out, she said no. She still flirts with me and acts like she wants to go out with me. I'm not sure what to do. I really want to go out with her. She is everything I want but she's sending me mixed signals. I wish i could just move on and forget about her but that's harder than it sounds. What should I do?

No.
Stay away from her. Women like that are A) Crazy, B) looking for a reaction, and C) she's said no to you once, and even if she says yes again, its still a no.
She'll just jerk you around some then break it off.

At least, my experience.

 

[TheBluesader]

I think I'm gonna take your advice. You see to be serious. lol

Fine, fine. So I wasn't entire serious. But seriously, you should try the "oh, we should do something sometime, when I'm not so damn busy" thing. They'll usually go for it.

...Probably because you're not calling it a date, so they can act like it really isn't, and keep playing this game with you for months, until they hear you're calling them your girlfriend, and then they'll rise up like an angry giant squid and proclaim that they are in fact NOT, since you were never actually dating, just "hanging out," even though you bought them crap and they let you get to second base.

Hypothetically speaking, of course. There's a chance it could go well. I mean, at least you'll get to second base. And as you're in high school, you really don't need to worry about much else.

 

[aPod]

There is this one girl at my school and she is super nice and the girl of my dreams. She flirts with me a lot but the time i asked her out, she said no. She still flirts with me and acts like she wants to go out with me. I'm not sure what to do. I really want to go out with her. She is everything I want but she's sending me mixed signals. I wish i could just move on and forget about her but that's harder than it sounds. What should I do?

Heres the thing, some girls just like to play with guys.

That is it.

Ok ok, i'll go into it alittle bit more. Alot of girls like to have guys under thier thumb, hell even i liked to tease girls that i had no interest in. Some people, like myself, are just attention whores.

Especially if she said no to you buddy... that means if you ask again and she says no, its nooooooo. Try one more time, in the words of a great great man. "Why the hell not."