This one girl

[Master_of_Oldskool]

Hate to tell ya this, man, but in my experience 90% of all flirting is just teasing, and not an expression of desire. She's probably just seeing it as being a sort of joke between friends, and doesn't actually feel for you. Tough break, man, but that's how life works. Might I suggest experimenting with asexuality? That's what I did after I was turned down very, very loudly, and very, very rudely, in a public place, with many of my schoolmates there, for a third time, and I haven't gone back.

 

[UsefulPlayer 1]

Focus on her bad qualities and set her in the friend zone of your mind with as must effort you can possibly muster. I suggest you talk to other girls.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Stay away from her, dude.

It sounds like shes trying to play you. Don't let that happen.

Call me insecure, but that stuff raises an automatic red flag for me.

 

[Jark212]

ignore her and start paying heaps of attention to her best friend.

This...

 

[Brad Shepard]

go out with someone else, see what happens, shes using you if you ask me.

 

[Generator]

ignore her and start paying heaps of attention to her best friend.

Well, I was just going to say confront her, but this is loads better.

No, seriously, this is hilarious and also really good advice.

 

[natural_fighter64]

Treat her like shit. Apparently, women like that nowadays. The nice guy look is soooo last week, verbal abuse is in the now.

 

[Abjecthdam]

get to know her first before you make a move bro i really like this chick named Andrea, but idk she might not be the person i think she is.

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

Throwing it out there... the girl might not realize she's flirting with you. I've talked to many of my guy friends, and they've said that a lot of what I thought was laid-back, friendly teasing sounded a hell of a lot like flirting.

But if you're absolutely positive that she's flirting... yeah. She's already turned you down once, and she'll do the same again. It's time to move on, either way.

 

[Abjecthdam]

Best advice I can give it to try to get out of the "girl of my dreams" mentality. You can still like her, of course, but always turn the rational eye to what she says, don't blindly accept anything because of your crush, you may be seeing romantic subtext where there is none. Trust me, I learned that the hard way. All the same, it may be best that you tell us how she's flirting, there may be romantic subtext after all.

lol i go through that girl of my dreams bull shit, that shit can't mess up your head bro.

 

[CloakedOne]

enjoy the attention learn from it and dont rise to her advances. that'll drive her nuts

Girls like that usually only want you when you pretend like you don't want them. A strange ritual, but true.

 

[Abjecthdam]

Honestly, if she's playing you like this, you deserve better. I know it's hard to move on, but while many people would consider eventually dating her as a victory, in the end it's not. This is a negative character trait that you don't want in someone if you're looking for a real relationship: definitely something you don't want in marriage, which should be the desired end result or any serious relationship. Hate to say it, 'cause I know how hard this is, but you don't want that. I say let her go.

yeah i agree with this guy but it's your life bro do what feels right

 

[Berethond]

get to know her first before you make a move bro i really like this chick named Andrea, but idk she might not be the person i think she is.

They never are.
People put on masks when they're around other people.
Sometimes you think you've seen through it, but then you realize it's just another masks.

Sometimes I wonder if there's a "real me" or "real you" at all, if we're not just our masks.

 

[BatOtaku13]

sometimes a girl's just not interested. ask her one more time, and if there's no dice, move on. there are plenty of fish in the ocean.

 

[justhereforthemoney]

I dunno, what do you define as "flirting"? Because me and a few of my female friends always "fake flirt", you might say. We might be working on homework together and one of them will say "Hey, I bet you wouldn't mind if we took a break from this. So... want a good time?", or I might come up behind one of them and say "Damn girl, I couldn't help noticing your sexy ass!". One time one of them was sitting beside me in Bio class, and she decided to grab my thigh and slowly work her way up. Kind of awkward...

It's all in good fun, and we obviously aren't serious, but a stranger witnessing it might think it's real flirting. So, it all depends on the people and context of the situation.

If it's not fake flirting, then call her out on it. One day when she flirts, ask her if she feels anything for you, and if not, why is she flirting. Remember that it could just be her nature, not everyone flirts only with people they're interested in.

The "fake flirt" sooo confusing when you don't know the person that well, and has of't cost me a wench.
OT: I saw you are 14 and I was going to say it better not be my sister, and then I saw you live in Cali, so no worries. Secondly no matter what I say you sound head-over-heels for this girl so you'll probably still do what your "heart" tells you to. But anyway, as you have probably already read she is a "cocktease", girls that flirt with you so you then want them and that increases their ego. The best thing to do with one of these is ignore their advances and sidestep the flirting. They will only crave your attention more and put you up on that pedestal, since you seem out of their league. It probably will not work in the long run though, but to hell with the long run your 14 go have some fun!

 

[Slayer_2]

The "fake flirt" sooo confusing when you don't know the person that well, and has of't cost me a wench.

True, it is quite awkward sometimes. By now, I've been friends with these girls for years, so we're all used to it (and the inevitable questions from strangers about our relationships). I can't count how many people think we're sex-addicted lovers

And give the kid a break, being 14 is no picnic
I was probably at my most awkward at that point, thank god I skipped junior year.

 

[SnucklesMan]

Wow. So many replies. Thanks for the advice. I'm sensing a theme. Stay friends with her and ask her out again eventually. I'll deffinately try that. Thank you Interwebs.

 

[teutonicman]

Put her in her place man, that's what you gotta do with cock-teases like that.