UPDATED!!!! Is she being selfish to want a baby??

[Astoria]

You don't keep secrets from your partner...that simple

Yeah this, of course couples will keep small secrets but something like this cannot remain hidden, it has way too big a impact on them.

Also, it's probably too early in the relationship for a child but that is their choice. It has to be both of them making the decision though, not just her.

 

[MelziGurl]

The foundation for any relationship is trust. She's breaking that trust to go behind his back to achieve personal happiness. Yes it's selfish. He might not reject the baby, but he may very well reject her as a part of his life.

 

[SenseOfTumour]

I'm channeling a stand up here, but it's true, you need to move in for a week, confiscate all her make up and hair products, 24 hour mums of a baby don't have time for all that, and every 2 hours thru the night, you need to turn the stereo up to 11 and poke her with a stick til she gets up... set fire to all the money she has in her purse, then find some of her most treasured possessions and smear peanut butter and dribble all over them...

After a week ask her if she still wants a baby, or whether she'd prefer to keep her partner instead.

Personally, I always use condoms, because I think babies are the most terrifying STD that ever was.

 

[Maze1125]

Anyone who's under the age of 25 and has a child; and is not in a situation where they're really well off financially; deserves the fucking hell the rest of their life is going to be.

Wait.

Don't think it's worth waiting? Do some research.

You're an idiot.

I had twins while I was still at university aged 22.

We had some money, but nothing anyone would consider "really well off financially" and once I left uni the only income we had was my own.

And, ya know what? It was wonderful, children are fantastic. And even though we had barely any money, it was never a problem as we always carefully budgeted.

 

[Maze1125]

Yeah I'm the idiot. Hey this year I got to stand on the coast of every major shore in the US.

Cool, I've been to Europe.

Donate 15% of my earning to charity to help thousands of children.

Yep, do that too.

On top of that I'm up and moving soon to snatch up some property and start to develop my life's dream art project.

We own a house, and I'm a mathematician.
Your point?

While you contributed to the over population of the world

Actually, essentially all first world countries have a birth rate of less than 2 children per woman. a birth rate of 2.1 is needed to sustain a population.

Over-population is a myth. If anything, the population is going to start declining in a couple of generations, very likely resulting in economic collapse. Not that that scenario is very likely either, as humans are very good at keeping themselves stable.

and added two more victims to society.

Victims to society? Paranoid much?

Whom you'll no doubt coddle to the point of making them useless for anything other than hoping better for them than you had yourself.

Lol.

I'm going to assume you put 20% of your income each year towards a savings fund for either child right?

Of course.

Look I hope you end up well off and good fortune to your children, but you made a mistake.

No, we didn't.
You're just arrogant and stupid enough to think that what's good for you is good for everyone.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Obviously she's asked me to keep it secret but i dont want to see him get hurt as a result of it. I love both of them like family, and i dont know what to do...

First off, i dont know why but thats funny in a way. Not to be rude, just saying.


OT: I would say she is, but mainly cause at 19, thats far to young to be having a baby and you're in a rough spot financially. But I think about things like financially usually. or at least first.