Virginity

[Feste the Jester]

Not really

Nope

Nope

Pointlessly Stupid

Wait until you're with someone you're ready to do it with, not necessarily marriage.

 

[jack583]

never had sex and i really don't care if i ever do.

How the heck can you sell virginity?

Bunny ranch.

actually there is a guy who auctioned off his daughters' virginity on ebay.
don't know who it was though.

When arranged marriages happen and a bride price is involved, the bride herself is almost literally being sold, and her price will almost always vary depending on whether or not she is a virgin. So in that sense, virginity can be sold. Also, virgin (as in new) prostitutes can sell their virginity as any other prostitute would sell the service of sex.

it wasn't marrage, just sex.
and she didn't sell it, her dad did. just for profit.

 

[Julianking93]

What's your view on virginity? By my own morals, I'd rather save it for someone I truly care about rather than trying to lose it as soon as possible. It's ridiculous to me when people feel the need to cave into pressure and try to fuck someone as soon as they can. I can understand what with there being so much focus on it in society and the media, but really, why would you even want that with someone you don't care for? Now, I'm still a virgin, technically. If you count any sort of sex as losing one's virginity, then I'm far from being a virgin but one thing I can say is that the people I've had relations with have all been people I love or care for deeply.

Big deal/not? Kinda answered that already. It's kind of a big deal in that I'd rather save myself for someone special rather than try with all my power to get fucked right now.

Sacred/not? Again, I answered that already.

Something that can be sold? It shouldn't be, but it can be.

Promise Rings? Completely and utterly pointless.

Should you wait for love, marriage or any opportunity? Already answered, but I am in no place to judge anyone. I know what's best for me and that's to wait for someone I love. I don't believe in marriage, so fuck that. I am not going to judge someone for their actions (at least not openly) but don't try to pressure me into doing something I don't want.

 

[babinro]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Not a big deal, however, in reality it can easily impact those around you. People can look negatively or think there is something wrong with a person who is older and still a virgin. As such, this information could have an impact on personal or potential relationships. At least that's my take as a 30 year old virgin.

Not sacred, but can be viewed as such if you choose to.

Everything in the world has a price, it can absolutely be sold and this should be allowed. I personally in no way support or respect the choice, but I don't see why it should be disallowed.

I don't understand or see the appeal in promise rings.

People should only act when both are comfortable and ready. I myself like the notion of waiting until marriage to make the experience as special and meaningful as possible.

 

[Wadders]

My view is that one should lose it ASAP, and then one can focus on more important things in life, once the worry of loosing it has gone.

And dont wait till marrige for fucks sake, sex is too much fun to postpone that long.

It's not a big deal, and its not sacred. End of.

 

[Ironrose]

I forget my first time. Like I know who it was with but I forget the details. I have been told this is weird.

I'm the same, remember who, when and where but the rest is very foggy.

 

[Astoria]

It's not a big deal whether or not you're a virgin.
It's not sacred.
I find selling it to be a form of prostitution so I find it disgusting in a way.
If promise rings are you thing then go for it but I personally think they're stupid.
What you should wait for is someone whom you are completely comfortable around and someone that will make it meaningful. It's something you're going to always remember so do you really want to be stuck with the memory of being a drunken mess and having some random whose name you can't remember in there somewhere? I waited until I was in a serious relationship and I don't not regret it one bit and I never will.

 

[AcidMittens]

If you got the money then you don't have to worry about a thing

 

[ExileNZ]

As much as you make of it.

Ditto.

Anything can be sold, but the situations where it is are pretty abhorrent.

Promise rings can be a good way to side-step a complicated/messy marriage situation.

Wait for whatever goes with your values. Your personal values tho - if you're religious and think waiting is stupid, then don't. If you aren't and you don't, do.

 

[jcallen]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

I believe it is a big deal, something sacred, and shouldn't be thrown away lightly.
If you wish to sell it, just make sure you get your money's worth cause it's something that can only be sold once.
Promise rings aren't for everyone, but between the right two people can be something very special.
I think you should wait for love, if not marriage.

Someone with... similar views to me regarding sex? On the Escapist? WHAT WIZARDRY IS THIS

But yeah what he said.

4 people on the Escapist in the same mindset... (Dies of heart attack)

 

[VanillaBean]

I'm trying to save it for marriage, but being a teenage guy....

well lets just say its always up in the air.

 

[p3t3r]

meh have all the sex you want. in fact if you have enough sex sperm kills other sperm so you wont get pregnant if you have sex with enough guys. so yeah have all the sex you want i mean you can even go around getting pregnant and trying to catch disease if thats what your into, just if it is the disease thing then tell people.

that being said i haven't had sex yet because i am fail at girls

 

[Fraught]

not
not sacred
I 'unno, probably not.
Pointless and stupid.
Depends on the person. I, myself, am not that adamant on waiting 'til, for example, marriage.

 

[BabySinclair]

It's less useful than handiness or eye-color. Losing it doesn't (or at least shouldn't) change who you are, either you've had sex or not

no

plenty of people claim to be virgins and then shoot a porno to make money off it, knock yourself out

'bout as useful as Valentine's Day, just a way people make money off others

Depends on the person and their views of relationships, if they want to wait for that one person, power to them, if they want a new girl every night then there's really no reason to wait

 

[joshuaayt]

Big deal/not: Not.

sacred/not sacred: Also not.

something that can be sold?(should it): Why not? It isn't a big deal, nor a sacred artifact.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good): Promise whats? Like, marriage rings, or...?

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?: Wait until you are in close proximity to an applicable person who also wishes to instigate sexual proceedings. All of these factors must be positive- if not, I'd suggest masturbating instead.

In fact, screw it- I'd suggest masturbating anyway. Sex is only important because people think it is important because people think it is important because people and etc. Sure, it's fun and all, but it tends to leave a mess.

 

[TheTaco007]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

No, it's like saying if you eat at the same place every day you're less likely to get food poisoning. If they change the cook however, you could be getting the same food, but you might get food poisoning.
The place may also pick up a couple of new, better dishes too.

My point remains the same.

 

[warprincenataku]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
Big deal? Yes, I think it should be given to someone you care about.

sacred/not sacred
Sacred is taking it a bit too far. It's your virginity, not the holy grail. Although some would argue they're one in the same.

something that can be sold?(should it)
Ugh, I refuse to comment because I know some jackhole will have something to say about it, like they usually do.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
In short, they're cute. If you want to promise yourself to someone, that's great.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Marriage is a bit harsh, with over half of all marriages ending in divorce. Personally I think you should wait until you're older to marry. Love is a good answer, but sometimes people just want to get it over with, thinking it'll be akward and painful. Given enough time and build up, it can be sweet and enjoyable.

 

[Vault101]

this whole focus on virginity I supose is an outdated thing

I dont know for sure but I think a politician here in Aus might have said somthing along the lines of "Virginity is a gift..." I mean seriously what the fuck??how is virginity a gift?

and what ever "innocence" is its overrated

 

[loc978]

-not a big deal.
-nothing is sacred.
-of course it can be sold. Whether or not it should is entirely up to the individual.
-promise what?
-marriage should be an entirely religious function. If you're religious, good on ya. Just don't push it on me, please (in other words: wait until marriage if you want, I'm never getting married and I love sex, so...)
...have sex when you and whoever else is involved want to. Any limitations on that are your own.

 

[Kenny Kondom]

It shouldnt be a big deal, and in some circumstances, if your scared to do it, dont.
In my case (sorry if this is too much info) but it was with my first girlfriend. We both had the disire to do it, but we both made sure it was a mutual thing. No pressure on either side. Must say, t'was good.
And If someone believes in no sex before marrage, then good for them, they should never be pressured into changing their view on the world. But that veiw wasnt for me, and shouldnt nessacerily be for everyone.
Take your own time with it.
People (mainly blokes from my perspective) seem to use losing their virginity as a 'badge of honour'. This annoys me. Ive always taken it as an act of trust, so bragging about it to freinds is stupid and eliminates the trust you should have built with the other party. Its an intimate thing that only you and the other party should really care about.