what do you look for?

Recommended Videos

Kriptonite

New member
Jul 3, 2009
1,049
0
0
Intelligence, for me, is a huge turn on. Wisdom, as I've come to realize, is equally as important in the various applications of said intelligence. Being cute and funny is a super plus!
For some perspective, I'd rather spend time with an intelligent ***** than a pretty idiot. At least we could have a conversation.
 

Evil Moo

Always Watching...
Feb 26, 2011
392
0
0
In short, I try not to. It seems like a waste of time for something I'm not even sure I would want.

If anyone were to express an interest in me, I would almost certainly attempt to drive them away from me, regardless of personality, intelligence or appearance, based on a combination of a crippling fear of unfamiliar circumstances and the threat to my worldview that such an event would constitute.
 

trooper6

New member
Jul 26, 2008
873
0
0
1. Sexually Attractive (note: this isn't the same as having good looks. There are many people who others say are hot, but who I don't find sexually attractive at all. I'm talking here about chemistry)
2. Politically Progressive. This includes being a feminist and not being a republican. Not being homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, etc.
3. Not being religious.
4. Being both intelligent and also educated. Being the sort of person who enjoys deconstructing media in an analytical way.
5. Being close to my age.
6. Being independent. (No needy people or co-dependent people...must have own interests and personality and hobbies and friends)
7. Be positive and kind. Cynics, mean people, and gloomy people are not for me. You must like yourself and see beauty in the world.
8. Be in a similar life space as I am. This means, for example, no students--even if they are my age. I'm now settled, so I also want people who live on their own, have their own job, have a settled sense of social identity.
9. No/minimal emotional baggage. I know who I am, and that person is not a drama queen. I want the same. If you are still working out who you are and what you want...we are not compatible.
10. No virgins. No people who are sex negative. No men who think that sex is about them taking something. No women who think that sex is about them giving something up. No one who thinks that having lots of sex is somehow bad or shameful.
11. No alcoholics, addicts, smokers.
12. You must have something you are passionate about and be passionate about the world.
13. Honest and Honorable.
14. Low maintenance.

Optional things that would be great:
1. Gamer (table-top, video game)...but if not, as long as you are independent and don't mind me doing my thing, we are good.
2. Worldly/Adventurous. It would be great if you have travelled abroad, or extensively within this country. If you speak another language. If you are appreciative of other cultures.
 

Relish in Chaos

New member
Mar 7, 2012
2,660
0
0
My "dream woman" is someone who's attractive (like the above, more about chemistry than being smokin' hot like Morgan Fairchild; reasonably average is fine), has a good personality, is intelligent, perhaps has a good sense of humour, has a strong character, is independent, has ambition, isn't religious or outdated, isn't discriminatory, doesn't want to get married or have children (and doesn't have any already), shares my common interests and beliefs, isn't vain, isn't afraid to not conform or break preconcieved stereotypes (whether that be in gender, sexuality, etc.), is sexually attracted to me, understands me and accepts me for who I am.

Bonuses would be if she's bisexual, into gaming/comic books/other "nerdy" stuff that I can relate to, and into BDSM.

trooper6 said:
No virgins.
I don't mean to criticize, but isn't this a bit mean? Or were you joking and/or you worded it wrongly? Because not everyone's ready for sex at a given time, and people experience it at different times in their lives. You could end up going out with someone who's never had a partner, or at least a serious one, before.
 

TheRealJLars

New member
Feb 15, 2010
41
0
0
She needs to be attractive, but not necessarily hot. I look for women who are understanding and supportive of my passions. I guess this would tie into independence. I really like a girl who not only understands my sense of humor, but is really funny herself. If she's as big of a dork as I am, then that's perfect. I prefer a girl who's easy to talk to and generally agreeable to be around. Intelligence within reason is preferred.

Optional, but definitely bonuses: Redheads, not having a tonne of emotional baggage, open-mindedness.. and if I can get her interested in gaming, that's a pretty huge bonus as well.

It's one of those things where she's pretty much in the clear if I meet her at a ska show or through band. Everywhere else is hit-and-miss.
 

Dethenger

New member
Jul 27, 2011
775
0
0
My dick

I don't know. In a weird way, I kind of want a girl to be... pure, I guess. Maybe that's not accurate. See, I grew up and live in Utah. I really find myself attracted to the Mormon types-- not the "too Mormon" types, of course, we'd be grating on each other's nerves at all times. I suppose a better way to put it would be an "open-minded Mormon." It sounds kind of fucked up to say, but my ideal girlfriend would be the result of corruption, so to speak. What I mean by that is that you take the basic "Mormon Girl," and then add me. A girl who doesn't swear, but doesn't mind when I do, or who believes in God but doesn't mind that I don't. I remember reading about the psychology of relationships once; the two types are symmetrical and complementary; they are basically what they sound like. In the former, the two people are similar, have similar interests, and click because of that. In the latter, the two are unalike, offering a sense of completeness; their traits compensate for your shortcomings and vice versa. I think that'd be fairly accurate. I'm uncomfortable around people; and yet the girls I "crush on," so to speak, are the social butterfly types. I'm not a particularly good student; they're usually AP/ Student Government. I remember a girl once approached me because she saw I was reading Nietzsche, and much to my delight, she said, "I read some of him."
"Oh yeah?"
"Yeah, my sister and I were reading Thus Spoke Zarathustra, but she wanted to stop because it was anti-God and stuff."
Chuckle; "Yeah, it is."
"Depends on how you read it."
At this point, I really should've been like, "No. What? It blatantly is; even a brief glance at Nietzsche's other works makes that clear. He wrote a book called Anti-Christ. Arguably his most famous quote is 'God is dead.' You don't know what you're talking about."
But instead I was like, "I suppose so," and all the while thinking, well, she at least knows about Nietzsche; that means she's a little open-minded.
 

krazykidd

New member
Mar 22, 2008
6,099
0
0
Must weight over 250 pounds , be caucasian , female at birth , have all her teeth , not disabled nor mentally handicapped , no children, normal self esteem , and likes to give and receive oral sex . Bonus points if she has blue or green eyes .
 

ThatLankyBastard

New member
Aug 18, 2010
1,885
0
0
Lets see... I think I go for 20% appearance, 50% personality and 30% smarts...
The perfect girl would (preferably) have to be shorter then me (I'm a pretty tall guy, so thats not usually a problem), and relatively slim. A nice smile and a cute face. As for "Endowment"... Preferably not very large, flat is great with me!

I want a unique girl, one not afraid to go her own way and doesn't care what someone else thinks about it. A gamer-girl or a nerdy-girl are bonus marks, with super marks if they are into anime! Fun-to-be-around and nice are also definite pros. And smart (but not so much that she's way smarter then me!).

And I kinda want her to be a bit reliant on me... I'm all for chivalry, so it kills me to see a girl paying her way through a date. I'd love a girl who won't decline my offers of "I don't suppose you'd let me pay for that?" or "Do you want that?"...

... of course these are the combinations for what I'd call a "Perfect Girl", not the specifics and requirements for what I'm looking for... I'm very flexible!

The girl is fun-loving, unique, short, flat, interesting, pretty, athletic, nice smile, cute face (although, she IS anime so that ones kinda irrelevant) and just plain nice in general. Although not the smartest, definitely not dumb. She goes her own way, headfirst whenever possible, and if you don't like it then fuck you! Emi was my favorite KS story by far because she fit so closely to my "Perfect Girl"...

And before anyone thinks the worse of me, I do not have an amputee fetish. that being said, I could easily look past something like in Emi's case, and love the girl for who she is rather then what she is lacking.
 

Julianking93

New member
May 16, 2009
14,715
0
0
I don't really look for anything.
It just sorta happens, really.
I never got anywhere by having a strict set of requirements for someone I want to date.
Romantic attraction and them being fun to be around is really all I look for.


Sure, I may have my personal tastes for appearance and whatnot but it doesn't really matter.
If I love someone, I love them, regardless of my prerequisites of what they should be or adhere to.
Personally, I think people having a set list of what they want will only end up with them disappointed, but then again, the types typically to make out lists have high standards anyway.

I will say though that I tend to like shy people a lot
Gives a fair bit of common ground and such. My girlfriend is very shy and introverted, as am I so I think it makes for a good combination.
But really, it just depends. I fell in love with my girlfriend not because she fit any criteria.
But rather because she and I had romantic attraction to one another.
We enjoy our time together and each others company. That's pretty much it.
And, personally, I think it's perfect for us.