What is your deal breaker?
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If they arn't organized. I can't stand my friends somtimeswhen stuff isn't alphabetized etc.
i i was with sombody who was like that i'd hate it.
smoking is also a bit of a deal breaker for me as well, i can't abide smokers in the street let alone if i was with one
finally if she wasn't intellectually challenging enough for me. If we couldn't have philisophical or in-depth disscusions i'd be out of there like a shot
i i was with sombody who was like that i'd hate it.
smoking is also a bit of a deal breaker for me as well, i can't abide smokers in the street let alone if i was with one
finally if she wasn't intellectually challenging enough for me. If we couldn't have philisophical or in-depth disscusions i'd be out of there like a shot
I have a couple:
- Drug use, including smoking. Plain disgusting.
- Religion. I can't stand religion, any of them. It's nothing personal, but if you're a person of faith, it ain't gonna work out.
- Not accepting my geekiness. If you think I'm weird because of my Ezio statuette or my big Star Wars Anniversary poster; out with you.
- Fat. Yes, it's typical, and while I don't mind a few pounds extra, I can't stand someone with a mentality to just not take care of their own bodies.
- Has shabby personal hygiene. Same reason as fat really, taking care of yourself is important.
- Stupidity. I ain't talking about some silly moment every now and then, and it's not like I demand a Mensa member or something. I just want a nice conversation every now and then. Someone who isn't afraid of long words.
Of course there are a few minor dislikes, but nothing that can be talked about, and you have to make some concessions anyway.
- Drug use, including smoking. Plain disgusting.
- Religion. I can't stand religion, any of them. It's nothing personal, but if you're a person of faith, it ain't gonna work out.
- Not accepting my geekiness. If you think I'm weird because of my Ezio statuette or my big Star Wars Anniversary poster; out with you.
- Fat. Yes, it's typical, and while I don't mind a few pounds extra, I can't stand someone with a mentality to just not take care of their own bodies.
- Has shabby personal hygiene. Same reason as fat really, taking care of yourself is important.
- Stupidity. I ain't talking about some silly moment every now and then, and it's not like I demand a Mensa member or something. I just want a nice conversation every now and then. Someone who isn't afraid of long words.
Of course there are a few minor dislikes, but nothing that can be talked about, and you have to make some concessions anyway.
Well, this first one I hadn't fully considered until people in this thread brought it up.
Probably constant text messages about missing me, since that gives me the impression of the type of girl I wouldn't want to be with, since I see constantly texting girls who say they miss their boyfriends and love them - everywhere. And quite often I seriously don't believe they are in love. Also, I don't like text addicts, I barely ever use my phone.
I think I'd be mostly flexible with things. I know someone that's really kind despite being rather dim, so that made me think about things, but I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with that in my perfect person.
Deal breakers are probably things like the inability to admit if they are wrong. And no that is not some partially covered up way of insulting someone religious. I could happily be with a religious person. I like the spiritual way of thinking, but I'd prefer if they were open minded. Even if I have a philosophical talk I'm willing to accept the possibility of my beliefs being wrong, so I wouldn't like to have interesting talks like that with someone who has a very predictable adamant answer.
I guess smoking and drugs sounds bad too.
Probably constant text messages about missing me, since that gives me the impression of the type of girl I wouldn't want to be with, since I see constantly texting girls who say they miss their boyfriends and love them - everywhere. And quite often I seriously don't believe they are in love. Also, I don't like text addicts, I barely ever use my phone.
I think I'd be mostly flexible with things. I know someone that's really kind despite being rather dim, so that made me think about things, but I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with that in my perfect person.
Deal breakers are probably things like the inability to admit if they are wrong. And no that is not some partially covered up way of insulting someone religious. I could happily be with a religious person. I like the spiritual way of thinking, but I'd prefer if they were open minded. Even if I have a philosophical talk I'm willing to accept the possibility of my beliefs being wrong, so I wouldn't like to have interesting talks like that with someone who has a very predictable adamant answer.
I guess smoking and drugs sounds bad too.
Let's see, I can overlook a whole lot of things but I think the big three would be:
Drug Use: I can handle a smoker. I wouldn't like it, but I can deal with it. However, I've already had to deal with my mother's hard drug use and I simply don't have it in me to deal with it again.
Lack of Personality: I can't stand it when people show no signs of any feeling. Happy,sad,angry,nothing. It's okay if your quiet, but when I open up and let loose I expect other people to do the same.
Narcissism: I can't stand it when people have to one up everything thing you say and do. I couldn't be around them long without wanting to punch them, let alone date them.
Drug Use: I can handle a smoker. I wouldn't like it, but I can deal with it. However, I've already had to deal with my mother's hard drug use and I simply don't have it in me to deal with it again.
Lack of Personality: I can't stand it when people show no signs of any feeling. Happy,sad,angry,nothing. It's okay if your quiet, but when I open up and let loose I expect other people to do the same.
Narcissism: I can't stand it when people have to one up everything thing you say and do. I couldn't be around them long without wanting to punch them, let alone date them.
This reminds me of this girl who liked me in high school. She admitted that she enjoyed...I'm not sure how to word it. Urine play...?Fighting-Fefnir said:
There's a difference between being open and able to talk about sexuality and just being gratuitously crass. I would find a girl that swears a lot and makes very rude jokes to be quite the turn off, that just doesn't fit my view of how a woman should be. I know that may sound a bit sexist but all I'm saying is, if I wanted that sort of behaviour, I'd date one of my male friends instead. Just sayin.Wushu Panda said:
My girlfriend is not afraid to talk about sexual subjects and she's quite partial to the odd dick joke, but I think the key is knowing when it's appropriate. I'd like to think we have a healthy, open relationship that way.
Wait, what? You're okay with being cheated on "a little bit"? What does that even mean? Surely you either cheat on someone or you don't. There's no half meassures... at least not in my world.thenumberthirteen said:
I know a lot of girls who seem to consider kissing another guy doesn't count as cheating. Umm, you put your tongue in his mouth, you made a conscious choice to do so and therefore you were not being faithful to me. That's cheating and that's an absolute no no for me.
Thank you, your Avatar is far cooler than mine however.Nouw said:
Also I should probably answer the question. If they were a religious zealot who still had their voice box.
1. Lack of empathy. If she isn't warm, friendly, caring, and kind, I'm not going to be attracted to her very long.
2. Heavy or immature drug use. If she gets drunk, smokes, consumes caffeine excessively, or use other drugs frequently, I'm not interested. Rare and casual use is fine.
3. Immaturity and lack of personality in general. I want to be with someone decent and memorable, not an "NPC". But at the same time, I want someone with a cute personality.
4. Close-mindedness. It would never work out.
5. Lack of sexual "perversion". I like to think like that, and I'd communicate better if she did as well. Not by using crude language, but more fun and playful, like.. well.. Seitokai Yakuindomo.
6. Extraversion. If she is a social person, I'm going to have a very hard time relating to her or even feel like I'm a part of her life. I've yet to even meet someone comfortably introverted.
Unfortunately, my country praise immaturity as a positive thing. There aren't many females here who are mature drug users. And open-mindedness correlates to drug use. All of which makes things difficult.
I'm doomed, aren't I?
2. Heavy or immature drug use. If she gets drunk, smokes, consumes caffeine excessively, or use other drugs frequently, I'm not interested. Rare and casual use is fine.
3. Immaturity and lack of personality in general. I want to be with someone decent and memorable, not an "NPC". But at the same time, I want someone with a cute personality.
4. Close-mindedness. It would never work out.
5. Lack of sexual "perversion". I like to think like that, and I'd communicate better if she did as well. Not by using crude language, but more fun and playful, like.. well.. Seitokai Yakuindomo.
6. Extraversion. If she is a social person, I'm going to have a very hard time relating to her or even feel like I'm a part of her life. I've yet to even meet someone comfortably introverted.
Unfortunately, my country praise immaturity as a positive thing. There aren't many females here who are mature drug users. And open-mindedness correlates to drug use. All of which makes things difficult.
I'm doomed, aren't I?