Why am i cursed with such women?

[Sparrow]

You should really do what I do.

Don't bother with a relationship. It's probally different for others though, I still am quite young. If your aiming to spend the rest of your life with someone, you might want to try and not make sex or a relationship the ultimate goal. That way your friends, and nothing more. Then it can develop into something.

 

[Silva]

You should really do what I do.

Don't bother with a relationship. It's probally different for others though, I still am quite young. If your aiming to spend the rest of your life with someone, you might want to try and not make sex or a relationship the ultimate goal. That way your friends, and nothing more. Then it can develop into something.

I don't agree that friendships "develop" into something, except when it comes to the male's feelings. Women stick to first impressions of the male, so they were usually initially attracted to the guy but didn't say anything. It only "developed", because the male did something about it. The relationship potential was already there, really.

 

[twistedshadows]

Eh. Physical Attraction means nothing to me if the persons mind is... wrong?

Just curious: what if their mind is fine, but their level of physical attractiveness is not everything you'd hoped for?

 

[crypt-creature]

I don't agree that friendships "develop" into something, except when it comes to the male's feelings. Women stick to first impressions of the male, so they were usually initially attracted to the guy but didn't say anything. It only "developed", because the male did something about it. The relationship potential was already there, really.

That depends on each person and situation.

Women might not be as bold when it comes to openly admitting their feelings to the male (possibly because women have a greater fear of rejection) but it also seems like such a thing has become a huge stereotype. As if it's more acceptable and normal for a male to declare his feelings for a person that they have a 'just friends' relationship with.
How many shows do you see a woman admitting her feelings for a friend, and not the other way around?

 

[crypt-creature]

Unfortunately, my secrets, traumatic though they may be, are not for you to know.

Didn't expect it to be. *shrug* never usually hurts to inquire about it either.

 

[Sewblon]

I have yet to date anyone. When I eventually do I will shoot for a woman who loves me for my father's money but who doesn't understand inheritance laws... If I find someone better I will take her but that is my bare minimum. My first choice would be to find a woman who is as pessimistic, politically radical and weird as me, then we join forces, conquer The Americas and rule with fists of iron. We would name our children "Vash the Stampede, Ryuzaki, Larhal, Guybrush and Walter."

 

[Silva]

That depends on each person and situation.

No, it doesn't depend on the individual, not the stuff I was explaining anyway. There are rules that run across the social structures of humanity, that's why there are the social sciences - to explain them so that they may be taken advantage of. And attraction is no exception; there are rules to it that come from biological inheritance and our evolutionary connections to the monkeys, in the families of which there are typical "alpha males" that get all the women - that translates to our own human strain of the confidence trait. There are differences between individuals in humans because we have more complex brains, but you'll find that there are many consistent social similarities.

Women might not be as bold when it comes to openly admitting their feelings to the male (possibly because women have a greater fear of rejection) but it also seems like such a thing has become a huge stereotype. As if it's more acceptable and normal for a male to declare his feelings for a person that they have a 'just friends' relationship with.
How many shows do you see a woman admitting her feelings for a friend, and not the other way around?

I guess it comes down to gender traditions from our neolithic past. Males are traditionally the leaders because of their larger physical structure and are expected to have the confidence to point out those things and suggest the right action. Women are usually (and quite unwillingly) given a nurturing role and so are less expected to reach out in that overt way. I've seen women be extroverted about such things and no one had a problem with them being that way, though it often leads to rejection. Men probably don't find women who break those traditions attractive as often.

Yes, shows do not reflect reality; they romanticise it for our pleasure. Considering that, it's not surprising that they can create unrealistic expectations in people who don't have their thinking cap on.

I have yet to date anyone. When I eventually do I will shoot for a woman who loves me for my father's money but who doesn't understand inheritance laws... If I find someone better I will take her but that is my bare minimum.

Wow, you're a sort of reversed gold digger. Kind of cool, in a demonic way. I hope whoever you do that to deserves it. Hahaha.

 

[crypt-creature]

That depends on each person and situation.

No, it doesn't depend on the individual, not the stuff I was explaining anyway. There are rules that run across the social structures of humanity, that's why there are the social sciences - to explain them so that they may be taken advantage of. And attraction is no exception; there are rules to it that come from biological inheritance and our evolutionary connections to the monkeys, in the families of which there are typical "alpha males" that get all the women - that translates to our own human strain of the confidence trait. There are differences between individuals in humans because we have more complex brains, but you'll find that there are many consistent social similarities.

My point being, for the stuff that you were explaining, is that such a thing is not true for every single person or couple that has or will ever exist.

 

[Vrex360]

Human beings have flaws, you have to learn to tolerate those flaws. That is the only way a relationship is actually real, if you can find yourself putting up with the flaws because the good parts make up for it then you know she is of actual importance to you and you genuinely care for her. Anyone who leaves after finding one problem is obviously shallow and not worth her time anyway.
Also I promise you this, beauty... is a bonus. If she has a good personality and you care about her and like her that's all that matters, if she's hot then you just got a bonus. It shouldn't be the 'make or break' of a relationship.
Finally... where do you find these women who think you are a kiddy fondler anyway?

Jesus I've become a relationship advisor.

 

[shadowstriker86]

Why is it that 99% of the time when you find someone you could love you find something fatally wrong with them?

Either they are:

Amazing body but horrible mind

Amazing mind but horrible body

Or amazing mind amazing body but has been so wrecked by exes she thinks you'll molest her kids just because you are male -.-

Thoughts?

well at least you're not like me, having to drudge through a briar patch of psycho-bi***** , i've had to deal with cheaters, nutjobs, and AND my personal favorite, the gold-digger. ugh, 14 gf's ive had and right now im with one thats actually NORMAL! only problem i have is that she likes to spend money on me and coming from an old fashioned family im not exactly comfortable with that but hey at least she's not suckin some other guys ****

 

[WrongSprite]

Forget the body bit.

 

[Fritzvalt]

Honestly, man, I feel for you. I have had a long string of insane women, dating back years. I could probably go into some long diatribe about how they're not all bad, or some such other tripe, but here's what it boils down to. Most of the women you get into ANYTHING with, is probably not "The one," so don't be so serious. Just enjoy the whole thing for what it is, even if she ends up slashing your tires and leaving a crude doll shaped like you on your front porch (True story). Just have fun, and yes, one day you'll find someone and all the little pieces will fall into place, but that's probably not going to happen soon.

 

[RavingPenguin]

Unfortunately, my secrets, traumatic though they may be, are not for you to know.

Didn't expect it to be. *shrug* never usually hurts to inquire about it either.

The pursuit of knowledge is the only pursuit worth undertaking.

But some knowledge will destroy the minds of men.

Some knowledge is worth the insanity.

 

[crypt-creature]

Unfortunately, my secrets, traumatic though they may be, are not for you to know.

Didn't expect it to be. *shrug* never usually hurts to inquire about it either.

The pursuit of knowledge is the only pursuit worth undertaking.

But some knowledge will destroy the minds of men.

Then it could be my saving grace that I am a woman.

Instead of being destroyed, it comes to an even greater understanding and has an epiphany. I might actually become sane.

One can always dream I suppose.

 

[ThreeWords]

............I have no idea.

I, for the most part, have dated mentally stable(?) women with average-to-hot bodies and good heads on their shoulders.

I second this.

Also I don't think its the female population as a whole, but more likely the females that you know (no offence). Maybe if you try moving in other social groups, you'll find women more suited to your taste

 

[space_oddity]

You are looking for Miss Perfect.
Do you really think Miss Perfect is looking for you?

 

[jasoncyrus]

Why is it that 99% of the time when you find someone you could love you find something fatally wrong with them?

Either they are:

Amazing body but horrible mind

Amazing mind but horrible body

Or amazing mind amazing body but has been so wrecked by exes she thinks you'll molest her kids just because you are male -.-

Thoughts?

well at least you're not like me, having to drudge through a briar patch of psycho-bi***** , i've had to deal with cheaters, nutjobs, and AND my personal favorite, the gold-digger. ugh, 14 gf's ive had and right now im with one thats actually NORMAL! only problem i have is that she likes to spend money on me and coming from an old fashioned family im not exactly comfortable with that but hey at least she's not suckin some other guys ****

Oh you would be surprised the s*** i have had to wade through. MY favourite had to be the suicide attention girl, calling and messaging me every damn and if even even had a HINT of annoying in my voice at bein woken up at 5am (time zone difference) she would threaten to kill herself.

Hell by the end of that predictable short relationship, i wanted to give her a hand just to shut her up.

And for those who believe I am looking for miss perfect, to me miss perfect would be an athletic black woman who loved to have oil massage dinto her skin, had a passion for gaming a passion for writing, a passion for debate and could go all night with me and loved a bit of extra man around the waist. (Not too much but enough to hide any abs i may or may not have).

But I know that's not likely to come soon since theres no black women where i live. So right now I'm simply looking for a girl (any race) who is reasonably attractive, reasonably intelligent (college aint much to ask these days), and isn't on crazy pills.

And one thing I don't find surprising at all, there isn't even *ONE* sensitive woman on this forum who messaged me with a bit of sympathy and even worse not even one message asking for a date =P Cold, ladies, that was dang cold.

But hey if theres any single women who think they'd be good for me or i'd be good for them, feel free to toss me a PM, a'll be glad to entertain.