Why am i cursed with such women?

[Ophiuchus]

I did alright last time, in fact she was way out of my league really - lovely intelligent girl, fantastic personality, gorgeous, physically perfect... slight drug problem. Sorta £500 a week kinda slight. I can't actually regard that as much of a flaw though, 'cos I was well aware of it before entering into the relationship. The ironic twist is that she sorted herself out, made me so proud, then I went and fucked it up in all sorts of ways that make me want to find someone to repeatedly slam my head in a car door.

Long story short: you can have it all, as long as you're not a self-sabotaging idiot. Actually, you can have it all even if you are a self-sabotaging idiot, but you'll invariably do a great job of fucking it up and spend the next however many years beating yourself up about it.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

What I find is the women willing to date me are not the sort of women I actually enjoy being around for extend periods.

I gotta work on my personality.

Edit:

I tend to meet women that I actually like when the relationship is guarnteed to be short lived. I dated a woman for the two weeks I was on leave before my first deployment, and she may well have been the perfect woman for me. Of course, it's easy to maintain an illusion of perfection for a couple of weeks but at least I have that going for me.

I suspect the biggest key is finding someone you can stand talking to. Looks might be a factor in getting the "foot in the door" so to speak, but eventually the thrill of seeing someone naked wears off. Sex rapily wears out it's novelty and even if it doesn't one will rarely spend a significant amount of time in a relationship in the sack with their better half. If you can't stand to hold a conversation with them, the relationship is doomed. Thus, when I date the attractive but monumentally stupid members of the opposite sex I find that I'm fairly unhappy with entire endeavor.

 

[TheWeasel]

Because a lot of women (99.99% of the ones I have met) are insure and still very primitive. They never act rational on their periods, & I don't give a **** if it's hormones, logic can still tell you to calm down & act like a normal human being, especially if you know from day x to day y you're going to be volatile.
Just look at the amount of women who win nobel prizes.
Honestly, just go with whatever takes your fancy, but don't expect miss everything, I've never met one and can't see it happening.
As a bunch of guys in their late twenties said to me "Tsk, you need to learn, you never speak to a girl because you find them interesting, she doesn't exist."

Seriously? I don't know you well enough to call you a jerk so I won't, but man you must live in the wrong place if that's your view of women. I know there's some crazy women out there but if you're going by the ones you meet in clubs or bars then you're bound to be disappointed. If a woman is flaunting everything and dancing provocatively she's interested in herself, not you.

To be fair, women have pretty much the same problems with dudes.

People aren't perfect. When they are, the world repeatedly craps on them until they're far too broken to ever be called so.
If you want love, you have to find someone who you are willing to wholly accept who also wholly accepts you.
Anyone who goes for perfection will be sorely disappointed.

Totally agree with this. To the OP, as for not being aroused around the ones you get on with mentally, stick with them. Just because you don't get your jollies on them within the first few weeks doesn't mean you won't grow to realise they're the most amazing person, and *that* is sexy.

 

[Legion]

Sounds like you are an immature twerp really.

"Amazing mind but horrible body" would indicate that you don't get along with them, thus it is love, not lust, sorry you don't know the difference.

"Amazing mind and body but" means that you are too immature or impatient to know how to work with a woman to allow her to see you for what you are. Trust is not built in a day, especially if someone's trust has been violated before.

"Amazing mind but horrible body" here the fault is again you, you are a shallow little man who would pass up love for something transitionary. You do know that 18 year old hot body will shrivil up and not look as nice in 60 years right?

I'm guessing overall you are in the "under 16" crowd?

Sounds like you need to learn some manners friend =)

Look at the rest of the comments in the first few pages. No one else is coming from the flaming angle. If you are going to troll, feel free not to post.

As for age, I'm 23.

As for you, clearly you've never dated since you cant empathise at all. Either that or you are a man hater.

Like i said, go troll elsewhere, or i'll verbally cut you off at the knees.

Well... I suggest moving...

You need to gain a woman's trust so she knows you're not a nutcase.
The 'amazing body, horrible mind. Amazing mind, horrible body' bit pissed me off.
If it boils down to looks over personality, you probably wont find the girl you want.

As i stated in some of my first replies, I'm looking for average. Anything below average ain't worth my time since it probably won't arouse me, thus making it difficult to show my physcal affection for her without viagra etc.

People should from this point on read the earlier pages before commenting.

Telling people what to do when trying to get sympathy is rarely a good idea. Especially when you do not know whether they have already read the first few pages.

Also getting all defensive/aggressive when people point out that you are coming across as shallow is also not the best idea.

The thing is, your first post seems very contradictory to the ones that come just after, if you don't want people to get the wrong impression I advise adding the things you said later to your original post.

 

[Blow_Pop]

Women suck big time.
Seriously, don't pretend you don't know what I mean, they're either boring, ugly, stupid, mean, or crazy, but mostly ugly and boring. You need to be really handsome or patient to date a woman that's worth paying for.
Women manufacturers really need to get their shit together.

hmmm....My manufacturer must have been into making high experimental concept/prototype models. I'm extremely adventurous, Highly erudite, very docile, and sweet nature ( not to " lost in my little world" levels, but very passive, and able to ... you know, look at things from all perspectives rather than that womanly impulse....) I PERSONALLY think I'm quite average in appearance... but I keep fit " though NOT obsessed with working out, just active and alot of martial arts, and sparing" ..I HATE jewelry, most of all expensive types ( whats the point really?) I hate shopping for clothes..if I DO shop, I'm in ..get what I need, and out UNLESS its a game, comic, or toy store... and I encourage you to look at other girls, because chances are I am too..

I like to think that.. I think like one of the guys, but with a feminine, heavy maternal side.

And I'm not picky.


Though, I'm married and not on the market, I do want to state that not all of us are useless, lost in our own issues, or lack of a spine, and common since.... and to win me over, ALL you would need is a good heart, and a sharp mind, everything else is a moot point.

I almost fully agree. While I am not married I am still off the market. I go for more intelligent geeky guys. The only time I get lost in my own little world is when something happens and my brain shuts down to everything else. Usually happens when I find out of a death in the family or to one of my close friends. Takes a lot for it to happen if its not that. I look at other perspectives rather than the womanly ones. I dance and keep myself in good shape because it makes me happy and is an amazing stress reliever and great anger management. I despise jewelery. I have decided IF I ever get married I want a silver band with a very small garnet in it. no diamonds no gold(allergic to gold anyways real or fake doesn't matter). I despise shopping and only do it when I need something like food. Clothes I get in and get out. If I am in a video game or bookstore you've lost me for hours. I encourage looking at other girls because you sure as hell know I am. I am one of the guys and love working on my own car. I have one mechanic I trust to do stuff that I just don't have the equipment or time for(head gaskets and such)and he is talking about letting me apprentice for him so I can get my ASE certificates finally.

I look for common sense which is not common anymore and intelligence. Gamers are a huge plus. If you let me do my thing, you can do yours. The nerdier or geekier is usually the better with me.

Women suck big time.
Seriously, don't pretend you don't know what I mean, they're either boring, ugly, stupid, mean, or crazy, but mostly ugly and boring. You need to be really handsome or patient to date a woman that's worth paying for.
Women manufacturers really need to get their shit together.

Girls find the same problems with men. Fancy that.

To be fair, women have pretty much the same problems with dudes.

People aren't perfect. When they are, the world repeatedly craps on them until they're far too broken to ever be called so.
If you want love, you have to find someone who you are willing to wholly accept who also wholly accepts you.
Anyone who goes for perfection will be sorely disappointed.

exactly.

 

[BrightDeathFriend]

Women suck big time.
Seriously, don't pretend you don't know what I mean, they're either boring, ugly, stupid, mean, or crazy, but mostly ugly and boring. You need to be really handsome or patient to date a woman that's worth paying for.
Women manufacturers really need to get their shit together.

You do realise that what you just said was EXTREMELY sexist there? Not all women are shitty...your just living in a shitty place or you've been dating some of the women there and feel too uncomfortable to be around so you make up for it by taking out your frustrations on them.
Not cool....really not cool.
Women aren't solely one thing or all bad. And thats something that perhaps you need to look into with more detail.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

I liken women to playing games on a PC. You will have your fair amount of problems but once you find out what's causing those problems and work at fixing them then what you get in return is something far greater than before.
There's no thinly veiled insult to PC gaming there either, I'm a PC gamer myself, just saying that you will always have problems playing games on there, just as you will always have problems with women, you just gotta work at it and sort things out, don't wait around for them to sort themselves out.

 

[Tharwen]

My problem is that I can't find a girl who isn't available, either emotionally or they're already going out with some guy.

Who ISN'T???

I don't notice that there's a lack of date-able women. I do notice a notable lack of date-ability in myself though..

This for me too. Hell, I even quite fancied my flatmate's friend who's visiting but I was too bloody nervous to bother making a move, so yeah, stuck in 'friendship valley' again...

EDIT: Turns out she's going home today anyway, so that sucks even worse...

Well let's just hope she doesn't read the escapist and know your account name

 

[Barky13]

Why is it that 99% of the time when you find someone you could love you find something fatally wrong with them?

Either they are:

Amazing body but horrible mind

Amazing mind but horrible body

Or amazing mind amazing body but has been so wrecked by exes she thinks you'll molest her kids just because you are male -.-

Thoughts?

Because a lot of women (99.99% of the ones I have met) are insure and still very primitive. They never act rational on their periods, & I don't give a **** if it's hormones, logic can still tell you to calm down & act like a normal human being, especially if you know from day x to day y you're going to be volatile.
Just look at the amount of women who win nobel prizes.
Honestly, just go with whatever takes your fancy, but don't expect miss everything, I've never met one and can't see it happening.
As a bunch of guys in their late twenties said to me "Tsk, you need to learn, you never speak to a girl because you find them interesting, she doesn't exist."

Of course they act different on their periods. It's what they do.

 

[Levziemuch]

All women are crazy, its just a matter of how crazy

 

[Trivun]

My problem is that I can't find a girl who isn't available, either emotionally or they're already going out with some guy.

Who ISN'T???

I don't notice that there's a lack of date-able women. I do notice a notable lack of date-ability in myself though..

This for me too. Hell, I even quite fancied my flatmate's friend who's visiting but I was too bloody nervous to bother making a move, so yeah, stuck in 'friendship valley' again...

EDIT: Turns out she's going home today anyway, so that sucks even worse...

Well let's just hope she doesn't read the escapist and know your account name

Well, she isn't the sort of person who would visit a gaming site... However, my account name is the same as my real name so if she does visit then I'm screwed

It's not going to happen though, believe me.

 

[Grimm91]

Women always have something wrong with them, but so do men. Only male problems are a lot less complex... most of the time.

 

[snugglesgold]

Hmm i think this post is just showing up the deep seated mental problems of some of the good folks out there. Just think of women as your equals but with a better designer

 

[hondommond]

i feel ya man

cept the girls i like just tend to not like me

 

[seamusotorain]

Why is it that 99% of the time when you find someone you could love you find something fatally wrong with them?

Either they are:

Amazing body but horrible mind

Amazing mind but horrible body

Or amazing mind amazing body but has been so wrecked by exes she thinks you'll molest her kids just because you are male -.-

Thoughts?

Have you seen "Shallow Hal"? Don't. It's not very good. But anyone who has, should recognise this guy.