Why Do All Girls Think They're Fat?
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most girls think they're fat/ say they're fat because they want you to say otherwise. of the ones you generally think they are, they probably have a host of other image problems, not just they're weight.
Well, I thought I was fat for the better part of a decade because women in magazines have no flab. None. No cellulite, no pooch, no hint of a love handle. So, even if I'm skinny when I look in the mirror, I must still have weight to lose because my skin hangs a bit loose and flabby in some places. It didn't help that my mother (two sizes smaller than me) was almost constantly on a diet. Notice that, if you listen to the media, all women everywhere are on diets or "watching what they eat"; this means that girls who aren't are going to be very quiet so they don't stand out. And they're going to think this means they're 'weird'... so even if they love their bodies just like they are, hell, you can't just SAY that! If I say that I love my body, I'm afraid someone else (who doesn't think you're allowed to like your body unless you're airbrushed) will respond with "WHAT? But you're so chubby!"... so then I got out of high school and got to pick some GREAT female friends who don't have crazy diet issues. Yay! So now I don't have to feel like something is wrong with me for eating a whole bowl of chocolate mousse, or a slice of cheesecake, or whatever. (But society still talks about dieting as moral - it's almost the only thing someone is going to be referring to if they talk about being "good" or "bad").
Seriously? You guys have been to high school in your lives and think that a teenage girl's biggest problem is the media?
I was overweight in high school, not seriously overweight but definitely chubby, and I can tell you that it wasn't the girls that made me feel bad about it: it was the boys. I never heard the end of it, all I got anywhere I went in high school was how fat I was, that I should go on a diet, constant jokes and heckles.
And the thing I've found since leaving high school is that while I was bullied into being skinny, most guys don't even like skinny girls that much.
I'm not saying that the media doesn't have a hand in this, but if nothing else it effects boys just as much as girls. In the same way that girls are pressured to be skinny or they're worthless, boys are pressured to have stick figure girlfriends or they're embarrassed.
It's all a great big mess for both genders and since my memories of high school are still pretty fresh, I'm not surprised in the least.
I was overweight in high school, not seriously overweight but definitely chubby, and I can tell you that it wasn't the girls that made me feel bad about it: it was the boys. I never heard the end of it, all I got anywhere I went in high school was how fat I was, that I should go on a diet, constant jokes and heckles.
And the thing I've found since leaving high school is that while I was bullied into being skinny, most guys don't even like skinny girls that much.
I'm not saying that the media doesn't have a hand in this, but if nothing else it effects boys just as much as girls. In the same way that girls are pressured to be skinny or they're worthless, boys are pressured to have stick figure girlfriends or they're embarrassed.
It's all a great big mess for both genders and since my memories of high school are still pretty fresh, I'm not surprised in the least.
Because they want you to tell them they're not. It's either for self serving reasons, getting attention, or fishing for a compliment. Tell them they're not, unless you want to start a fight or something, or if they deserve it.
It brings up a funny story to mind. I always thought I was fairly skinny so next time I go to our family reunion one of my cousins tells me that I used to look kind of fat. It was really awkward. I should have told her "you too". (Oh yeah, I'm a guy.)
Pfft, the problem is the idealization of beauty, romance, and sex that have existed since the Renaissance and probably before. Once you recognize the constructions in your mind and the mind of others, you can actively destroy it.
Everyone has an idealization about sex, and yet there's still fettish porn.
Everyone has an idealization of beauty, and yet there's chubby porn.
Everyone has an idealization of romance until their relationships crash and burn.
Everyone has an idealization about sex, and yet there's still fettish porn.
Everyone has an idealization of beauty, and yet there's chubby porn.
Everyone has an idealization of romance until their relationships crash and burn.
Not "all" girls think so, even though a large portion do. Usually, they are fishing for a compliment, convincing themselves they are so they will starve themselves into being thin (or thinner), or they just want to meet the beauty standards set by today's society.
I don't think you can really blame the media for this way of thinking. I say this because this is, from my experience, a problem only with women. That being said, there are just as many male models in magazines that would supposedly be setting impossibly high standards for us males. Since we don't generally see this in males, I find it hard to blame the media for image problems.
Why we then see this in females more often, is hard to say. It's possible the general female personality causes women to worry more about there looks. It's possible that we as a society don't acknowledge just how important looks really are in relationships. It's also possible that the peer pressure females exert on each other deals more with looks, whereas peer pressure exerted by males deals more with bravery. All of these might even work together with other ideas.
I find it hard, however, to even say that media is the "main" cause to women complaining that they are fat, mostly because we see the same unrealistic standards in male models yet such a thinking rarely occurs in men.
Why we then see this in females more often, is hard to say. It's possible the general female personality causes women to worry more about there looks. It's possible that we as a society don't acknowledge just how important looks really are in relationships. It's also possible that the peer pressure females exert on each other deals more with looks, whereas peer pressure exerted by males deals more with bravery. All of these might even work together with other ideas.
I find it hard, however, to even say that media is the "main" cause to women complaining that they are fat, mostly because we see the same unrealistic standards in male models yet such a thinking rarely occurs in men.
she was a friend, and has a tendency to do that kind of crying shit at the frop of a hat (one of those over-emotional girls) anyway, I'm normally the same as you if it's just someone I know, but i had her in 4 of my classes at the time and had friends who would nage me in the fifth, so i didn't want to go ape-shit right away, but I was in a bad mood so instead of being nice after an hour (what i usually do if the situation is similar) i just got pissed and vented out in front of a group of our friends, the guys laughed and i got a slap from the girls, and everyone forgot about it the week after, so it's all goodaprilmarie said:
Because as a cultural sickness, people(especially teenagers) are taught at a young age to base their views of themselves off of what their piers think of them which is often based on how they look, this in-turn breeds self concusses, so the people who believe themselves unable to live up to that standard(even if they can) will try to "blend in with the crowd", and just be average people like everyone else(effectively turning them into good little bitches for use in this sick twisted society) . And in a culture as sexist as this one where women in media are appreciated only for their looks instead of their talent, young females feel they are to be judged by this double standard as well so they're constantly worried about how they look because they know that's the main aspect of how popular they are, and for teenagers popularity is akin to happiness