Why Do Female Superheroes Rarely Date Normal Human Males?

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JimB said:
This is just an off-the-top-of-my-head, anecdotal list rather than a comprehensive, studied one, but: Superman and Lois Lane; Superman and Lana Lang; Superman and Lori Lemaris; Spider-Man and Gwen Stacy; Spider-Man and Mary Jane Watson; Superior Spider-Man and Anna Marconi; Hal Jordan and Carol Ferris (when Carol Ferris is not Star Sapphire); Thor and Jane Foster; Captain America and Peggy Carter; Iron Man and Pepper Potts (when Pepper Potts is not piloting an Iron Man suit of her own); Kyle Rayner and the origin of the "women in fridges" meme; the Flash and Iris West; Daredevil and Karen Allen; Daredevil and the Black Widow; Spider-Man 2099 and whoever his girlfriend is lately, I forget her name; Miles Morales Spider-Man and Kate Bishop; Professor X and Moira MacTaggert or however you spell her last name; the Thing and his girlfriend, the blind sculptor, I want to say her name is Alicia...

Hm. That's all I can think of without sitting down with my comic collection. Good catches on Doctor Manhattan/Silk Specter and Hulk/Betsy Ross, though.
She-Hulk dated Wyatt Wingfoot and James Jameson; Wonder Woman and Trevor Barnes; Astra dated a normal guy who broke up with her because he had an inferiority complex (irony!); Wonder Girl and Terry Long; Batgirl and Jason Bard; Black Canary and Larry Lance; Kitty Pryde and her various normal boyfriends; Mrs. Marvel and Michael Barnett; Dani Moonstar and some dude I can't remember; Spidergirl had a few regular joes, Starfire (is, was?) dating a normal guy in her current run, America Chavez and Batwoman are both dating normal women, if that counts?

I'm sure I could come up with more if I thought about it. I've no doubt it happens less than with male heroes but it's not exactly rare for a female hero to date a normal guy, especially if we're counting people like Star Sapphire, Pepper Pots and even Black Widow as "normal" people.
Great list.

Perhaps this story mechanic is common for the same reason we have all these histories of princes and princesses pursuing normal people? It's more relatable than a story about two non-humans.
It's an interesting notion. It certainly seems to ground the characters a bit, making them seem more real and tangible, especially those with extraordinary backstories. Superman would seem even more impossible if he didn't have Lois Lane. If instead, he was hooked up with some super-powerful woman from beyond the stars and they lived in his ice cave together he'd be all the worse for it. On the other hand, Hawkgirl and John Stewart work because his backstory grounds him already.

In some cases, having a "regular" human partner doesn't much help if said "normal" human is some extraordinary person themselves. I mean, Black Widow hardly grounds Daredevil since he's a street level hero and she's on the friggin' Avengers. But they make sense as a couple in the same way celebrity couples make sense; they have a lot in common based on shared, extraordinary experiences. So I suppose the relatability factor really depends on how things are written and why the characters are together.

In any case, I made that list off the top of my head and I'm not even a huge comics fan, just a casual who likes them a bit. Mostly I wrote it out because the idea that "female superheroes don't date normal men" appears to be an unsupported premise. If the premise is unsupported, you're likely to get a bunch of unsupportable/false conclusions based on it. If pairing a woman superhero with a weaker man is a no-no, someone seems to have forgotten to tell the comic writers. I have a bit of a sense that people are accepting the premise as true without actually looking to see if it is. If my list is more exhaustive than I think it is, they might still have a point but I'd be damn well surprised if I came anywhere close to being exhaustive.
 

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Lightknight said:
Also, you seem to be listed a lot of female heroes as though they are not superheroes.
Yep. I took Ihateregistering1's line between superheroes and normal people as meaning one group has powers and one doesn't.

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It's also strange that in the same breath you list Tony Stark, who is a regular human in super-powered equipment, but dismiss Kate Bishop (Hawkeye) who uses special hardware and is on the same team.
The Kate Bishop dating Miles Morales is from the Ultimate universe, and to the best of my knowledge, has no powers nor hardware nor place on a superhero team.

Lightknight said:
You also list the Black Widow who actually has super human abilities albeit mundane ones (slowed aging, rapid healing, mind control resistance, enhanced immune system, etc) so maybe you're having a bit of trouble seeing female heroes as being heroes?
No, I just plain didn't know that. Last time I looked into the character, she was just an assassin.

Lightknight said:
From your list, Thor, Iron Man, Daredevil, and Spider-Man were all created by [Stan Lee].
Ehh...partially. He did not create all of those characters alone.

Lightknight said:
So you could more reasonably ask why Stan Lee likes the contrast of superpowered men with regular women.
I'm not interested in making excuses or defending anyone, particularly when the accusations I've leveled have nothing at stake behind them. You can knock yourself out with that, if you want.

Agent_Z said:
Wonder Woman and Batman never dated in Justice League Unlimited. The relationship never progressed past casual flirting.
You and I took very different implications from that Circe episode.
 

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Because men don't fit as well in refridgerators.

Also, because superheroes tend to sell better than superheroines so somepeople match up a superhero partner to a superheroine to spark interest in that superheroine.

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The counter-example is Ms. Marvel (Kamala, not Carol) whose primary love interest is a baseline human New Jerseian guy.
Ugh, disgusting. New Jersey. Shaking my head Kamala, shaking my head. That girl needs some taste.
She's New Jersian too, so it's acceptable.
 

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I'll just note for the record that the Kate Bishop who Miles Morales dated was the one native, like him, to the Ultimate-verse (Earth-1610), NOT the more familiar "main" Marvel-verse (Earth-616) Kate, a.k.a. the Hawkeye of the Young Avengers. "Ultimate" Kate (or "Katie") was an ordinary teenage girl and a fellow student at the school Miles attended.

(Okay, it was revealed near the end of the Ultimate-verse that Katie's PARENTS were Hydra agents, but...)

http://marvel.wikia.com/wiki/Katherine_Bishop_(Earth-1610)
 

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Agent_Z said:
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And I know of She-Hulk's marriage to John Jameson.
The funny thing about this is John Jameson was both Man-Wolf and Stargod (a werewolf and a cosmic being) before and after their relationship. He doesn't exactly count as a "Normal Human Male"
Weren't those temporary?
Yes and no. Yes he was one or the other, or both for short periods of time, but not just one-offs. And not while they were dating. But recently Carnage showed he'll probably always have the power to be Man-Wolf. He is also an astronaut and war veteran, pretty significant achievements without powers.

The thing is he really isn't a "Normal Human Male". Even if he doesn't have powers while dating, if you use the analogues of superheroes being like celebrities, he's an actor who isn't working, still can empathise more than a guy working in an office with She-Hulk.
 

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Lightknight said:
Wonder woman was a blatant bondage parody originally if that contributes to anything.
Given what we know about William Marston (Wonder Woman's creator) and his lifestyle, I'd say his intention wasn't parody. He did, however, definitely have some unorthodox ideas about human behavior and the like:

"The only hope for peace is to teach people who are full of pep and unbound force to enjoy being bound... Only when the control of self by others is more pleasant than the unbound assertion of self in human relationships can we hope for a stable, peaceful human society... Giving to others, being controlled by them, submitting to other people cannot possibly be enjoyable without a strong erotic element."

But yea, he really didn't conceal his inclusion of these elements at all.
 

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Because most comic readers are male and they aren't interested in seeing superheroines date some Joe Schmoe that isn't them.
 

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Lightknight said:
Also, you seem to be listed a lot of female heroes as though they are not superheroes.
Yep. I took Ihateregistering1's line between superheroes and normal people as meaning one group has powers and one doesn't.
Even if you do not quantify them as superheroes, you can't classify them as normal. The debate is generally whether or not the "super" requires powers or the benefit provided to humanity. If it's just super powers then something mundane like Cypher's ability to learn languages somehow places him in the category of superhero whereas someone like Tony Stark is just a hero in a suit since his powers are not "super". If it's the influence on society, as in someone who saves people multiple times as a crusader of sorts, then that includes all other varieties of heroes. I'd argue that someone who risks their lives once is a hero. Someone who makes a successful routine of it is a superhero.

Also, even though people like to claim that people like Batman are normal people, I'd like to point out that Batman routinely outsmarts and outplans super intelligent beings. While some would dismiss that as craftiness, it should be noted that ingenuity is a component of intelligence so I would actually posit that Batman's superpower is not only his money but his intelligence. We can see this trait born out in a lot of other "non-powered" superheroes. There's the super powers people claim they have or don't have and then there's the powers they regularly display but the writers pretend even a peak human could convey.

Lightknight said:
It's also strange that in the same breath you list Tony Stark, who is a regular human in super-powered equipment, but dismiss Kate Bishop (Hawkeye) who uses special hardware and is on the same team.
The Kate Bishop dating Miles Morales is from the Ultimate universe, and to the best of my knowledge, has no powers nor hardware nor place on a superhero team.
She is a powerless incarnation of a superhero. That she is normal in that universe is somewhat irrelevant. This is the nature of the multiverse at times. These people are usually still the embodiment of a hero even if they lack the means of one.

Lightknight said:
You also list the Black Widow who actually has super human abilities albeit mundane ones (slowed aging, rapid healing, mind control resistance, enhanced immune system, etc) so maybe you're having a bit of trouble seeing female heroes as being heroes?
No, I just plain didn't know that. Last time I looked into the character, she was just an assassin.
Writers can't help themselves with the former spy characters like Wolverine and Black Widow. They always want to try and get them into stuff like the cold war and all of that requires some sort of "slowed aging" back story.

Lightknight said:
From your list, Thor, Iron Man, Daredevil, and Spider-Man were all created by [Stan Lee].
Ehh...partially. He did not create all of those characters alone.
Either way, they stink of him to put it bluntly and their in-story cast also reeks of him from name alliteration to everything else.

Lightknight said:
So you could more reasonably ask why Stan Lee likes the contrast of superpowered men with regular women.
I'm not interested in making excuses or defending anyone, particularly when the accusations I've leveled have nothing at stake behind them. You can knock yourself out with that, if you want.
What I mean is that a disproportionate number of heroes that had long-term relationships with non-hero characters were directly touched by the same man. Ergo, a simple answer to the question is that a lot of these scenarios were produced by the most influential and prolific comic professional of all time.

Also, I'm not sure why he would need defending. As stated in this thread, there is also an exhaustive list of females superheroes who date regular joes. Even if not, we all know that comic books were written for boys just as romance novels are still written for women. It only becomes an issue now when comics are mainstream and comics have evolved along with their audience. That's what matters. The thought of having defending someone catering to their customer base is ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with having a hero date a regular person. It makes them more relatable and as always it provides the hero's weakness. It is more offensive to have a powerful love interest always getting conked on the head and carried off than it is to have a regular person being kidnapped by a super-powered villain. The former would appear careless or weak on the superhero girl/boyfriend's part whereas the latter makes since due to a clear power disparity.

Leon Royce said:
It's simple: Women require men to be superior to them in order to find them attractive.
Eh, it's moreso that women have evolved in such a way as to be much more selective of their mate and so the ones that stand out to them have a much better shot. This is the natural effect of having one sex that can reproduce multiple times a day and another that requires a 9-month cooldown between procreation activities. It's a pretty simple naturalistic explanation for the apparent differences of males and females sexual reproductive behaviors in society. That is somewhat changed or changing due to reproductive technology now but the evolution of women being more choosey on average is still going to remain with us. Especially now that reproductive technology only increases the ability to be choosey but casual relationships are now far less costly.
 

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JimB said:
Lightknight said:
Also, you seem to be listed a lot of female heroes as though they are not superheroes.
Yep. I took Ihateregistering1's line between superheroes and normal people as meaning one group has powers and one doesn't.

Lightknight said:
It's also strange that in the same breath you list Tony Stark, who is a regular human in super-powered equipment, but dismiss Kate Bishop (Hawkeye) who uses special hardware and is on the same team.
The Kate Bishop dating Miles Morales is from the Ultimate universe, and to the best of my knowledge, has no powers nor hardware nor place on a superhero team.

Lightknight said:
You also list the Black Widow who actually has super human abilities albeit mundane ones (slowed aging, rapid healing, mind control resistance, enhanced immune system, etc) so maybe you're having a bit of trouble seeing female heroes as being heroes?
No, I just plain didn't know that. Last time I looked into the character, she was just an assassin.

Lightknight said:
From your list, Thor, Iron Man, Daredevil, and Spider-Man were all created by [Stan Lee].
Ehh...partially. He did not create all of those characters alone.

Lightknight said:
So you could more reasonably ask why Stan Lee likes the contrast of superpowered men with regular women.
I'm not interested in making excuses or defending anyone, particularly when the accusations I've leveled have nothing at stake behind them. You can knock yourself out with that, if you want.

Agent_Z said:
Wonder Woman and Batman never dated in Justice League Unlimited. The relationship never progressed past casual flirting.
You and I took very different implications from that Circe episode.
You mean the Circe episode where she asked him out on a date and he gave at least four different reasons why a relationship was a bad idea?
 

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You know what I would like to see in comics when it comes to the relationship stuff? Regardless of which gender is the normal, I'd like to see them not try and actually get involved in the superpowered slug fest. This more than anything, annoys me about comic stories involving a love interest. They almost always play the line of "I can be helpful too! Don't discount me because I don't have superpowers!" And then, inevitably, they become a liability to the fight, and put the hero at risk. I really wish, just pleaaaase, for them to say to themselves "Hey, I am in no way, capable of dealing with an invulnerable juggernaut that can throw trucks with one hand. I should probably stay the fuck away from this mess, and let my lover, who actually can handle this threat, deal with it. I should instead, knowing the level of damage about to be tossed around, work on crowd control, and try and herd civilians away from the threat." I would be SO much more ok with them being around if that's what they did. They were the voice of reason in the panicked crowd, directing them to some kind of shelter, and out of harms way. That would be wonderful to see.
 

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I am going to say the opposite of what is the general consensus of this thread: there are way too many superheroines dating average joes, and I see it as a symptom that the male author of the comic identifies with the average joe.

I mean, if you're a superpowered almost godlike being, you do NOT date average humans. Just like a supermodel doesn't date ugly guys.

This, for example, bothers me about the new Squirrel Girl comic series. She's almost-dating a guy who is called Chipmunk Hunk, who is like a male version of her, and who is a nobody that was created just for that comic series and just to give the main heroine a love interest.
Well, I hate it. When you've met Tony Stark, Doctor Doom, Thanos, and all of the most powerful fighters in the universe, HOW do you end up with an average joe?
This is a picture of Christina Hendricks and her husband Geoffrey Arend
http://www.fempop.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/87724tduid1429devil1012.jpg

As for some of those guys you mentioned? The first is an irresponsible alcoholic playboy on his BEST of days, the second is an egotistical tyrant who once condemned a child to hell and the third is a megalomaniac obsessed with the personification of Death. No woman in her right mind would date those guys. I can think of numerous men in the Marvel and DC Universe no woman, super or no, would want to date.

The male author may identify with the average joe, but they definitely want to be the male hero who gets the girl.
 

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Happyninja42 said:
You know what I would like to see in comics when it comes to the relationship stuff? Regardless of which gender is the normal, I'd like to see them not try and actually get involved in the superpowered slug fest. This more than anything, annoys me about comic stories involving a love interest. They almost always play the line of "I can be helpful too! Don't discount me because I don't have superpowers!" And then, inevitably, they become a liability to the fight, and put the hero at risk. I really wish, just pleaaaase, for them to say to themselves "Hey, I am in no way, capable of dealing with an invulnerable juggernaut that can throw trucks with one hand. I should probably stay the fuck away from this mess, and let my lover, who actually can handle this threat, deal with it. I should instead, knowing the level of damage about to be tossed around, work on crowd control, and try and herd civilians away from the threat." I would be SO much more ok with them being around if that's what they did. They were the voice of reason in the panicked crowd, directing them to some kind of shelter, and out of harms way. That would be wonderful to see.
While I agree that it is a tired clich?, please don't forget that these romantic interests are literally meant to be a vulnerability for the hero or even a red shirt for motivation.
 

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WolfThomas said:
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And I know of She-Hulk's marriage to John Jameson.
The funny thing about this is John Jameson was both Man-Wolf and Stargod (a werewolf and a cosmic being) before and after their relationship. He doesn't exactly count as a "Normal Human Male"
Weren't those temporary?
Yes and no. Yes he was one or the other, or both for short periods of time, but not just one-offs. And not while they were dating. But recently Carnage showed he'll probably always have the power to be Man-Wolf. He is also an astronaut and war veteran, pretty significant achievements without powers.

The thing is he really isn't a "Normal Human Male". Even if he doesn't have powers while dating, if you use the analogues of superheroes being like celebrities, he's an actor who isn't working, still can empathise more than a guy working in an office with She-Hulk.
I'd think for the purposes of this, a "normal" person would be someone who isn't involved in the superhero game regularly. An awful lot of the "normal" types superheroes date end up with temporary powers at some point or are exceptional "normal" types, like Moira being a genius and world renowned geneticist or Lois Lane temporarily having Kryptonian powers. If we discount all of those individuals, hardly any hero, male or female has ever dated a "normal" person. Which isn't all that surprising given that the writers are going to want to do more with the love interest than have them sit around eating snacks all day.
 

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I don't think that is accurate at all. Maybe it is the result of having a lot less female superhero characters, but my guess is that most of the superheroines that were single for most of their run (excluding cases like Sue Storm), have been romantically linked to normal people at some point in their history.

Or, if you want to be extra reductive of the sexism issue, consider that most of the writers and readers are men, so the characters follow the premise of superheroes being the fantasy of who they want to be, while superheroines being the fantasy of who they want to be with...