Why Do I Feel Depressed? Psychological help

[BonsaiK]

Okay so here's the deal, for some reason, just about ever few weeks or so, I'll start to feel depressed. I feel like shit, I think I look terrible, and I always feel bloated almost.

Why is this? I have the same symptoms as women on their period (why I refer to it as my male period). I just feel all around...blah. I even think that I look chubby but I'm only 178lbs and 6'1.

Everything on me just looks terrible but I know, in a day or two, I'll be just fine and feel and look normal in my eyes.

Usually, I'm pretty confident in the way I look. Just the other day, I was looking at myself in the mirror and said out loud, "Goddamn it, I'm sexy!" and I felt great after that, but today, everything just looks terrible.

So why is this? Any help? Strange though that I spend most of my time helping others psychologically, yet I can't help myself.

Also, if you feel the need to, PM me or message me on one of my IM accounts.

EDIT: and I guess for the sake of discussion, what do you do when you feel depressed to make yourself feel better?

Both men AND women have hormonal cycles. Men are just less aware of it because they don't get the obvious physical symptoms that women get (which not only remind women of the cycle itself but also add to the unpleasantness in the case of things like period pain etc), but these cycles do exist. A certain amount of monthly "mood swing" is completely normal for both sexes. Yes, that's right, all that "I'm hormonal" excuses that girls use, you can now use those too.

Really, really crushing depression is something you might need help for. Drugs can work in some cases where it's a purely biological problem, where the depression is caused by chemical imbalance in the brain. Therapy can sometimes work when the situation is more "situational", i.e something specific in your life is making you feel miserable.

When I get depressed, I try and do something that I enjoy that gets my mind off it. Or I funnel it into some creative activity, those things help. There's no perfect cure-all though. Depression did get better for me as I got older though, and I never took drugs for it.

 

[Blade3dge]

That I knew, but what does milk have to do with anything?

I don't know but it's probably the first thing ever that has to do with the price of milk in China.

 

[feather240]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

That I knew, but what does milk have to do with anything?

Humans can only survive by feeding off the weak. We're like vampires, but with Milk, and we don't sparkle.

 

[The_Echo]

Strange though that I spend most of my time helping others psychologically, yet I can't help myself.

Well, as the saying goes, those who can't do, teach.

As for helping you, perhaps see someone about it?

 

[Julianking93]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

You remember that when you have to listen to his emo band's pop hit being played on the radio, him a millionaire, you dying of skin cancer....

Hey, I may be emotional and feminine at times but I hate emo music.
I will agree on the millionaire part

 

[feather240]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

You remember that when you have to listen to his emo band's pop hit being played on the radio, him a millionaire, you dying of skin cancer....

Yeah, but I'll be tan, and an inspirational hero. He on the other hand will kill himself and be forgotten in less than a decade. The only record of his existence will be a handful of binary and a you-tube montage of crappy Scremo.

 

[DeadlyYellow]

That I knew, but what does milk have to do with anything?

Sunshine helps release endorphins which make you feel good. Vitamin D is created through synthesis on sunlight on the skin, and plays a role in the biochemistry of the brain. Milk typically has an amount of Vitamin D, which will also help with the absorbing of calcium.

 

[feather240]

That I knew, but what does milk have to do with anything?

Sunshine helps release endorphins which make you feel good. Vitamin D is created through synthesis on sunlight on the skin, and plays a role in the biochemistry of the brain. Milk typically has an amount of Vitamin D, which will also help with the absorbing of calcium.

I stay inside a lot and have a low tolerance for milk.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Yeah, but I'll be tan, and an inspirational hero. He on the other hand will kill himself and be forgotten in less than a decade.

Woah now, I said emo band, not Kurt Cobain. That's just insulting.

 

[feather240]

To who?

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Okay so here's the deal, for some reason, just about ever few weeks or so, I'll start to feel depressed. I feel like shit, I think I look terrible, and I always feel bloated almost.

Why is this? I have the same symptoms as women on their period (why I refer to it as my male period). I just feel all around...blah. I even think that I look chubby but I'm only 178lbs and 6'1.

Everything on me just looks terrible but I know, in a day or two, I'll be just fine and feel and look normal in my eyes.

Usually, I'm pretty confident in the way I look. Just the other day, I was looking at myself in the mirror and said out loud, "Goddamn it, I'm sexy!" and I felt great after that, but today, everything just looks terrible.

So why is this? Any help? Strange though that I spend most of my time helping others psychologically, yet I can't help myself.

Also, if you feel the need to, PM me or message me on one of my IM accounts.

EDIT: and I guess for the sake of discussion, what do you do when you feel depressed to make yourself feel better?

There actually is a male form of PMS that can happen every month. It's more common in overweight people, but can happen to others as well. Go look it up

 

[Canadaftw]

What's your age? I'm asking because the answer might be extremely cliché but true: hormones. I have exactly the same problem you've mentioned and do think that's simply the answer in my case.

See my username

So your 93? If you're really worried or concerned then try seeing someone who has knowledge in pshyciatry (is that how you spell it?).

 

[Julianking93]

To who?

To me.

 

[teutonicman]

Perhaps you have some kind of medical illness? Anyway if you've had these symptoms of 2+ weeks then it would probably be a good idea to see a doctor.

 

[goldfalsebond]

dude, don't go to the internet for help. If you really need help, see a psychiatrist.

 

[GeekArt]

You're welcome. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself and ask mummy and daddy for help, they went through exactly the same thing as you. If you're still in denial, ask them to book you in with a psychiatrist or talk to a school councilor.

There, I just solved all your problems, you can pay me in cash or check, I don't mind.

Pal, if you had any idea what it's like to not feel right, to not feel healthy and not know where to turn, you'd never post anything like that. If you're not here to help, quit being such a fucking tool and go troll elsewhere.

As for the OP, Julianking93, I think that the hormonal imbalance thing sounds like a possibility. It might be as simple as taking hormonal supplements, or a change in diet, or possibly an increase in exercise. When I'm feeling imbalanced, I go run a mile. Working up a sweat and running until I can't see straight has a way of chilling me out.

Also, consider anything else that seems to coincide with your problem times. Does it match up with the phase of the moon? The lunar cycle has some weird effects on some ailments, and things like parasitic infections and some illnesses can be worse under a full moon.

Actually, thinking back, I used to have a cycle like that when I was about 19-20 (and I'm a dude.) It ended up being something like a really long bipolar cycle. I was fine most of the time, but then sometimes I just felt like I couldn't bear anything. Turned out it was from something a lot deeper that had been bothering me for a loooong time. Something that I'd been ignoring and repressing.

Try this: the next time you feel that way, sit down by yourself in a dark room, where nobody can hear you speak. Close your eyes, and just start talking. don't let yourself filter anything you're saying, just talk out loud. Talk about what you're feeling, and more importantly about what you want. If it's something psychological that's been bothering you for a while, something that you want should come to the surface. It may be something that surprises you. Just be honest about everything to yourself.

Good luck.

 

[feather240]

To who?

To me.

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I'm off the hook... Now to skip work and go fishing.

 

[jpakaferrari]

Okay so here's the deal, for some reason, just about ever few weeks or so, I'll start to feel depressed. I feel like shit, I think I look terrible, and I always feel bloated almost.

Why is this? I have the same symptoms as women on their period (why I refer to it as my male period). I just feel all around...blah. I even think that I look chubby but I'm only 178lbs and 6'1.

Everything on me just looks terrible but I know, in a day or two, I'll be just fine and feel and look normal in my eyes.

Usually, I'm pretty confident in the way I look. Just the other day, I was looking at myself in the mirror and said out loud, "Goddamn it, I'm sexy!" and I felt great after that, but today, everything just looks terrible.

So why is this? Any help? Strange though that I spend most of my time helping others psychologically, yet I can't help myself.

Also, if you feel the need to, PM me or message me on one of my IM accounts.

EDIT: and I guess for the sake of discussion, what do you do when you feel depressed to make yourself feel better?

Hey Julian,

I read through quite a bit of this thread and could see you were getting a lot of different responses and very confusing alternative ideas. While I agree with Blade3dge in several aspects I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about the exact nature of your problems. As Blade suggested you should really seek the help of a psychologist or mental health counselor. If after meeting with either of these they feel you might benefit from medication they will refer you to a pyschiatrist for medication. Unlike Blade I think that at times in combination with talk therapies medication can be very helpful, but hopefully you want require them, because there are always side effects. I don't know how old you are but if your under 18 talk with your parents about going to see some one. I realize how hard it may be to do this, but if you feel comfortable enough it will be very helpful. Also as some one suggested exercise can be a great way to deal with depressive symptoms. Regular exercise has been shown to be as effective as medication in treating depression. Beyond this advice send me a message if you want to know anything else.