why do i feel this way?

[teebeeohh]

subtle hint: don't be subtle on the internet, otherwise you will get comments like this one:
if you want her to have lesbian sex with her friend your sister/mom/cousin just tell her

if you meant love:
i am a big fan of just straight out confessing my love but this really is not for everyone. So IF you have a higher than average tolerance for awkward situations tell her(or if you are sure the feeling mutual). Plus if you tell her now you don't have to suffer the whole "do or don't I tell her" thing, you just might have to deal with rejection.


DIScLACLAIMER:
the author of the above post does not have much experience with long term relationships(yet prides himself on with frequent encounters in casual sex) and so far almost always got his heart broken when he confessed his feeling for a female. Do take his advice with a grain of salt(but really, tell her it makes thing so much simpler)+ he might have had one too many

 

[someonehairy-ish]

ok, ive been dating this girl for 2 months, and for some reason i want to tell her the "L" word. this is getting pretty rediculous, i shouldnt be having these feelings. have any of you experienced this problem, and if so, how did you fix it?

I said that to my girlfriend at around 2 months. I'd wanted to say it for a while but I was nervous that she'd be scared off... but I told her anyway and she said it right back. It shouldn't be a problem unless you're embarassed by it? Tell her! Its not about the lenght of your relationship... its just how strong it is. (Was so tempted to write 'Its about the girth!' there.)
Jokes aside, its better to tell her and see what she says. Although if she doesn't realise you want anything serious with her it might be best to let her get used to that idea before saying you love her.
Anyways, good for you dude. This is a Good Thing. I hope it works out.

PS. did you mean to write about your emotions as some kind of software problem? 'Have any of you experienced this problem and how do you fix it?' That sentence could easily have followed on from 'My Starcraft disc has a bug that makes the screen go blank and then crash.' Its a bit worrying xD

 

[tawmus]

You are going to tell more then one girl you love her in your life. Being in love with someone doesn't mean that she is it, the only one for you. You can fall out of love, just as easy as falling in love. In short if you feel it say it, there will be consequences (good and bad) either way.

The worse thing she can say is that she doesn't love you. It will hurt, but I'd rather know, then pretend to. Perhaps she has the same feelings for you, but is afraid to scare you off. She could not be in lesbians with you too. Girls, can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em.

 

[Aurora Firestorm]

I'd suggest not telling her until about 6 months, so she doesn't panic. Some people freak out when you tell them you love them, really quickly. Also, 6 months is approximately the magic maximum time for "infatuation" -- where you're obsessed with the person and think they're amazing and wonderful and you love them sooo much! And then later you realize it was just a crush phase. At about 6 months your head will get screwed on straight if it wasn't before.

Hell, I've been in a relationship for 1.25 years now and my boyfriend still can't say it, and I can. Unrequited love sucks -- best to wait.

 

[jakeEHTlovless]

You most certainly shouldn't, with a username like that. That's just plain false advertising.

Anyway. Because all of these people have no idea who you are or what your situation is, I'm going to say ignore every last one of them.
ESPECIALLY the Scott Pilgrim quoters. They are hipsters. Listen to them and suddenly you're in a band and everyone is on synth.
It has happened before okay.

Now. Ask yourself. Do you REALLY love her, or do you just want to be in love?
Seriously. Search inside yourself. If Darth Vader is to be believed, you will know it to be true if it is.
Then I guess if it all checks out offer her a ring and call it a life just fucking tell her and quit keeping it to yourself.

you do relize, we've crossed paths before, this means i must add you so i can capture your words of wisdom all the time

 

[open trap]

Just tell her dude, its that simple

 

[WrcklessIntent]

The "L" word? Lesbian?

Fucking ninja'd. I was gonna make the referance but i checked just to make sure nobody else did.
Well played sir...

 

[SpaceSpork]

Break out the L word.

Lesbian.

(Ninja'd twice, but I don't care. It needed to be said again!)

 

[someonehairy-ish]

You are 17.. You know nothing about love, all you are feeling is hormones!

And all love is is chemicals in the brain... which is what hormones essentially are. Being young doesn't automatically make you too stupid/inexperienced to know whether or not you're in love.
Ignore the misers ^ ^

EDIT: Be sure that you Are in love though. Words of wisdom from the bloke a couple of posts ago there, my friend. One thing to do is spend a bit of time apart and if the feeling fades then it isn't. Although... might be best not to say to her 'we need to spend some time apart cos im not quite sure if i love you or not.' If she's the first person you've been in a proper relationship with, leave it and see if the feeling keeps growing. And now im starting to contradict myself...
At the risk of being amazingly cliche: Truth is, only you really know. Its up to you.

 

[velcrokidneyz]

The "L" word? Lesbian?

ninja'd dammit.

OT: tell, it makes life much easier to be honest and if she doesnt feel the same way, well then you two maybe arent meant to be

 

[kannibus]

Married her. Yeah that probably doesn't help you too much kid, but hell, honesty worked for her and me.

 

[Anarchemitis]

Linear interpolation?
Love?
Lust?
The Lombar League?
Lombax?
L'batmane du Gotham Citie?

 

[FabiotheTurtle]

Just go for it. You'll feel better. If you feel like telling her you love her, then it's probably true. You love this woman. Let her know.

 

[linkvegeta]

ok, ive been dating this girl for 2 months, and for some reason i want to tell her the "L" word. this is getting pretty rediculous, i shouldnt be having these feelings. have any of you experienced this problem, and if so, how did you fix it?

say it during sex

 

[icame]

I hope that answers your question.

But really just tell her. If you feel the need to hide your emotions from her then you aern't in a healthy relationship. It isn't good to keep stuff like that bottled up, especially when it can't do any harm.

 

[jakeEHTlovless]

I hope that answers your question.

But really just tell her. If you feel the need to hide your emotions from her then you aern't in a healthy relationship. It isn't good to keep stuff like that bottled up, especially when it can't do any harm.

but like ive said before, love shouldnt be a word casualy thrown around. its sacred

 

[NPC]

Lethargic? Well, if you are tired of the relationship it is best to end it now.

In all seriousness, it's not a big deal. Well it's a big deal, but it's been 2 months. I am sure that she would be more than happy to hear you say you love her... If she doesn't reply, pop her one on the shoulder and say "man" to play it off as cool. If anyone gets that reference they get 12 internet points.

 

[zama174]

Say it.. Or live in regret.. Or wait till you don't feel this way, or until you feel that she might feel the same.

 

[Kevonovitch]

The "L" word? Lesbian?

no, im not talking about some logo show, the other "L" word

lacadatious? ludacris? lynch? lynphnode? lusiously licable lucy? XD

seriously, if it's the "L word" of "love" then 2 months? damn, sex musta been INCEADIBLE. i'd say wait a little bit :/ ya bust out the big guns too much too fast, they go "wtf? erm...no ty.." not garuntee'd, but i hear it happens alot.

 

[Rensenhito]

Jump right in. Who knows, you might like it.