As a fair few people have pointed out, it is most likely down to a complete lack of social contact with women. While I never had a sister, alot of the people in the area I grew up in were girls, so since I young age (even though I'm an avid gamer) I've had no problem talking to girls. From this, I've stayed friends with girls the vast majority of my life, so it continues to be no problem for me. As with alot of the retards who cannot speak to girls, this is most likely due to them being your steriotypical 'gamer geek' who spends all their time in their bedroom, never speaks to anyone when (and if) they go out, and so most likely has not talked to a woman other than their mother for several years. To these people, an average girl is a very alien thing, and so they have no idea how to respond to them whatsoever.
Why do so many guys here suck at talking to or doing pretty much anything with girls?
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Well, most of this community defines itself by dwelling in various fantasy realms, and that usually doesn't hold too well with real-life interaction.
Also, awkward people are more drawn to escapism in general [oh ho!].
Personally, I find it difficult to talk to people in general, regardless of gender. But I've somehow acquired girlfriends throughout the years.
Must be my irresistible musk.
Also, awkward people are more drawn to escapism in general [oh ho!].
Personally, I find it difficult to talk to people in general, regardless of gender. But I've somehow acquired girlfriends throughout the years.
Must be my irresistible musk.
I only speak with people that speak to me first in reality, With exceptions to orangebandguy, of course.
Maybe it's something to do with age? I know, I know, average age of gamer is over 30 years, blah blah blah, but quite a lot of people here on the forums seem to be teenagers (references to "what happened at school" in their posts, comments on how they are more mature than many 20 year olds, this sort of thing), and I can't speak for everyone, but I was really bad at interacting with girls up until I had my first girlfriend at 16. And that girl pretty much threw herself at me and dumped me after a few months' worth of finding out how I'm not of the cool crowd. So I was lucky to have had my awkwardness around females eliminated pretty much by sheer luck. And now I'm completely cool around them.
Just saying "WE R NURRRRDS" doesn't cut it - none of the girls I know is interested in videogames, tabletop gaming or SF literature, and yet we have no problem finding common subjects to talk about. The only thing I have left from the old days of teenage awkwardness is my tendency to textwall in a desperate attempt to uphold a conversation. You know, like exactly what I'm doing now.
So I guess my point is - it's just a natural thing for guys to feel awkward around girls up until, shall I say mid-teens or late teens? I guess it varies. Of course, there will be exceptions, but it's generally true. And being a gamer is not really the massive social stigma we like to portray it as.
Just saying "WE R NURRRRDS" doesn't cut it - none of the girls I know is interested in videogames, tabletop gaming or SF literature, and yet we have no problem finding common subjects to talk about. The only thing I have left from the old days of teenage awkwardness is my tendency to textwall in a desperate attempt to uphold a conversation. You know, like exactly what I'm doing now.
So I guess my point is - it's just a natural thing for guys to feel awkward around girls up until, shall I say mid-teens or late teens? I guess it varies. Of course, there will be exceptions, but it's generally true. And being a gamer is not really the massive social stigma we like to portray it as.
There is a myriad of possible reasons why people may find it difficult around girls or other people in general. I for one have a Self Field Complex, which affects how I react to people (male or female mind you) when they are in close proximity or touching me. Dont mistake it for OCD, I could care less about "germs" or whatever. As a child I was often in conflicts with other people and have been hurt physically and mentally by friends, family and others. It can be incredibly uncomfortable for me to be near enough for another person to touch me. There are only a few people who I trust enough that I dont freak out about but after getting to know a person it settles down and there are a small number of people who I can touch, only one of which is female.President Moocow said:
Also, after reading your posts you seem to have a real attitude problem, but maybe thats just me?
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Oh dear. Whats with all the threads about girls being all radgy bout the way guys are on this forum, first the girl gamer thread and then this.
It's just some girls are so stuck up and have such high standards that some guys who arent mega sports freaks just dont have a chance. Maybe you should be blaming the girls for the reason that many nerds/ geeks/ gamers can't talk to girls... They just get ditched straight away.
Then theres the not many girls are gonna have the same common interests as a typical male gamer... If they did it'd be easier for the guys to talk to them instead of sounding like a freak.. Hell I get funny looks when I talk to guys about games.
So I think you were being kinda unfair taking a hit at the guys here...
It's just some girls are so stuck up and have such high standards that some guys who arent mega sports freaks just dont have a chance. Maybe you should be blaming the girls for the reason that many nerds/ geeks/ gamers can't talk to girls... They just get ditched straight away.
Then theres the not many girls are gonna have the same common interests as a typical male gamer... If they did it'd be easier for the guys to talk to them instead of sounding like a freak.. Hell I get funny looks when I talk to guys about games.
So I think you were being kinda unfair taking a hit at the guys here...
But that's the thing, there are plenty of people who play video games and whilst they aren't the hottest guy at the party, they still manage to actually talk. Not to mention countless "gaming communities" that I've seen aren't nearly as inept as here. I feel gaming is only part of the reason.mmkorn22 said:
Now this is kind of more the response I'm interested in. More than just games, the idea of escapism itself.samaritan.squirrel said:
I have no problem talking to girls.... Pretty, ugly, cute, fat, emo, asian, big, small, curved, round, just about any.... why should I have a problem talking to them there just objects.....^.^ i'm gonna die for that one. No but seriously there just people.
Unless your this guy.... I can see the problem.Marq said:
I don't.
I just suck at talking with pretty much anyone.
I have very little idea of how people work, you see.
I just suck at talking with pretty much anyone.
I have very little idea of how people work, you see.
If you like girls so much why don't you marry 'm?
Just leave us alone with our trustworthy games and boxsets.
Just leave us alone with our trustworthy games and boxsets.
