why do some peoplel insist you'll want children?

[Iron Mal]

WHY are people like this?

In my opinion, it is largely because you might possibly change your mind at some point (you never know).

My aunt used to be strongly against the notion of having kids (who would want to give up a happy and carefree lifestyle for a mewling, ever-hungry cabbage?) but now she happily has two of them.

People change their minds on lots of things throughout their lives, kids might be one of them (of course, they might also not. Again, everyone is different).

I think it's got more to do with 'keeping your options open' and 'being prepared in case you choose to' (or even accidentaly end up in that situation) than 'spreading misery' or 'because Da Man says so!'.

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

Because children are the future?

 

[Klepa]

Like some have said already. Some people (most people), whether they realize it or not, think life has a set purpose, and a path that everyone must follow. That path being basicly this:

Spoiler: The ol' trainspotting poster

Also, watch Yahtzees rant on console fanboys, and apply it to this. More truth in there than you'd want to admit.

 

[Pearwood]

Well you can't say you don't ever want children, you can say you don't want children right now but yeah I have no plans to have children either

 

[Twad]

I dont understand why people DONT want children, its just sad to just live for yourself, only to die alone.

I want kids.
WHen my older sister had her own, i wanted to have "my own" even more. Sure, the first few months are hell, and the "terrible two" are quite annoying, but its worth it.

Kids are the future guys and gals.

 

[Kurokami]

Have you ever come across someone who insists you'll want to have children in the future, even if you are currently dead set against it? Recently a nurse came to our home and somehow the discussion got to children (she has 4 and 2 jobs). I said there was NO WAY I wanted children (I've contemplated surgery, but it's too expensive) but she kept insisting I'd change my mind. She even said her sister was like me and now has 2 kids. She isn't the first person I've met with this mindset. WHY are people like this? Have you ever come across people like this? What do you usually say to them?

I myself dislike the idea, to be frank though I think its when you realize how useless your life has been and how much shit you've missed that you decide that you should make a mini-you to train to do what you've failed. Its also a way of satisfying your parents need for grand children. By the way that wasn't meant to be a criticism of your life, you may become president of the world for all I know, but I'm sure everyone has regrets.

There are already too many people in this wretched world. I don't see the appeal in bringing more people into it, to be honest.

Keen on the idea of adopting some kid when I'm done with my life and shaping him to be some efficient, deceptive little devil. That's only when I get bored though.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I assume it's due to some chemical reason. We've all heard the rumors of the 'internal clock' but that's something which is thought to effect women more so than men. I don't understand these people either though. I don't want kids: I'd much rather have disposable income...Also, there's a good chance that my child/children could be born Diabetic [or develop diabetes in their future] I'd rather not do that to a kid

 

[Kurokami]

I assume it's due to some chemical reason. We've all heard the rumors of the 'internal clock' but that's something which is thought to effect women more so than men. I don't understand these people either though. I don't want kids: I'd much rather have disposable income...Also, there's a good chance that my child/children could be born Diabetic [or develop diabetes in their future] I'd rather not do that to a kid

Diabetes isn't that huge an issue nowadays is it? I know there's no 'cure' (that I know of) but its definitely up there as far as manageable diseases go. Then again there are different types aren't there? In any case my point is don't let that hinder your temptation to have a kid, if you want one then chances are you're already a whole lot more qualified than most parents.

 

[Davrel]

Because children and reproduction (of one form or another) are the biological imperatives behind all life.

To assume you would want some is more reasonable than to assume otherwise (economic conditions etc notwithstanding).

 

[Irridium]

I don't want kids.
I would be a horrible parent.

I don't mind if other people have kids, but when people have kids "just because" or something stupid like that, that pisses me off to no end.

Kids are huge responsabilities. Something you have to think long and hard about. Most people just do it "just because" and its a horrible reason to have a kid.

 

[Valksy]

Because it is "normal" I suppose. I understand where you are coming from though, I have heard the same crap for some 15 years and people don't want to listen. I have no maternal instinct and while people seeing a baby in the shops or something tend to grin and smile a it, I am oblivious. I have got this far without ever having even held a baby and I am fine with that.

Oh, plus I have some defects that I don't want to pass on. Although in fairness if I was to have children it wouldn't be me bearing them.

 

[Sampler]

I had a similar conversation - unfortunately with my girlfriend of six years - she's given us a year to change my mind, that was october'ish time so looks like we have about six months left

 

[fletch_talon]

Because most people will eventually want children. Those who don't are the minority and are for lack of being able to think of a better word, aberrant.
Its genetically programmed into most organisms to reproduce. Assuming that you will eventually want to have kids is no different to assuming a man is attracted to women and vice versa. Yes exceptions exist, but in much smaller numbers, so for simplicity's sake we make assumptions.

That and the fact that people with children generally consider them to be an immense source of joy, hence they feel sorry for you for denying yourself what they consider a blessing. Its a lot like how Christian's feel sorry for those who havn't found God, how atheists feel sorry for those who don't think for themselves and how meat eaters feel about vegetarians... Keeping in mind that these examples are also based on stereotypes and therefore assumptions.

 

[Seven Bottles Of Gin On The Wall]

I have a massive dislike for children, I can get on with them and sit them infront of children's TV to keep them quiet and out of my face but I dislike them. I'm also asexual and wouldn't want to go through the process of having children in the first place.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Because the only thing worth living for is our Lord. And the Lord wants us to evangelize and bear fruit so that his word may be spread. We must keep our population of believers up. That and it's the purpose of life to grow up, get married, and have kids after sex in the missionary position while trying not to have lustful thoughts.

Or, from a purely biological standpoint, your job is to have kids to ensure not only the survival of our human race but the prevalence of your bloodline above theirs.

Or maybe they're just messing with you. Some people just don't understand and want everyone to have cookie cutter Brady Bunch lives.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Eh it's one of those things were we evolved to like kids so we don't just ignore and they die.

These biological mechanisms you speak of don't kick in before a child has been conceived, but after.

Hence, the yearning to have children have more to do with psychological aspects than purely biological ones.

Sure this world can be evil but that's up to people to fix it, and part of that is raising offspring to do that when your gone.

Sorry, but that's impossible. Everything people touch seem to turn to shit. The problem isn't that people "CAN" be the cause of evil in the world, evil is just the symptom of the disease itself. And the disease in question is mankind.

I'd rather see it exterminated. Mankind has had several thousands of years to better itself, yet it has failed utterly and repeatedly. Extermination is the only viable solution...

 

[Toaster Hunter]

They have children so they feel as though everyone should as well. Apparently this is to rationalize the misery that children inevitably cause. They have no sleep or money, so they feel jealous that you do.

Take a guess if I want children.

 

[Cody211282]

Eh it's one of those things were we evolved to like kids so we don't just ignore and they die.

These biological mechanisms you speak of don't kick in before a child has been conceived, but after.

Hence, the yearning to have children have more to do with psychological aspects than purely biological ones.

Sure this world can be evil but that's up to people to fix it, and part of that is raising offspring to do that when your gone.

Sorry, but that's impossible. Everything people touch seem to turn to shit. The problem isn't that people "CAN" be the cause of evil in the world, evil is just the symptom of the disease itself. And the disease in question is mankind.

I'd rather see it exterminated. Mankind has had several thousands of years to better itself, yet it has failed utterly and repeatedly. Extermination is the only viable solution...

If your so damn sure that humanity is so evil and doesn't deserve to be on this planet do you think the same about yourself? or are you special case? If your not does that mean in your eyes you deserve to die as well? And what gives you the right to judge if other innocent people deserve to live or die?

 

[MelziGurl]

I've known people who were against having children, then they do a complete 360 in the other direction. I believe there is a possibility that you could, but at this stage your set against it. There's always the possibility.