Why do we Have Fetishes?
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The topic question belies a lack of understanding of the process of evolution. Not all behaviors and even physical characteristics were evolved because they are the best things to ensure reproduction; it is rather the case that the combination of physical and psychological factors possessed by a species at large is the combination that has worked best over the past however many years. As such, there is not a "why" such things have occurred in various extant life forms; there is merely a "why" a trait continued through generations--that is to say, we can ask why things succeed and have been shown to be adaptive in the past, but we cannot ask why something exists as it does in the present. Well, not if we want an answer, anyway.
Dunno. I'm sure Freud would have a lot to say about it if he were here. But really, why do we like anything we like? Who says this has to be psychological? Maybe in some cases it is, but it might be that one likes what they like for the same reason they enjoy eating onions or whatever. Freud liked to talk about how everything mundane related to sex, what if everything sexual relates to the mundane?
But nurses are hot. And french maids. French is definitely the language I find the most attractive.
But nurses are hot. And french maids. French is definitely the language I find the most attractive.
I always assumed it had some connection to things such as exposure at a young age.
But that wouldn't really explain foot fetishes and such, would it?
I dunno. I'll have to research that, someday.
Also, I have no fetish whatsoever.
Not even vanilla ones, like breasts or ass.
Sex doesn't interest me in the slightest.
But that wouldn't really explain foot fetishes and such, would it?
I dunno. I'll have to research that, someday.
Also, I have no fetish whatsoever.
Not even vanilla ones, like breasts or ass.
Sex doesn't interest me in the slightest.
Society itself is the problem. The majority might share an opinion, and everything that falls outside that opinion is a fetish. In reality, if you were to count the number of people who were into many of the different fetishes out there, you'd end up with some pretty big numbers. It's not that fetishes are weird or different, it's just that society as a whole has a set-in-stone guide to what is normal, and everything that deviates from that in the slightest way is seen as... yeah, you get my point.
I only like sex when it's really rough, hooked up with a guy last night who whipped me with his belt after he took it off, made me start thinking about S&M stuff but I don't know if i could go that far. I love internet anonymity.
Rough sex fits my personality/view on sex/men/life in general though. That was weirdly worded.... but it just makes sense that I of anyone would like it.
Rough sex fits my personality/view on sex/men/life in general though. That was weirdly worded.... but it just makes sense that I of anyone would like it.
Personally... Kinks happen.
Freudian thinking is just whacked on the subject though. Like a lot of Freuds ideas it stems from a sexual desire for ones mother *Gasp*. Ok to be fair it isn't the incestuous desire for a mother, but the physical differences between mother and son. They are created the moment you see your mother naked and realise that her penis has been removed. At that moment you substitute something for 'mommys' castrated penis and fixate on that sexually for the rest of your life.
Now I could pick this mentality apart in my sleep, but hey if your looking for a psychological reason take your pick. That was the 'grandfather' of psychology there and it is messed up. Don't think any other 'expert' is going to give you a good answer....
Honestly even looking back at the person who made the term, and his explanation of a traumatic event in ones life creating a unnatural link between object and sexual pleasure is quite stupid. Knowing how wide varied kinks are I find it very, VERY, difficult in thinking all these things where created in a period of intense emotional duress. I won't go into details but there are a lot of kinks out there which a child having their first orgasm or seeing something shocking, both are examples of 'emotional duress,' could explain.
Hell one I have, and no I won't explain it, doesn't even involve things that exist within this reality let alone something I would of been exposed to during an emotional high!
The thing that bothers me the most is that there are 'doctors' that want to medicate all fetishes away so we are all boring arseholes who will enjoy nothing more then 'socially acceptable' vanilla sex. Hope you like the missionary position folks!
Freudian thinking is just whacked on the subject though. Like a lot of Freuds ideas it stems from a sexual desire for ones mother *Gasp*. Ok to be fair it isn't the incestuous desire for a mother, but the physical differences between mother and son. They are created the moment you see your mother naked and realise that her penis has been removed. At that moment you substitute something for 'mommys' castrated penis and fixate on that sexually for the rest of your life.
Now I could pick this mentality apart in my sleep, but hey if your looking for a psychological reason take your pick. That was the 'grandfather' of psychology there and it is messed up. Don't think any other 'expert' is going to give you a good answer....
Honestly even looking back at the person who made the term, and his explanation of a traumatic event in ones life creating a unnatural link between object and sexual pleasure is quite stupid. Knowing how wide varied kinks are I find it very, VERY, difficult in thinking all these things where created in a period of intense emotional duress. I won't go into details but there are a lot of kinks out there which a child having their first orgasm or seeing something shocking, both are examples of 'emotional duress,' could explain.
Hell one I have, and no I won't explain it, doesn't even involve things that exist within this reality let alone something I would of been exposed to during an emotional high!
The thing that bothers me the most is that there are 'doctors' that want to medicate all fetishes away so we are all boring arseholes who will enjoy nothing more then 'socially acceptable' vanilla sex. Hope you like the missionary position folks!
People develop sexual interests based around the environments they're in and their other interests.
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