Why not adopt?

[King of Asgaard]

I can't speak for the others here, but I don't think I could really for a child that's not genetically related to me.
A child that is the fruit of my own loins I would have a connection with, but someone else's child being under my care just doesn't sit well with me.

 

[Palademon]

I want to prove to people that someone wanted to personally make sure I accomplish my biological imperative.

I could adopt a child any time I wanted. I'd need to find a partner to have my own, and that seems like a bigger achievement.

I like to think gay people are fixing the problem.

 

[Wolfhowl the shadow lurker]

1st i'll need to find someone willing to hold hands, then move on from there

i think i would want my own child if i ever wanted one, not someone elses. a life i saw grow from the start and i would like to see bits of myself in them or the good parts anyway

 

[KiloFox]

i hate children and would never have one. ever.

BUT on the off chance i experience a brain aneurysm or something and end up wanting one of those smelly screamy meat-sacks i'd defiantly adopt. it's the only sensible thing.

oh and i'm gay, would kinda need to not be so to have one of my own so there's that. but assuming you can like. ass-baby in this hypothetical universe where i would WANT a kid, then i'd still adopt

 

[chadachada123]

While I'd agree that for many couples this would be the most "moral" choice (for lack of a better word)...

I have some pretty fantastic genes, and I consider it a net benefit to humanity for my genes to be passed on. If my genes were just a little bit worse, I would not use my own genes to help humanity as a whole.

That said, I haven't ruled out the possibility of adoption, if my wife is infertile or if I already have children of my own and would like to help humanity out some more by adopting.

 

[getoffmycloud]

If I were to ever have children, I would want my own. Blood is thicker than water, and all that.

Also, an adopted child would never truly feel like my child, no matter how much I would love him/her or he/she would love me. There would come that inevitable moment when my child goes searching for their real parents. Situations like that create a rift that will always be there.

I'm not against adoption, it's great that children without a home can be given one, but it's not for me.

Ofcourse I'll never have children since I can hardly take care of myself.

Adopted Kids don't always go looking for their birth parents. I am adopted and have had the ability to look for my parents for 3 years and I haven't even considered it. My sister is also adopted and she has had written contact with her biological Mother and Grandparents and despite them saying they want to meet her she has always declined and they have been asking for 6 years.

When you turn 18 you get information about your birth parents and sometimes like in my case it will say whether they wish contact with you or not and my birth mother did not and my birth father doesn't know I exist.

 

[loc978]

What kind of fucking question is that? Have we gotten to the point where the concept of wanting to have children of your own is alien to half the user base here?

In essence, yes. It's certainly an alien concept to me. I often have to remind myself that my brother had his kids on purpose, and it's not his wife's fault that stress-induced high blood pressure is probably quite literally killing him. It was his choice, but that doesn't make it any less damaging to him... or less painful to watch.

Our culture (here in the US) still sells us the ideal of the 1950s suburban family that never really existed. It's a pretty sick marketing ploy, in my opinion... so I choose not to be a part of it. If I had been raised in another culture, I might have wanted kids. If I ever wind up in some sort of long-term monogamous relationship and decide to raise some, I'll need to adopt... because I've already made the decision and gotten snipped.

 

[Easton Dark]

I'd prefer the kids in my family to be adopted. If my lady friend wanted the pregnancy I'd relent but if she was indifferent to how they came about, straight to adoption agencies I'd go.

"I just want my own kids" isn't a convincing answer to me from people. Some parents neglect and abuse their biological kids, and some adopted kids feel like they're truly one with their adoptive parents. It's about what you make of something, not where it came from.

 

[Risingblade]

Adoption is great for people who can't have children, much better than growing your kid in a test tube.

 

[Best of the 3]

Because I'd like to have my own kids? Really is that considered a bad thing now?

 

[bojackx]

I think it's mostly the biological attachment that makes you want your kids to be your own. If I have kids (I plan to in the future) I most likely won't adopt. Sure, it's sad that kids go through life without a real home, but I would never be able to shake the feeling that the child I am raising is just some kid I adopted, and not my own offspring.

It sounds quite selfish, and I don't have much justification beyond what I've said, but I just don't like the idea of adopting.

 

[JLML]

Matters not to me. One kid or the other, the only difference being genes. And seeing as my genes likely aren't the best around (people in my family have suffered/died from various stuff that passes down through generations) I guess adoption would be a decent idea. Then again, it's not that likely I'll ever get to the point where stuff like this gets seriously considered, at least partially because I avoid people like they have the plague.

Also, I consider the bonds you chose to make many times more important than the ones you're born with. So family and blood-ties aren't exactly important to me.

 

[Anget Colslaw]

Because, in general, humans are still animals whose basic biological instincts tell us to continue overpopulating the planet if it means passing on our genes

 

[CrazyGirl17]

Agreed, seeing as a) there are lots of kids without homes and b) aren't we kinda overpopulated already? ...Not that anyone would listen to me about that...

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I have a very powerful and probably primitive urge to spread my genes.

So I'd have my own kid first but I might adopt one more. Depends on what my future wife/partner would think of it.

 

[Overusedname]

I agree that we're overpopulated and there are so many kids...I've always planned on adopting.

Not to say the idea of taking care of my pregnant gal and seeing our kids birth isn't beautiful. I certainly get the appeal.

 

[Hagi]

By that time I would probably consider adopting.

I would also probably not do it.

My late uncle adopted all his children and whilst I'm unaware of the specifics I've been told there's a lot of loops to jump through, papers to fill out, money to pay and much more.

I don't know if, by that time, I will make enough money to be considered suitable to support an adopted child.

I don't know if, having AS, I will not be disqualified from the adoption process.

I don't know if, when me and whatever partner I may end up with decide it's time for children, the process of months of procedures with an uncertain outcome will be considered worth it when there's a very attractive and, besides the birth-giving, much easier alternative available.

 

[Auron]

What kind of fucking question is that? Have we gotten to the point where the concept of wanting to have children of your own is alien to half the user base here?

What he said. Besides, kids that lack attention and care in their formative years usually get pretty fucked up one way or another, due to lack of behavioral reference and attention. A newborn would be an acceptable option but I'd rather just keep my family alive.

 

[DragonStorm247]

I'm adopted, but I'd rather have my own kids be genetically related to me. Part of it might be just that I've never known anyone I've shared DNA with. I also think I have good genes worthy of being passed on, so there's that, too.

 

[EmperorSubcutaneous]

After being bullied by former partners through my teens and early twenties, I used to think I wanted kids. But after finally being able to get a hold on my own life and what I want, I have realized that I don't want kids. Not right now and not "someday." However, I recognize that I might change my mind in the future, when my biological clock starts ticking or whatever.

For some reason, though, the idea of adoption sounds better to me than having my own children. Maybe it's because I don't want to put my body through that hell, and maybe it's because I don't want to add more kids to the world when there are already so many out there that I could help. Also, my genes are pretty shitty--I don't want my kids to be forced to deal with my bad allergies, mild asthma, terrible eyesight, and genetic predisposition toward a number of unpleasant things.

If I'm pushing 40 and still not feeling that biological clock, I probably will adopt. (Or at least try, ugh. My depression would probably make me an unlikely candidate.)